Rules for a good spanking: how to spank your partner without hurting him
BDSM is a great pastime for all lovers of kinky sex. With it, you can brighten up a boring intimate life, bring more sensual sensations to physical intimacy and discover a whole range of unprecedented pleasures of varying depths. Not to mention the huge amount of physical stimulation available only to BDSM fans.
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But how can we ensure that intimacy brings only pleasure and at the same time is absolutely safe? Today we will talk about how to whip your partner erotically and at the same time without negative consequences.
What is safe spanking?
Whiplash is a very dangerous action. First of all, it is worth mentioning psychological risks. It takes a lot of courage for a submissive to allow the dominant to whip him in certain places. Spanking also involves trust between partners. In other words, the submissive assumes that the dominant will not cause him physical harm or damage. Another aspect of spanking is that the submissive enters a special mental state called “subspace.” It is important that the dominant person monitors how the subordinate feels and pays attention to his experiences. If he stops enjoying the process, the session should be interrupted.
Tool selection
What exactly do you use to slap your partner? There are many items available that are designed for this purpose. One of the simplest is the hand. When moving on to other tools, you can use a paddle or a whip. It is important to remember that the material from which the item is made is very important. It determines the sensation in combination with the force of the impact. Remember that in most cases it is the small, controlled sensation of pain that is arousing, and not the spanking process itself.
Details of the situation
The next step requires taking into account a number of different details. Think about the partner you are about to spank. Is he comfortable? Can he give the stop signal in time? How does he breathe? If he uses a collar or gag, be especially careful. If your partner has sweat on his forehead or his face suddenly turns blue, you must immediately remove the accessory and stop the session.
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Safe positions for spanking. Sitting position
If you are in a dominant spanking position, assume a sitting position. Choose a place where the submissive can comfortably keep both feet on the floor. This allows the submissive”s weight to be evenly distributed and placed on his or her lap. Both the spanker and the submitter must first ensure that their knees are not resting against their ribs and that the position does not cause discomfort or difficulty breathing (note that spankers will typically hold their breath). It usually takes a little practice for both partners to get used to and feel comfortable in this position.
On the bed
A large, comfortable bed is always safe and comfortable. The space in the mattress provides support for the person being spanked, whether on all fours or in a prone position. The bed also allows you to more fully utilize various BDSM techniques. For example, many people prefer to handcuff the “bottom” to the bed in front of them.
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In the kitchen
Furniture and kitchen interior items often attract their partners. However, in the heat of passion, placing it on the kitchen counter or dining table can cause you to trip over the sharp edges and get injured. Therefore, special care should be taken when it comes to sex on tables, bar counters or other furnishings.
Using specialized furniture
Yes, there are special BDSM furniture designed only for the treatment of whiplash injuries. Often expensive, this option is a good BDSM investment. For most people, it is not very convenient to store themed furniture in an apartment or house. However, if you have a home or basement large enough for a fetish club, you should definitely equip it with professional items.
Additional safety recommendations
Using safe language during whipping is one of the most important things for both submissives and dominants. Choose special words that you don”t need to say during sex. This can be absolutely any phrase. However, words such as “no” or “stop” are definitely not appropriate as they can be misinterpreted. Many people use an alarm system. The word “green” means “yellow” means the opportunity to slow down, “red” means the opportunity to stop.
When using gags during whiplash, you should choose different forms of stop signals that are not associated with speech. For example, you can preset a specific gesture. As an alternative, you can install a bell nearby, by which you can call a subordinate.
