Female sexuality: something we were embarrassed to talk about until today
It”s hard to argue with the fact that female sexuality has many myths and misconceptions. Girls are mainly brought up within a clear framework, where everything related to intimate relationships is classified as taboo. Attempts to help children learn more about the process of birth or conception come down to simple excuses like “they brought it,” “found it in the cabbage,” or “bought it at the store.”
Contents of the article:
- Culture determines everything
- Desire and desire are incompatible concepts
- Low libido is not a sentence, but the norm
- Passion-forever-eternal
- There is still sex in marriage!
- Moms in adult films are different from real moms
- Ups and downs
- “Pink Viagra”
- Freedom to explore sexuality
- Bring back its former greatness
Many women who grew up without the Internet or at least some kind of sex education are still unaware of the hidden face of their sensuality.
Expressions of women”s sexual desire and general impressions of sexuality are often absorbed by men into pornography, where they are depicted as exaggerated and unrealistic. This leads to the formation of false expectations both from coitus and from women’s response to intimate behavior in general.
Many representatives of the fairer sex, hearing criticism in their speeches caused by legitimate hopes, cannot defend themselves from it.
Afraid of losing their partner, they feign orgasm and experience short-term moral satisfaction caused by the couple”s approval, rather than real physical satisfaction, which only strengthens the union.
Of course, the statistics on this indicator are very different for heterosexual and homosexual couples, which leads to a logical conclusion. Women are much more relaxed in relationships with members of their own sex and know what they want in bed.
There are no axioms in life. There are a few exceptions everywhere, but the following facts may change the attitude of those who were not even aware of them
Culture determines everything
Opinions about female sexuality have changed over time. Perhaps it has changed too radically. In the Middle Ages, people did not believe that women should enjoy sexual relations. Open their eyes for female orgasm.
Every year, trends and “research” alternately confirm or refute the same facts about eruptions, vaginal and anal orgasms.
These or other sexual deviances are gradually becoming the norm as the concept of deviance is being eroded with consistent research on the subject. Only one is definitely known. Each woman is an individual and needs her own approach, and stereotypes imposed by society and the media must be ignored with special zeal.
Desire and desire are incompatible concepts
The same culture and images often used in the media have a negative impact on the self-esteem of the average woman. The fair sex is left with expectations that have nothing to do with real sexuality, and women strive to meet them. Otherwise, the consequences of criticism and rejection will be too destructive for them. We don”t want to be black sheep, but girls and women all over the world want to be desired, and we spend huge amounts of money on the beauty industry.
They spend more time in front of the mirror than searching for their pleasure and ways to achieve it. They don”t really pay attention to their pleasure in bed. This, of course, is much more important than someone else”s approval. The decrease in sexual desire is concentrated on the visual pleasure of the partner, depends on how well the woman is prepared for the process of sexual intercourse, and forgetting the physiological is a logical consequence of this process.
It has also been proven that the more often a person uploads photos on social networks that depict sensitive or intimate areas, the less satisfied he is with his sex life. Universal admiration is sublimation, which does not solve the problem of female closeness and embarrassment.
Low libido is not a sentence, but the norm
In society, if a woman has a low sex drive, it usually means that she is not only a bad lover, but also “extremely cold.” All women are afraid of receiving such a stigma (along with the title “log” in bed). They often do not want it, but often resort to initiating sex, even recognizing it as a need in a relationship.
In fact, low sexual desire is the absolute norm. This is due to the fact that it is determined by certain social frameworks and statements of “experts” directly related to pharmaceutical companies, and therefore hormonal balance and physical health.
It is also completely normal for monogamous relationships to have low sexual activity and not want your partner every minute of your life. If love pleasures are not varied, but too frequent, then soon the couple will get bored and they will want less. Female sexuality very much depends on the psycho-emotional state, so without novelty or sufficient foreplay effects there will not be much excitement. Knowledge and understanding of this situation ensures the establishment of normal, healthy relationships.
Passion-forever-eternal
Many people have unrealistic ideas about relationships. Someone believes that his other half will always support him, someone is sure that it is impossible to get bored with his spouse, and someone sincerely believes that in a monogamous marriage he will always experience burning passion — for the first time.
For some couples this is true, but for most couples it is almost impossible to achieve. Loving the same person for many years is wonderful, but if his physical desires gradually fade away, this is normal.
Nobody looks forward to watching “The Blue Screen” because the film is studied inside and out when “Twist of Fate” is shown on television every year. It”s all too familiar, but it doesn”t ignite the fire as much as something dear, new and unknown in the chest. Thus, the problem of reduced libido in this case is solved by experiments in bed and the revival of spiritual intimacy. And a woman who cannot achieve orgasm during sex may lose interest in it altogether.
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There is still sex in marriage!
. It does not occur as often as others are accustomed to believe. There is even another concept, “asexual marriage.” In this concept, the couple pays attention to each other from several to ten times a year. Whether this is the norm or not is difficult to determine, but those who do it should be proud! They coexist with each other every day, share sorrows and joys, and they have gone through the experience of loving each other so much that they can even have a level of intimacy similar to sex.
Life often quickly wears down a couple”s emotions. The magical aura of this behavior gradually fades because they no longer see their partner in romantic, but rather in “economic” terms. Couples who manage to find balance and maintain sex in difficult relationships become role models worthy of admiration and emulation.
Moms in adult films differ from real-life moms.
After giving birth, women experience several physiological and psychological changes. Lengthy postpartum recovery is accompanied by intense pain during healing, hormonal surges, depression, and new responsibilities that suddenly fall off their shoulders, which can completely destroy a woman”s desire for sex.
Her previous attachments now have serious competition in the form of children, who require a lot of attention and psychological input. This way, a woman, new or not, won”t be overly tired and torn between the dual images of a deadly lover and a caring mother. At the same time, the age of the child does not affect the decline in sexual desire. From a psychological perspective, their presence discourages the desire to spend time on this process.
Sharing family responsibilities improves the situation in this regard. Not only does the woman have fewer responsibilities, but her position also becomes more closely aligned with the man”s. All this leads to mutual understanding and further intimacy.
Ups and downs
A woman”s sexual activity and her desire for a relationship with a partner can decline over the years due to physiological factors related to changes in the body, hormonal levels, or illness, as well as psychological factors.
However, this doesn”t mean that this decline only happens once. Peaks in sexual and psycho-emotional activity occur quite frequently and are associated not only with a woman”s self-esteem, but also with consistency in her life, maturity, and overall satisfaction with her situation.
What makes a woman sexy / Anna Iotko // We need to talk
“Pink Viagra”
Scientists have conducted a lot of research in the field of female sexuality in order to find an ideal and universal formula for a female drug to increase sexual desire. It became known some time ago that additional drug stimulation can help the fair sex experience more exciting moments. Sex shops are full of poppers, warm lubricant gels, massage oils and diluted aphrodisiacs, but the effectiveness of all these products largely depends on the individual characteristics of the woman.
In fact, the principle of their action is aimed at improving and increasing blood flow to the genitals, brain biochemistry and hormone function. It is unclear when the generic drug will be released. These prototypes offered by scientists are not safe enough for use or have a narrow spectrum of action and capture few women in the sample.
Freedom to explore sexuality
No culture in the world encourages interest in female genitalia. The progress achieved by society occurred in the second half of the 20th century, and now society is gradually ready to give the fairer sex a chance to finally be happy in bed.
Therefore, without objective scientific data and the results of mass research, which do not end with simple public opinion polls, there is nothing to talk about the concept of “norm”.
Scientists have not yet come to a conclusion about what is good for women, but have created many labels for what is immediately bad, such as sexual dysfunction, hypolibidemia and various disorders. The list is endless.
But are all these “diseases” really serious deviations from the norm? If experts cannot agree on a woman”s sexual response or peak performance, then they cannot be expected to answer all questions about sexual desire in general.
Instead of trying to create labels like brands for women, we can try to understand what “normal” is. By bringing the illness back to meaning, women can feel secure in their self-esteem, which can certainly encourage experimentation and increase interest in sex. Furthermore, comparing one person”s sexuality to a general indicator may not lead to logical consequences. Since each journey is individual, this approach is not always justified.
Bring back its former greatness
If a woman becomes interested in sex again, nothing will stop her from radically exploring this process. Most of the mistakes of those who do not know how to receive and give pleasure are due to a lack of basic physiological knowledge of anatomy and biochemistry.
Women should begin with literature that will help them analyze and understand their current state. By attending various courses and learning techniques, exercises, and gymnastics, women can once again understand that sex is a source of pleasure, not a burdensome chore.
Would you like to close the gap between you as a couple and regain your interest in each other? This is an excellent option, suitable for those who spend too much time together. The key here is mutual trust. Otherwise, partners will feel that being apart means they”re losing the quality of their relationship. And instead of mutual benefits for each other”s lives, they only experience problems.
Too much adrenaline completely kills all positive emotions and activates the body”s fight-or-flight reflex, but in moderation, it has a beneficial effect on sexual desire. This approach appeals to couples who want to have sex in public places or outdoors. The main thing is to remember your safety, and your body and emotions will play a role.
A busy lifestyle, full of stress and anxiety, doesn”t reduce sexual desire compared to other factors. A woman isn”t sensual when her head is filled with problems. She has to sacrifice her sex life because she can”t escape reality through a relationship. However, sensitive conversations between two people who love each other, their desires, games, changes in their development, the use of sex shop products, and a responsible approach to expanding their boundaries, bring them back to sex. The life of married couples.
Female sexuality is a very complex concept. Many jokes that are equal to orgasm, which are equal to defusing bombs at full gallop in the darkness of patching up a girl, are not such. However, such difficulties arose only in those couples where women did not want to talk about their desires, and men did not even want to ask them. But beautiful floors don”t have to be afraid of their own needs. The superficiality of many people sooner or later begins to bore and irritate, but soon a confidently started relationship finds itself. Give everyone many wonderful orgasms and complete satisfaction!
Female sexuality: where to start?
