A working way to let go of past relationships
Not all relationships last forever. Sometimes they end. But this is not a reason for endless suffering, but an opportunity to improve the next relationship. How to let go of past relationships if they prevent you from moving on? Not everyone knows how to part easily, and often old relationships leave their mark on new ones. Alternatively, they behave like brakes but definitely need to be hacked from the entry point.
Contents of the article:
Awareness
One of the many, many mistakes made after a breakup is looking for reasons to say: “Maybe I’m fat?” and look for the reasons for this. “Am I small breasted?” “Did I give her some gifts?” This is the wrong way. There is one way to release past relationships. Yes, you have to dig where you don’t want to dig at all.
You must write down for yourself all the positive and negative points. Just make a list — which good relationships are given and which are bad. You need to paint everything. You have to remember unpleasant things, such as “I kicked my beloved dog,” “I constantly ruined my shower gel with expensive shampoo,” “I didn’t know how to cook.”
Does this list help you figure out if everything was as vanilla as it was, or if it was all so sad, that you”re grateful it”s over? Yes, sometimes such lists have a very calming effect — everything seems perfect, but if you delve into your memories, you can’t remember anything good. Well, with the exception of three tulips on March 8th. Or a pair of socks for March 23rd.
Forgiveness
You feel like shit when you get dumped. You feel inadequate. If they are rejected, then it is not suitable (a), it is not good enough (b), it is not good enough (c), it is not good enough (d). renewal of feelings — like me, so good things can stop. To make life easier, you need to forgive your ex-partner.
This subject is very difficult. There is no need to meet again to say everything you see in their eyes. It is enough to forgive someone mentally. You need to release your anger and disappointment. You can sit in front of the painting and talk until you feel better. You need to express everything that is seething inside and preventing you from moving on.
In your mind (or look at the picture) you need to express all the shame, all the mistrust and throw away all the feelings you have towards this person. (The needle does not need to be attached anywhere. This is from a different story.) Then, after you have expressed all the negativity, you need to forgive your partner. You can even thank them. Thank you for teaching me love, for earning nails, for not drinking away our property. Well, in general, there are probably reasons to be grateful for. Gratitude for saying goodbye is also appropriate.
Read also: Letting go of the past or what to do if you are jealous of your ex
Jealousy is inevitable. And after a breakup, it usually only gets stronger. Jealousy is a completely normal emotion that people find difficult to cope with.
Rest
After a relationship, you need to relax. Gain strength before entering the next one. Refill the device after completion of work. Heal your mental wounds. Rest can be anything — in the office, in another country, at grandma”s garden — anywhere. You can have a great rest without leaving home. For example, if in a previous relationship you suffered a brain drain due to the appearance of a house, get a buzz from an empty apartment — give your brain a rest.
Now is the time to start doing things that your previous partner was hesitant to do before or that were not prohibited. Sign up for dancing, jump into the pool, jump with a parachute — don’t forget about yourself. If you had a dream, then there was a tattoo on a tattoo, but no movement came. Now is the right time.
Conclusions
You can”t let go of a past relationship without coming to some conclusion. Suffering until the end of your days is not the surest path. Past relationships should be used as experience, not as value. Be clear about what is missing in this relationship. What caused their collapse. Which was good. What can be changed.
Answering these questions is essential to understanding how to build your next relationship. What questions can help you find a compromise, and what you need to be firm about. It is important to understand what exactly past relationships do not allow — often it is cutting, understatement, habits, attachments.
Sometimes these relationships are perfect and sometimes they are not, so you sit and feel sad. Then you start to analyze it in your cold head and realize that you are just used to this person. We lived together out of habit. Or because it was convenient for both of us. So why are you sad?
You cannot hide the emotions associated with past relationships deep inside. They need to be scooped out, cleaned and discarded. You can keep positive memories but delete negative ones. A rational approach allows you to stay with your former friends. Especially if they have to see you often — for example, one social circle, you work together. If you break up on a good note, it makes everyone feel better.
As the song says, “And you forgave him, you forgave him, you let him go” — this is exactly how you need to be in life. Completed communication is recognized as experience in Piggybank. You draw conclusions and move on. So, if you don”t have a goal to suffer all your life in the past.
How to forget a loved one. Experiencing a breakup with a man/girlfriend.
