Carrot and stick: 10 options for punishing slaves in BDSM
For some couples, punishment is one of the components of a BDSM relationship. This foundation of experimental sexual activity is important if you want to teach a girl a lesson after she has exhibited “undesirable” behavior or failed to do your bidding. The ideal punishment is for the dominant person to attempt to cum without jeopardizing the well-being of their partner.
Contents of the article:
How punishment works in BDSM
An important element of many dominant/submissive relationships is discipline. How can this important point be developed? Yes — through punishment. BDSM orders are a common way to help a dominant train a submissive. In subsequent parts of the article, issues of punishment will be considered. Learning its principles can help the dominant party in a relationship become better at this topic. If you play the role of a slave, you can also invite the “master” to familiarize yourself with the information offered. Suddenly he is looking for new, cruel and unusual ways to punish you. Therefore, at first glance, the meaning of “dominance/submissiveness” at this stage of the relationship is quite simple.
- If your slave does something wrong, you must punish him and teach him a lesson.
- If your slave does everything right, you encourage and reward him for his efforts.
This last point is a good indicator of an empathetic and mutually beneficial BDSM relationship, completely showing that SABA understands the rules and strives to meet your expectations in every possible way, as well as paying attention to detail when performing certain tasks. These tasks and corresponding punishments in the event of rebellion may be written into a BDSM contract or take a more informal form. This will allow you to develop them as needed — at your discretion, so to speak.
The punishment must fit the violation
If you”re just starting to explore BDSM and don”t have a clear understanding of the nuances of this niche, remind yourself that disobedience is not a common ideological crime. Disobedience is hidden underneath:
- Bad attitude;
- Violation of established and accepted rules.
- Reluctance to carry out will.
Minor mistakes (especially those caused by inexperience in this area) are not included in the list presented here. Also, remember that the punishment must be well-known—it”s important to convey the essence and not alienate those who trust you or are genuinely open to you. During the punishment, if you encounter something and pause, considering the possibility of rudeness, unpleasant sensations, behavior on the part of the slave, or fear in her eyes, you might accustom the girl to anger and mood swings. BDSM discipline, as strange as it may sound, is akin to raising a child. Anger and aggression can lead to poor decisions. In such cases, rest is important, and as such, “rest” can help you determine what punishment is appropriate for the disobedience and understand that your mood is healthy. BDSM commands are never linked to external factors that will leave you angry or tired outside the apartment. Excessive emotions can hurt your slave, and this is not possible in a dominant/submissive relationship.
Assess the limits of its capabilities
BDSM commands should be practical and manageable. You should not order your slave to do something she is physically or psychologically unable to do. Failure is not the goal of discipline. Don”t expect a thin and fragile woman to sit still with a huge load. While this form of punishment may be acceptable in a dominant/submissive relationship, falls, awkward moments, and sudden movements can lead to serious injuries.
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Also, avoid potentially dangerous penalties such as dehydration or poor circulation. If a Sabes is selflessly trying to please its owner, it may follow instructions unquestioningly and be afraid to tell you that it cannot complete a particular task according to your wishes. You are solely responsible for the safety of the girl you want to please with your power, so be alert to signs of insecurity — stop and adjust the punishment before it leads to unwanted problems. You also want to emphasize that the punishment should not be cruel. For example, if your partner has a negative attitude towards sticks, canes and whips, exclude such toys from common use. The moment you allow yourself to be overly cruel, you violate trust and hurt the one you should be caring for first.
Brainstorming BDSM Punishments: 10 Practical Ways _-_10
- Physical punishment.
– This type of punishment means spanking with a whip or a light metal cane, if the latter option does not frighten the slave. If you don”t have the necessary tools or adult toys, you can use your palm to spank or hit the girl (if the BDSM contract is considered very close and harsh physical punishment). Effectiveness regarding discipline can be achieved by demanding evaluation of the slap — as the intensity increases, this moment begins to turn into real torture for your subordinate. — Bonding slaves and kneeling is a type of discipline that works well. You can also have her sit with a book above her head or hold a small ping pong ball between the wall and her nose. Unique psychological cells, when exposed to the right conditions, can be extreme. — Restrictive discipline means that you take away from your slave what she likes. This could be something as mundane as watching TV, talking on the phone, using social media, or eating your favorite treats. Bonfire Punishments may include prohibitions on sleeping together, kissing, hugging and eye contact. Once you understand that the slave has properly repented of his disobedience, you can remove restrictions and encourage pleasant surprises. — Seek psychological help in slavery. Psychological slavery requires the slave to sit motionless in the same position at a certain time. This may also lead to the implementation of various punishments. Kneeling is a particularly common form of punishment among kinksters. Tell the girl to kneel at your feet or in the corner. It looks uncomfortable, but is harmless.
- Prohibitions and control
– Orgasm control is a special type of restrictive punishment that involves performing sexual acts only with your permission. If the slave breaks the rules or is disobedient for a certain period of time, revoke your permission and watch the girl suffer from lust and frustration. There is no more suitable and unpleasant punishment than writing “Never again” 100 times. Remember the legendary animated series “The Simpsons” and Bart”s credit for writing the same phrase on the blackboard. Another option is to assign them to memorize a long poem or write an essay on an old-fashioned topic in the allotted time. What routine do your slaves hate? Wash the floor or dishes? Or wash your hands? Find and punish them accordingly, and even tie up certain parts of their body, such as ordering them to insert butt plugs that prevent them from performing their assigned duties. — Assign meaningless housework. For example, pour buckwheat and rice groats into buckets or bowls and ask slaves to sort them in the correct proportions. For slaves who love their collars, not wearing them for long periods of time can be an incredibly effective punishment. Typically, anything that reminds her of your intimate relationship is removed from her sight until you see fit to bring it back.
- Public nudity.
– Public or social discipline means additional humiliation in the presence of a stranger. Order your slave girl to go outside in a skimpy costume or take her out for a walk with a chain collar around her neck.
