A year later: what a mature relationship becomes
You met the girl of your dreams, moreover, you got to know her and started a serious relationship. It’s no secret that relationships go through several stages throughout the year. Each of them has certain characteristics. So what is the first year of a relationship and what do they become after it?
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Candy and bouquet period
If we consider the first year of a relationship (note that we are talking about both living together and regularly dating), then, perhaps, the Candy Bunch period, as it is also called, is the most enjoyable.
Partners are attracted to each other, and they absolutely do not notice each other’s shortcomings (unfortunately, this also happens when it matters). You give her flowers, go for walks, to the cinema, to restaurants together. At the same time, the fact that you fall asleep and wake up together gives additional attractiveness. And at this moment it is very important and brings incredible pleasure to both of you. It’s like in the famous song “How wonderful it is to fall asleep together, and even more wonderful to wake up.” There is no need to count down the minutes until someone is supposed to come to your home.
The couples are absolutely all alike. At this moment, many people say the following words. The most interesting thing is that at the moment even the snoring of your loved one does not bother you at all (I can’t say about the next time, when it is not only noticeable, but also prevents your partner from sleeping).
The beginning of difficulties
The first difficulties of such a very young family life begin when two months have already passed since the couple began to live together. She begins to notice socks scattered around the apartment, unwanted circles, and again forgets the trash can “on the street during a trip to town.”
At the same time, she begins to notice too-sweet coffee, overlapping scrambled eggs, wrinkled laundry, and prematurely washed shirts. This period is very dangerous in the first years of marriage. Later, having lived together for a longer period of time, partners can comment on each other in a more playful manner (not even make comments, but simply correct “shortcomings” on their own).
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However, in the first few months of the relationship, there is a danger that the couple will begin to make trouble, arguing over the most ordinary everyday issues. Unfortunately, many couples separate during this period, unable to launch the boat.
Only those who love, appreciate and respect their soul mate and are ready to correct some of their shortcomings for the sake of her beloved (his beloved) are exhibited here. Reciprocity is very important here. The whole secret is to iron and wash it on time, if it starts to cook deliciously, at that moment it will not change at all and will continue to decorate the parquet floor of the apartment, which is littered with checkerboard patterns in a dirty state. Socks – nothing changes and sooner or later the constant Scandal leads to a complete break in the relationship.
If love combined with mutual respect can prevail, the couple’s relationship moves into the next, more stable phase.
Tricks of family life
How can you tell if you are in a mature relationship?
Yes, strange as it may seem, the third and final stage of family life can safely be called such. In addition to the fact that both partners, out of a sense of mutual respect, have already learned not to “rub salt in the wound” of each other, they also received the skills of UNITY. What are we talking about? Everything is very simple, he understands perfectly what it’s like (and vice versa) and when you can “cheat” a little – not preparing dinner, not making the bed, not taking out the trash can on time.
At the same time, there is no longer any dispute, much less scandal. On the contrary, if dinner is not prepared, the couple can completely “remember the past” and go to dinner at the nearest restaurant. At this stage, there are practically no mutual accusations and the relationship is stable.
A year later
Thus, they were together during the first years of their lives. The couple’s relationship is already very stable. He and she are already accustomed to each other’s habits, know their little shortcomings and are not nervous about their partners. Once the first year of marriage has been completed, the family is considered together forever.
If both are already completely accustomed to each other, why change anything and look for a new partner? They are united by love and mutual respect, and living together for a year serves as a serious support for their relationship.
However, many people can stay in a relationship during this first year – but only if they are ready for change. To be honest, not everyone has them. To increase the likelihood of a successful family life, do not rush to quickly start living together. The chances of success are much higher for this couple, who can date for a long time, cross their fingers, and get to know each other better before starting life in general.
