Punishments in BDSM: when disgrace is worse than a whip
It is simply impossible to imagine BDSM without punishment. It is part culture, part ritual, part play and part fun. Punishment emphasizes the relationship and helps maintain hierarchy in the couple. BDSM punishment is often equated with physical consequences, but in reality it is much more complex.
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Punish, but “for fun”
It is worth making a distinction between playful punishment and real punishment. Playful punishment is “make-believe” punishment. The punisher is the one who pretends to be punished, while the punished person pretends to suffer or actually experiences it, but gets more pleasure. Punishment in the game is part of the role, nothing more.
With real punishment, everything is much more serious. Usually such punishments are an overreaction to the slave”s misbehavior. Therefore, they must at least be inconvenient for this slave.
Punishing those who crave the whip is very inventive. But where is the punishment here? Subordinates in BDSM perceive punishment as the attention and care of the owner, and masochists, as a rule, derive pleasure from physical pain.
Some submissives commit minor offenses on purpose, and then, with tears in their eyes and a whip in their hands, beg the superior for punishment. In fact, this is the manipulation of slaves who are trying to control the behavior of their masters. For such “smart guys” there is even a special term xzhm — unning masochists.
And how to punish them? It is impossible not to punish both. Nigens may be offended and question the benefits of such a relationship. Therefore, rulers have to come up with new ways of punishment. Therefore, it is almost impossible to talk about all the existing methods of punishment in BDSM. Each one forces the slave to use his imagination to the fullest. However, there are “classics of the genre” and those that simply became popular.
Tired of gingerbread, I want a stick
Treatments are the most popular type of punishment in BDSM. Otherwise, why come up with so many different devices for this type of punishment? From a light spank to a cane strike on a soft spot — the choice is huge and limited only by the preferences of the master and the capabilities of the slave.
If you have advanced experience in this matter, it is recommended to start training with inanimate objects — pillows, upholstered furniture, etc. If the object is clearly no longer usable due to such attractions, it is best not to continue experimenting with the lower part.
Worms, wraps, whips and canes are often used for whiplash type. But ordinary attacks and slaps in the face are a little less common, but are used rarely and only by special lovers of rough treatment.
Slapping (most often on the butt) — used as an addition to sex or as an addition to games related to the transfer of power. Lighting can be done by hand or using tools such as belts, flat wooden paddles, paddles or flat combs. In general, anything that has a handle that can be held on a flat surface can be used.
Before the whiplash begins, the lower part of the skin should be warmed up. To do this, you need to hastily smash the intended impact area very intensively. First, it prepares the lower portion for the whiplash. Secondly, the gentle touch reminds you that this procedure is performed with love and care. It is better to start with light spankings and gradually increase the intensity. Otherwise, you will soon get tired and will have the opportunity to hear “stop-slobo” before joy appears.
Whiplash (or whiplash) is not limited to the buttocks. The most popular place of influence is the back, but with some skill you can move on to the chest, hips and even genitals (but with extreme caution!). It is recommended to avoid hitting the sides, stomach and gonads, as carelessness can lead to damage to internal organs
What exactly is a flogger (or whip)? A flogger is a series of strips tied together and attached to a handle. There are many different types of whips, including silicone, leather, suede and rubber.
Whips also require preparation. Since mastering this tool is a delicate art, it is recommended to start with a master class on working with a whip. Overall, the point is to teach your wrist to move freely enough so that you can draw circles and figure eights on your body with the tip of the whip. It is important to learn how to correctly measure the strength and intensity of movements and change them during the spanking process — so that incredible sensations arise below.
Whiplash is similar to whiplash but has its own unique characteristics. The whip (whiplash) can leave marks, abrasions and cuts on the body, so practice using it on the same long-suffering couch (chair, pillow) on which you honed your slapping and whiplash techniques to hone the best technique. When moving on to lower body workouts, you should carry a first aid kit and a guide to treating cuts and abrasions.
In a dream, many people impudently break a long whip, which, when struck, wraps around the body. Only a true master can handle such a whip, and using it is extremely dangerous, since if carelessly rotated around the body, it can damage internal organs.
And for dessert — canned food for true connoisseurs and gourmets. This is the instrument to which no one remains indifferent. “Oh God, oh my God. It”s not just a cane. For “Oh yeah. Love it!” A cane is a long cylindrical stick ranging from 30-40 cm to over a meter in length. Sticks are made from many materials, but the most commonly used sticks are plastic, wood or bamboo. They are usually used to strike large muscles, so the dominant hand should be sitting with anatomy textbooks.
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The cane has some obvious advantages: it can localize and focus pain (the sensation of body parts being torn) and it does not require as long or as much force as other spanking tools.
Bondage and discipline
A very erotic and very popular method of punishment in BDSM. It is generally accepted that this art (some consider bandaging an art form) was introduced into BDSM culture from Japan. During feudal wars, there was often a need to restrain and hold the enemy without causing him physical harm. In most cases, noble prisoners of war were tied up in this way.
Other types of slavery were also used as torture. It is unknown from what types of bondage modern torture and restraint bindings originated. Only one thing is known. The inventive and sophisticated Japanese saw a special aesthetic in the interweaving of ropes and knots. Then, when the artists got down to business, the binding became an art and began to acquire an erotic character.
Ropes, belts, handcuffs, chains, collars, tight corsets and even special devices are used. There is also room for creativity and self-expression. So many different types of dressings have been invented that one more scientific article or even several volumes would be enough. It”s no surprise that bandaging workshops are always popular among enthusiasts and hobbyists.
Bandages are divided according to the material used, the technique used and the limits of freedom. They are usually used as part of a BDSM practice, complementing and enhancing the impact. This is due to the fact that for many people, restriction of movement is a real fetish and only enhances the thrill and pleasure of what is happening.
In such cases, you can use bandages in awkward positions or come up with something exotic. For example, special bandage devices such as pads, cages, vacuum beds, or sleeves can be used. If you want to increase the impact, you can add restrictions on functions that use vision, hearing, or touch.
Too much sweet is bad for you
If children are told that a large amount of sweets is harmful, they will not believe it. When adults are told that having too much sex is a nightmare, they don’t believe it either, and it’s completely useless. Sexual punishment is one of the harshest punishments in BDSM.
Punishment for sissy #3 / crossdressing / how to become a girl
It is technically very difficult to carry out such executions, but this is something that cannot be done in order to raise good slaves. The first thing a dominant must do is master the technique of prolonged sexual intercourse. They learn not to climax for as long as possible. The second step is to stock up on adult toys. Masterbators and vibrating vaginas are for men, dildos and strap-ons for punishment are for women. There should be a lot of adult toys here that can be quickly replaced, since the batteries clearly don”t have enough charge to keep the toys below in the condition they should be in.
Once everything is ready, you can begin performing the task, but it”s important to remember that the “safe word” rule also applies. The euphoric state of the lower body is not eliminated, so the upper body must carefully monitor the slave”s condition. It”s also important to remember that men”s ability to achieve multiple orgasms in quick succession is very limited. This means that the torture itself is shorter for them. This is because they quickly reach unbearable discomfort.
A milder version of sexual punishment can also be mentioned: forbidding orgasm. In addition to verbal commands, careful attention must be paid to ensuring that the lowest command, reaching the point, is not discharged. Stimulation should cease as soon as orgasm approaches and resume as soon as the tension subsides slightly. This torture can last quite a long time.
Delayed punishment, ignoring, separation
These are the three most horrific and cruel BDSM punishments that can be devised for a submissive. The simplest of these is to delay punishment. It should be used when the submissive has committed misbehavior and is attempting to influence the dominant”s behavior in hopes of being punished. Such behavior is unacceptable for slaves and should be severely punished.
Its practical application is very simple. The submissive expects attention and punishment from the dominant for the crimes committed. Punishing them means giving in to the slave and completely rejecting the punishment.
There is only one way: promise to punish, but then postpone the punishment until the master decides. Waiting can drive people crazy, especially if you”re waiting for what you want. While waiting for punishment, if the submissive continues to misbehave and wants to force the issue, you can ignore the slave or even abandon them.
Ignoring is a very severe punishment in BDSM, used for serious offenses, and should be handled with extreme caution. It”s also easy to implement—the submissive is deprived of the privilege of touching, being near, or communicating with the master. Naturally, all planned BDSM sessions and tasks previously assigned by the submissive are cancelled.
The worst punishment is separation. It may be temporary, but the submissive need not know about it. Punishment should only be used as a last resort, if the submissive”s behavior indicates their personal qualities are incompatible with BDSM.
Only love and care.
Only love and care
Therefore, the punishment must be proportionate to the crime. For minor offenses, punishment may be limited to verbal punishment (swearing only). For serious offenses, a more severe punishment should be chosen. It is important to convey to lower levels the understanding that the severity of punishment does not guarantee forgiveness. At the same time, the reasons for the complaint must be clearly formulated and presented to the bottom in a form accessible to him.
Raising a good slave requires consistency and clear demonstration of the boundaries of what is permitted. The bottom must know exactly what behavior he faces punishment for, but at the same time there must be opportunities to avoid it (sincere repentance, good behavior, devoted service to the owner). Otherwise, the incentive for good behavior disappears. In general, inexperienced upper echelons often sin by demanding everything from the lower echelons at once.
This is clearly a dead-end relationship. It is important to train him gradually, consistently complicating and increasing the requirements. If he is trying to do everything to meet the requirements and please the top, do not forget about promoting the bottom. A kind word pleases the cat, and the future slave will be happy and in seventh heaven.
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