Learning to pretend: how to pretend rape?
One of the most common erotic fantasies of both men and women is Make-Believe rape. However, when we start discussing this not as a fantasy, but as a literal plan for this coming Friday when the children will be separated from their grandparents, many questions arise because of this fantasy. The main ones: how not to turn rape into real rape.
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How to “play rape”
In general, rape games are called non-consensual — consensual disagreements. If this is your first time playing this game, here are the rules you should follow:
- Trust your partner completely.
This is especially important if you are a girl, especially in situations where you deliberately give him the right to use force, because a priori the man is stronger than you. You must have very significant sexual experience with each other before you can resort to settlement agreements. Of course, a positive sexual experience.
This is necessary so that confidence and understanding are established between you that this person really will not harm you. Also so that this person treats you with pleasure and safety. And most importantly, as well as possible, he knows your reactions and has seen when he has gone too far.
Unfortunately, in many cases, attempts to fake rape end in a violation of trust between partners. For example, men may not stop even when safe words are expressed (this is explained below) and say that they just got carried away or thought it was part of the game.
If your partner does this, consider leaving him. He betrayed your trust at your most vulnerable moment. Does such a person deserve to be with you?
- Discuss the scenario in detail.
“Rape games” can be very different. For example, someone wants to be “lured” from the street, have his mouth taped shut and brutally raped. He wants to play forced orgasm and wants to play genital intense love over and over again, even when the partner below is already crying and asking to stop. He wants to make love as if someone is disconnected, as if he is intoxicated, as if this is a form of insensitivity.
Improvisation in rape play is absolutely unacceptable. Because the bottom partner is in a very vulnerable state, improvisation they”re not prepared for can seriously frighten them, easing their feelings of loss of control and trust in the top.
This is why it”s essential to discuss every detail.
How does your partner want it to unfold? Step by step: how does the game begin, how does it progress, what does the top do?
What are the strict taboos? For example, there may be strict taboos on bondage, blow-drying, and anal sex. Rape play is a game. This doesn”t mean you can do all the uppercuts. Quite the contrary, every action should be thoroughly agreed upon in advance.
How do you want your bottom partner to behave? (Usually, erotic rape fantasies refer to the most fantastical behavior. For example, they want to fight back, scream, beg her not to finish them off, or ask her to come over or invite their boyfriend or girlfriend.)
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Sexual fantasies are not something to be embarrassed about, much less shy about. Everyone has their own preferences in one form or another, and. How does a top partner want to behave? (For example, he might want to insult the bottom. Does that excite him?
The more the partner imagines further rape play, the more comfortable they become, and the more pleasure they derive instead of fear and pain.
As you can imagine, rape play is a form of BDSM play. This is impossible without safe words. Rape play is typically accompanied by the words “no,” “stop,” or “stop and go away” when you want the other person to stop. The top ignores these words—that”s the nature of the game. But the words “I want to stop playing” should be there.
In this situation, the words can be different from normal phrases to surprise and thereby attract attention. However, there”s no need to come up with overly complex words.
When playing with jokes, come up with a stopping gesture. For example, hold up two fingers.
Don”t try to play full-blown role-play right away. This can be uncomfortable for both the top, who may feel like a monster or an asshole, and the bottom, who may be Frightened by the sudden plunge into a realistic fantasy.
It”s recommended to start with small elements. For example, pushing someone against a wall, holding hands, or forcibly ripping off their clothes.
During games where there is consensual disagreement, the mind must be clear. No alcohol. Why? Because it is more difficult to withdraw consent while intoxicated. For example, Bottom feels like things have gone too far and wants to stop, but is too drunk to say a word.
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In addition, intoxication dulls the pain, so the bottom may miss the moment of injury. And if there is a drunk on top, then everything becomes even worse. He loses control of himself and may go too far.
Precautions
- Often rape fantasies contain some mind-altering elements, such as stabbing, being tied up, and being gagged. All this must be carefully thought out so as not to cause real harm to the rower.
For example, if you are using a knife, use a dull knife and make sure it cuts first. When tying, make sure the oldest person knows how to tie the knot first and can quickly untie the rope if necessary. When closing your mouth, pay attention to the stop sign, not the safe word.
In addition, if the game must begin with loud shouting, threats or “kidnapping” on the street, it is worth considering safety precautions. Raped people don”t want to go to jail.
There should be a first aid kit nearby in case of problems and for subsequent care.
While rape play is common as an erotic fantasy, the actual experience can be overwhelmingly intense for the lower body. Therefore, you need to take care of it. After such games, the Top must take care of the Bottom”s injuries by hugging, caressing, calming and treating his injuries.
Be sure to discuss everything that happened. Ask each other how you felt at that moment? What did you like and what didn”t you like? Do you want to repeat this? If so, what would you like to change, keep or add? What would you like to remove? If not, why not? Was it a positive or rather negative experience?
Always remember that it”s just a game!
- To soften the sensations without leading to a traumatic phase, and at the same time add a little pepper to sex, you can make the game a game, a theatrical performance. Don”t” and grooming behavior.
Rape games are also a testing ground for other fetishes, such as dirty talk, slapping, BDSM elements, gagging, and bondage. All this can be realized.
The bottom ones can add a bit of novelty. For example, resist even attempts to seize the initiative yourself.
And most importantly, agreement to disagree does not mean carte blanche for agreement and real violence. The top has the right to do more than was previously agreed. If he does this, and even if he likes it, this is a very wake-up call. Because in this case, the upper one was recognized as having violated the lower limit at a moment of great vulnerability. Beware of such people.
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