BDSM forums: one, two, three, four, five, I”m off to find them!
It”s understandable to want to explore the mysterious world of BDSM, even if only briefly, and learn how it all really works. One of the easiest and most immediate ways is to find and read relevant BDSM forums online. Where do I start, what should I do, and how should I generally behave?
- Answer your questions honestly: Who am I?
- How do I initiate communication?
- Can I find useful information on a BDSM forum?
- Why do I need a BDSM forum?
- Is there a chance to meet serious people on a BDSM forum?
- Large gatherings—orgies or cultural events?
First, decide whether you”ll be socializing or just watching. There are no tips or rules for those “just watching.” Register and read. For those trying to socialize and participate in the forum, I”ll briefly explain some of the rules and norms of behavior; don”t get carried away.
Honestly answer this question: Who am I?
On all forums, when registering, in addition to your name, you must also indicate your positioning. If you don”t belong to this subculture, let”s say you still have to write something. Don”t lie indiscriminately.
The point is that whatever you choose, it will dictate certain rules and principles of behavior that you should know in advance to avoid awkward situations, especially if you enjoy socializing.
So, who”s who on the forum and in the BDSM community? In general, BDSM is an acronym for bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. Forum members are considered in this order.
Bondage — Restraint. This refers to tying up, but in this context, it refers to the submissive, submissive, or simply SAB. The most extreme, severe degree is slave. People who identify themselves as belonging to this group are characterized by a desire to submit to another. Note: no one!
Those related to more or less close relationships. This doesn”t mean everyone on the forum can expect “you” to obey and try to boss them around! Believe me, while people at Real Madrid are often low-sex, they”re very strong, sometimes gesticulate, and can be very successful in their careers. This is a constant reward for people who take responsibility for their lives. It”s not always the case, but it”s very likely, and they shouldn”t be denied it.
Dominance speaks for itself. Ruler, house, upper, often — master or lord. This is a change in the employee”s ego. People who submit and at the same time satisfy their needs for dominance. Thus, these are people who want to manage and control others. This can be an unnoticed team partner in meetings.
However, even at a distance, they can completely control the situation if the submissives ask permission for any of the actions. The most important thing is not to respect him as a tyrant who starts issuing commands from the first phrase and, without thinking about the consequences, begins issuing commands, demanding that certain actions be performed by those below him.
They quickly acquire the name “aspodin”, and one cannot expect a good attitude from them. The most common joke about them is NKSS. This is such a “greeting” that for some reason “Get on your knees, bitch, suck!” which is very typical. Overall, this is a diagnosis, not a treatment, and has little to do with actual BDSM. It’s better not to communicate with them, it’s not interesting and they’ll soon get bored.
Sadism, again, is self-explanatory. Sadists are people who enjoy inflicting pain and suffering on others. The difference from the generally accepted meaning of this term is that it allows the victim to be tortured voluntarily, which will be discussed in more detail below. Sadists do not just grab the first object that comes to hand and begin to pursue the masochist.
There is a lot of aesthetics and beauty in the behavior of a sadist. This part of BDSM is the most spectacular and exciting. Whips, whips, handcuffs, ropes — all these are tools of sadists. The main distinguishing feature of these people is their willingness to take responsibility for their actions and a full understanding of the impact and extent of their responsibility.
Experienced sadists know how to respond to certain possible consequences of their actions. This is partly a doctor, partly a psychologist. He understands very clearly what he is doing, why he is doing it and what the possible consequences are. Influence preferences can be very different. Taste and color — each device is different.
Masochism. It”s very simple. This is a person who enjoys pain. More precisely, they not only overcome themselves but also suffer less. There are many nuances, but the one common desire is to experience pain. Again, this doesn”t mean that everyone can afford to take action against masochists. They have hands too, and the consequences of some actions can be brutal. First, they”ll ask permission, and then they”ll start making fun of you.
It”s also worth knowing that relationships are often a mixture of all types of BDSM, and it all depends on people”s preferences. Sadists tend to be dominant, and masochists tend to be submissive. However, this isn”t a set theory. For some people, BDSM relationships are inseparable from sex, while for others, it”s the only factor that matters, and there”s no sex between the partners. There are over 50 shades of BDSM.
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How to start a conversation?
Of course, you don”t need to teach anyone the principles of forum communication. Let”s focus on a few specifics.
As strange as it may seem, you should always begin a conversation with “you,” regardless of your interlocutor”s position. Addressing a stranger, even if you know they”re a well-known slave, is impolite, to say the least. Offer to call them “you,” if they feel it”s appropriate.
Of course, we address tops and sadists informally, but there are nuances. Some insist on calling them “sir,” but this isn”t necessary. This is how their submissive calls them as a dominant. For others, it”s perfectly normal to call people by their nicknames.
As a rule, regardless of status, people who have been seriously involved in the BDSM community for a long time are open to communication and treat newcomers with great sympathy and, so to speak, awe. This certainly applies to those who are serious about joining this world. Bystanders who try to join the conversation with inappropriate comments are not welcome anywhere. Think carefully before you interject.
Can you glean useful information from a BDSM forum?
Definitely. I must admit, since the BDSM trend first emerged, so many random people have appeared on the forum that it”s sometimes unclear whether any of them are actual practitioners or just virtual curious ones.
Of course, at first it is difficult to understand who is who. It can be very interesting to read how certain arguments are played out by experienced people who clearly “know” that they are speaking only from books, films and fantasies.
It is very difficult for an untrained eye to judge what is true and what is fiction, but it is possible. Anything that goes beyond common sense is usually a lie. If a person states something too definitively, especially on a sensitive issue, he is most likely lying. If someone too young talks about their wonderful experiences, they are most likely a dreamer.
Knowledgeable people rarely make affirmative statements about anything. Also, since there are so many shades of BDSM, there will always be people who practice something differently than others.
Why do we need BDSM forums?
After all, if you”re interested, you need somewhere to put your information. The Internet and BDSM forums are an ideal way to access this community without risk or commitment. If your goal is simply to satisfy your curiosity, a forum is the perfect place to do it. Of course, there will be more lazy passers-by, but everyone is already used to it.
If the goal is to at least try to understand something close to the topic, or because it has vague or obvious appeal, the forum provides an opportunity to do so. The main thing is not to plunge headlong into the pool immediately after registration. In other places and in other situations you need to attack quickly. Even if it seems like they have finally found a place where they understand you. Let them go through the first ascension. Read, analyze, think.
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This is especially cruel if the forum happens to be a place where you feel in your element. If you don”t fall in love with the first person you start a conversation with, you”ll probably become very attached to them. If this person is virtual and has a desire to practice BDSM in real life, it is very painful and difficult to feel deceived and trust someone else again.
It”s very simple when the forum and society make a negative and repulsive impression. Close this page.
Is there a chance to meet someone serious on a BDSM forum?
Of course there is! But, as with everything related to the world of BDSM, caution, caution, and more caution are required.
Of course, the people on these forums are very bright and exciting. The idiosyncrasy of communication and the topics themselves are such that they quickly become addictive. This is very interesting, no joke. Therefore, it is quite possible that people without normal desires are looking for gullible victims. Unfortunately, this is reality.
What should you be wary of? If a person refuses to meet in a public place. Any serious person, be it a dominant or a sadist, fully understands and accepts all the fears of a potential partner. In addition, inexperienced people, masochists or subs who are ready to plunge headlong into the search for new sensations are at their best, gradually becoming familiar with all the intricacies of BDSM and not going to extremes.
The core principles of BDSM—safe, reasonable, and voluntary (BRD)—encourage you to think twice about the consequences of every action. BRD is accepted as a key assumption in the reasoning. Behind him lies the bitter experience of his predecessors with regard to serious rules.
Those who, in their words, “prefer the most severe and extreme practices,” but are young or offer to quickly achieve business, should be wary. Perhaps some people practice really serious things, but God protects the forbidden person. It”s better to leave, especially for the first time.
Everything is clear at the first meeting, but what next? Then you should go only if the person is calm and pleasant to communicate with, if the person does not cause any unpleasant sensations. Sadists and dominants are often very attractive people!
Well, continuity is a completely different story!
Mass gatherings — orgies or cultural events?
BDSM forums are usually posted on community posters. The questions are very logical. Is it worth walking? To answer this question, it is enough to attend one or two meetings and figure it out for yourself.
The more people scheduled, the safer the event is for those who don”t know anyone. The larger the city, the more often something happens in it. Conferences, tea parties, just parties, even training seminars — the various options for communication are very wide. To start, choose something calmer so you can see people and be more confident.
If you spend a lot of time on forums, you probably have people who have built their trust through discussions rather than personal conversations. If one of them participates in a particular event, this serves as a certain sign of quality and a soft additional factor.
Usually everything is well organized and order is strictly observed. After all, at the same time, there are many rulers, that is, people who are used to being in charge and controlling everything!
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