Is there intimacy between a man and a woman other than in bed?
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In Soviet literature, the term “intimate relations between the sexes” referred to sex. Today this euphemism is outdated. It can only be found in investigative reports and various official documents. Also among amateur graphomaniacs who do not feel that oral speech has changed. Psychologists often talk about emotional intimacy rather than sex. If we are so different, does this even happen?
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Mars, Venus and the difference between men and women
Now it is fashionable to write that men and women come from different planets. If you look at social media, there are a lot of stereotypes that immediately explain what is typical for men and what is typical for women.
Therefore, intimacy between men and women outside of the bedroom context is a strange phenomenon. Gender stereotypes dictate to us that
- This is the only way men think about sex, and if they are rejected for any reason out of a desire to remain virgins until the wrong day in their cycle, they can become very offended and lose interest completely.
- On the contrary, women are not interested in sex, giving way to long conversations, emotional attachment and other complex and inexplicable things.
- Intimacy is like sex — it”s such a currency that women are willing to buy a little communication for it. Men are a little more confident. Thus, the former often discuss sex with their girlfriends, and the latter — with their friends.
- Both are offended if their partner does not meet their expectations in some way.
- Everyone is ready to manipulate. Some people pay for sex by having men in their lives as potential “problem solvers,” while others fake emotional attachment only to quickly move on to bed sex.
In fact, the motives may be different, but the motivations are the same. People try to ensure safety and socialization. This is what psychologists say about intimate relationships.
Closeness in literal, figurative and every sense
Should women be friends? Should couples have common interests? Experience refutes both. Some couples do not share common interests at all. Spouses play different sports, have completely different jobs and interests. And the wife doesn’t like her husband’s circle of friends, and vice versa. This is irrational, but such couples can be very harmonious in bed and in life. The problem is that both partners have similar values. For example, do not interfere in other people”s affairs and do not mind your own affairs.
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Couples who have just started dating are usually affected by hormones. Crazy passion, people rarely leave each other and can make love.
Many people are not “friends” with their wives in the traditional sense and do not involve them in work matters. Not all women are willing to share with their husbands. As long as two people are happy, all of these options are absolutely normal.
Proximity is varied
You can often come across the opinion that intimacy is marital sex for love. But it”s better to “experiment with things” outside of relationships. Parallelism is possible. Approximately for this motive, people acquire lovers and mistresses in pairs. Yes, it satisfies the natural thirst for adventure and adventure and “strokes” the ego. Therefore, it is very easy to lose a relationship when the topic of cheating comes up. However, some argue that it is easier to find someone close to you than to “talk” your partner into something new.
Sex without love and vice versa
Satya • physical intimacy is different for men and women
Today it’s somehow awkward to mention this love. We replaced it with the word “relationship” and placed it in our hearts along with many other old-fashioned concepts. Relationships are not an emotion, but a partnership in every sense of the word. People approach each other, go through life together, stop and go their separate ways.
In our culture, sex without love is perfectly acceptable. However, it is not new. Consider, for example, arranged marriages, common in various cultures, and various forms of mutually beneficial relationships based on sexual motives.
However, there is evidence that love and sex need to be combined.
- People living in harmonious relationships live longer.
- Such people better control their stress levels and avoid overload.
- They are more likely to achieve greater job and life satisfaction.
- They are highly motivated for personal development and personal growth.
- They support better emotional and mental health.
- They are less likely to suffer from depression and mental illness;
- They subjectively assess their state as “happy.”
Therefore, we have not invented anything new regarding intimate life. However, when it comes to friendship, most believe that heterosexual friends are not fulfilled lovers. What about intimacy in marriage and relationships? Many people don”t see this as an opportunity to say what they want to say to their spouse. Some associate it with caring for a partner in the broadest sense, including emotions.
Our contemporaries are not inclined to reduce intimacy to sex. Similarity of preferences in this helps to build harmonious relationships, but is not the only condition for intimacy. For many people, emotional and psychological connections are important.
|| Emotional connection — what is it and why is it needed || Yana Kataeva 18+.
