Marry a foreigner: why our girls want to go abroad
Well, where not. A painfully familiar phrase from childhood very accurately describes the desire of many Russian women to leave their homeland and marry a foreigner. You don”t have to look far for confirmation. Open the Yandex query statistics and type the key phrase “marry a foreigner,” and you will see that thousands of girls every month are looking for sites, information and articles that will help them meet foreigners and start a family.
Contents of the article:
- Historical background
- Why do Russian women want to marry a foreigner?
- Foreign husband: who is he and what do they eat him with?
- Unbridled sexuality or a typical Italian
- Sophisticated Frenchman or wants too much
- English Sir: good manners, arrogance or stiffness?
- German, Austrian, Swiss
- East and West
- Advantages of marrying a foreigner
- Possible consequences of marrying a foreigner
- Where to meet a foreigner?
- Precautions or how not to become a slave
- Why do foreigners look for Russian wives?
Historical background
The tradition of marrying daughters abroad dates back to royal and dynastic times. To maintain peace, monarchs entered into such marriages and sent their children to foreign countries.
Let”s look at our history. The wise Prince Yaroslav gave his daughter Anna to the French monarch Henry, and Elizabeth to the Norwegian prince. Ivan the Terrible married his cousin to a descendant and representative of the Tatar Khanate. Anna, daughter of Peter the Great, married the German Duke Friedrich Charles. The beautiful daughter of Emperor Paul, known for her beauty, seriousness and tall stature, married the heir to the Dutch throne. By the way, Napoleon himself courted her.
Russian beauties got married and left for different countries to support their husbands and help run the state. Apparently, since time immemorial, our girls have attracted and won the hearts of foreign husbands not only with their pedigree, but also with their sophistication, charm and intelligence.
Why do Russian women want to marry a foreigner?
Today, things are a little different. And thank God for that! Forced to marry abroad, parents no longer send their daughters away. Now, women themselves dream of finding happiness with men from other countries. Why do today”s girls and even women prefer men from Italy, France, the USA, Germany, and all over Europe to their compatriots?
With the lifting of the Iron Curtain and the collapse of the Soviet Union, a new era began in Russian life. Everything that seemed impossible just a few decades ago has become commonplace and accessible. Want to vacation abroad? No problem. Want to live and work in another country? Start learning the language.
Governments no longer erect barriers to such travel. You don”t have to hide from anyone. Everything is accessible and legal. An entire era has changed. Old views and customs have been replaced by new ones, and thinking has evolved.
After many years of prohibitions, perhaps subconsciously, I want to try to see that better life. Full immersion and the feeling of being a full-fledged foreign resident, not just a tourist, is precisely what helps the dear foreign husband. It”s as if they”re introducing their Russian wives not only to their families, but also to their country.
And women simply want to be loved. And we imagine them to be loving, attentive, rich, and, what”s more, always holding this “foreign” prince in their arms.
Foreign husband: who is he and what do they eat him with?
A man from another country is like a man from another planet. He has a completely different mindset, an attitude toward life and women. Sometimes women are overly idealistic about their chosen future and paint a picture of a bittersweet future. Don”t panic! Fairy tales still happen.
But imagine this desired image, the image of a foreign husband. And there we were, flying with our eyes closed!
Unbridled sexuality or a typical Italian
Let”s start with the hot and enthusiastic Italian. And not just his sexuality, but also his resemblance to Russian men. Yes, yes! You heard right. Many women who communicate with and even have relationships with Italians demonstrate precisely this. Italians, like Russians, are distinguished by their cheerful, free nature, openness, and love of romance. Don”t say that Russians have nothing in common with romance. Believe me, they do. The love of a Russian can move mountains, as can careful courtship. But only love or infatuation.
The Italian representative of the stronger sex does the same: he will take you to a restaurant, give you flowers and say so many compliments that the ground will definitely disappear from under his feet. And his temperament, his fiery fire and readiness, and most importantly, his ability to give women sexual pleasure, will melt any ice. Trust me, just falling asleep doesn”t work for him!
Sophisticated Frenchman or wants too much
It”s like breathing. Let”s talk about France and the capital of love — Paris. The wonderful work of Alexandre Dumas “The Musketeers” won more than one girl”s heart. After reading his books, I want to give up everything and go to France.
The French are very supportive of their country. This is their mental level. They do not analyze their feelings, but want love immediately.
The Frenchman you are attracted to will take care of you for a long time and will get his way. They don”t look like Italians. The French read poetry to you, talk a lot, talk about love for a long time and are ready to promise that the whole world will lie at your feet.
But! He is not ready to take certain actions, especially spending. He invites you to a restaurant, but offers to split the bill equally. Don”t expect expensive and frequent gifts. Now it”s practical and very affordable. But this is not a sin, is it? Many people say that the problem is not money, but attention or sweet paradise and a hut. If you are a supporter of this theory, then French should be your dream. You can call him stingy, he”s just a practical person.
But the French have undeniable advantages. They are intellectuals to the core. They love art and literature, understand music and history, and know absolutely everything about politics and the state of the economy. Pay attention to the need to respond.
In general, the French prefer slender, capable young women, with refined manners and preferably without pretensions.
English Sir: good manners, arrogance or stiffness?
Be prepared to connect your life with the life of all of England, just as you are trying to connect your destiny with the representatives of Foggy Albion. You have to love this country, love its culture and be part of it. Without complete merging, you will not see a happy family life with the British. For English men, it is important to respect traditions and adhere to a schedule that has been established over centuries. This affects both their daily life and the way they behave.
If we are not talking about football fans, then for the most part the British are very calm and self-possessed. English calmness can easily be confused with lameness or indifference. It is not customary to engage in frank conversation here. Your husband doesn”t understand you. And if you start complaining and suffering, don’t expect help. Well, the British are not used to crying. Even in constant damp weather and eternal fog, they manage to find something to do to their liking.
The English love smiling, cheerful women, but they don”t laugh. It is also recommended to lower your eyes at the right moment. No joke, intelligence and the ability to carry on a conversation are undeniable advantages.
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If you grew up in a poor family or had many problems in your life that could not be solved due to lack of money, it may be in your head.
Due to their great pride in their country, the British love to brag about their birth. If one of your ancestors held a high position or came from a noble family, praise will be showered not on you, but on such relatives.
If blue blood flows in your veins, it is obvious that such a union is simply necessary for you!
German, Austrian, Swiss
Let”s talk about the Germans. But remember that both the Austrians and the Swiss are also part of the German group, so remember that the characteristics of German men apply to the neighbors listed on the map.
This is another representative of practical men. The word “generosity” never applies to them. Not at all. Always try to earn money so you can go to the cinema or restaurant with the Germans. No, you are not required to pay them. If possible, they will not reject any signs of such attention from you. You have to pay for yourself. Even if you have already divided one bed into two.
And yes, you also have to pay the reduction in the cost of the communal apartment or the rent for the apartment in which this bed is located.
Therefore, if a man is a breadwinner and sponsor, or is accustomed to the fact that the wife’s budget is the wife’s budget, and the husband’s budget is the general one, then such information is simply killer. And, God forbid, if he dies, he will remain unconvinced and will not pay you a single extra euro, franc, pound, whatever happens.
In general, everything should be the same even at certain times. Another quirk of the German representatives is that everything happens in due time. Punctuality is not only their strong point, it is a way of life. If your German boyfriend has given you a date at a certain time, don”t be late. Remember that no one will wait for you. There are only 15 minutes left, and be prepared — he has already left you for other things.
Not everything is so sad, don”t be upset. The Germans have a wonderful trait — thoroughness. Sometimes this behavior is perceived as perhaps slowness. Germans need a little more time to think and make a decision. But then, in a matter that a German takes on, he is brought to the end with all zeal. This rule applies to both work and life in general. If he makes up his mind and proposes to you, despite the fact that he has not seen anyone, then the wedding will be by the way!
East and West
We talked about European men—men of the world. But the human world is surprisingly diverse. A discussion of the characteristics of each country”s representatives would take thousands of pages.
Now there is no such possibility. Just to say that there are still men in the USA, Canada and Peru, when in fact there are a lot of them overseas. This is such a hodgepodge in which various features of European men are combined and intersected. Remember this story. Who settled America? In general, we leave this explosive mixture for later, in the proper sense of the word.
As for Eastern men, the main problem is the great spiritual differences. Different religions and lifestyles leave very strong marks. In general, Eastern men are loving and caring, but they are often very strict and demanding of all women.
Advantages of marrying a foreigner
Wow, dear reader. Perhaps you have already buried your head in the sand? Let”s cool down and look at the situation calmly. With a cold heart, we look for the pros and cons of other people”s relationships. Let”s start with the positives.
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- Marriage to a foreigner is almost always calculated. Previously, there was a long process of choosing a companion, emotions were turned off and the heart was guided not by reason, but by desire — to live better. In the initial stages there is only compassion, which is understandable. Because you are separated not only by kilometers, but also by nations. Love and kindness appear much later and are the result of conscious choice. Such marriages are stronger and built on mutual trust and respect.
- The financial capabilities of the groom are many times greater than those of the bride. The difference is due to the generally higher standard of living of Europeans. Even grooms of flower brides with an average income by foreign standards can offer brides a comfortable bride and a pleasant existence. What is considered a European standard is perceived as wealth by most Russian residents.
- Different cultures have different paths and completely different values. Treating women with respect and equality stems from a long struggle and emancipation.
Possible consequences of marrying a foreigner
Differences in culture and customs can also be negative. Therefore, if you are marrying a foreigner, you need to think through such points.
- Your communication took place at a distance. Your potential spouse may not be what he was trying to show you. Unusual romantic meetings and trips to each other are one thing. Another situation may become commonplace. This is happening in Russian reality, but now in another country. Always check out in advance.
- The reason for this is the language barrier. Basic ignorance of the language can prevent meaningful communication. You can contact your spouse as well as their family and friends. And currently you cannot start on your own. There is only one conclusion — learn the language of your chosen one.
- The previous reasons can affect your overall quality of life. Finding a job in another country is almost impossible for a person who does not speak the language. One option is unskilled labor. Fortunately, only those whose husband is ready to take the offer of his wife and family completely upon himself.
- Psychological discomfort due to distance. When you decide to marry a foreigner and move to another country, you lose touch with your family and in-laws. It”s excruciatingly difficult.
- Children born in another country become citizens. When families are separated, it is very difficult to return children to their homeland.
Where to meet a foreigner?
We hope that the positive aspects have inspired you, and you are ready to deal with the negative consequences and are ready to choose a textbook or course to study your chosen language.
Therefore, if your dreams have deeper roots, if I want to marry a foreigner, we begin to prepare for the fight.
Potential grooms can be found on the Internet. We register you on specialized Russian dating sites that promise to place you in good foreign hands, or we immediately create a profile on international dating sites where representatives of different countries live. Further, it all depends on your modesty and good manners. We are waiting for foreign princes who will pay attention to your profile and write first or start meeting people they like.
A casual and less explicit way to build relationships is through social networks. Select Facebook or Instagram and find your husband.
It’s too late — there is a paid way to find a marriage agency. The company specializes in marrying Russian girls to foreigners, has a database of grooms and organizes meetings.
Precautions or how not to become a slave
When choosing a resource, consider the risks. Don”t believe the rave reviews about marriage agencies. This is not always a good thing.
People on social media are not the same as people in real life, and fake sororities can be found on dating sites.
Don”t go alone if you decide to meet someone through a marriage agency. Bring a friend or parent relative with you. Do not, under any circumstances, provide your passport. A decent agency only needs the data, not the document itself.
If remote communication with the groom occurs and develops into something more, the moment of a real meeting comes. The most beautiful thing is when a man flies to you. Here, in your hometown, you are more psychologically comfortable, you are surrounded by relatives and friends. In such meetings the risks are minimal. Insist on the groom”s arrival. Do not rush to leave for another country at the first call. The average man perfectly understands a woman”s fear of the unknown and is ready to come to you in person. Ideally, he can make several study tours.
Time passed and the time had come for a return visit. Usually the groom himself bears the costs of organizing the meeting, but always has a reserve of money for a return ticket and independent accommodation. You never know what situations may arise between you.
It”s even better if you go on such trips with your parents or one of your friends. This way you are in constant contact with your loved ones. This reduces the risk in case of communication with a dishonest groom.
Somehow you can hear everything. But in fact, these simple tips will help you avoid unpleasant situations. Another country is another world with its own foundations, customs and laws. The problems listed may not happen to you. And so be it. But knowing how to resolve situations will help you feel confident and protected in any country!
Why do foreigners look for Russian wives?
Russian girls are always at a premium. If you”ve been to Europe at least once, you”ve probably paid attention to what local girls look like. I don’t want to offend anyone, but they often look like gray rats or men in skirts. However, no. The liberation has been in effect for a long time, and it is becoming increasingly difficult to see skirts on European girls. Europeans strive for career and business success, and family is a kind of complement. Men don”t have enough women for all kinds of this concept.
Russian girls suppress in themselves those qualities that they lack. In addition, she was always distinguished by her beauty and femininity, friendliness and openness. The Russian soul enchants and captivates.
Well, what kind of housewives our girls are, how warmly they console their husbands — legends are made about this!
Be sincere and authentic! And fate will definitely give you a chance to meet your person!
