An eye-opening test on the needs of genders (and people”s perceptions of them)
American psychologists Mac Gal and Wiederman from Borst State University became interested in the personal characteristics that are valued by representatives of different sexes of lovers. Then they did a strange study in this regard.
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Instructions for testing
In their survey, they checked the following — of course, our readers can go further. Only in this case it is necessary to provide a questionnaire and a partner. You need to figure out how well the ideas fit together. The instructions for the test were:
“Read the following information about personality traits and rate them on the scale.
- “Absolutely offensive” — 1 point.
- “I don’t agree” — 2.
- “Slightly disagree” — 3.
- “I am neutral” — 3. 5.
- “In principle, I agree” — 4.
- “I agree” -5.
- “I completely agree” — 6.
Use this gradient to answer the question of whether this quality is important in your relationship with your partner.
- Openness in discussing sexual issues.
- Bed load.
- Physical attractiveness.
- Perception of sex.
- The ability to give compliments in an intimate setting.
- The ability to clearly formulate your desires.
- Faster sexual arousal.
- No difficulty in achieving orgasm.
- Loyalty to materials with erotic content — for example, pornography.
- Sustainable sex, great initiative.”
During the study, subjects answered questions about how important these qualities were to them. The survey involved 185 men and 244 women aged 185 to 22 years, as well as 429 heterosexual students. The results showed that both men and women have basically similar ideas about what they need from their partners. However, they were far from the truth when it came to their views on heterosexual needs.
What did the subjects want?
What results were obtained by scientists?
- Openness to communication — for men the average result was 5. 19, for women — 5. 5 points.
- Cloth. 4. 36 for boys, 4. 37 for girls.
- Visual attractiveness — 5. 21 for the stronger sex, 4. 75 for women.
- Experience in solving intimate life issues. 5. 01 for young men, 5. 21 for women.
- The desire to hear pleasant words and compliments. 4. 41 for Parks subjects, 4. 73 for girls.
- The ability to communicate your desires. Almost the same results for both sexes: 5. 1 for the stronger sex, 5. 11 for women.
- Quick arousal. 4. 59 for men, 4. 57 for girls.
- Easy climax. 4. 32 for men, 3. 73 for women As you can see, great sex is usually not dependent on how long it takes their lover to reach climax.
- Devotion to pornography. For the stronger sex, this factor was more significant — 3. 48; for girls this figure was 3. 08.
- Perseverance and initiative. Men — 3. 91, women — 4. 19.
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Overall, the researchers were impressed by the fact that responses to different-sex topics were not fundamentally different, as is commonly believed. However, they then moved on to the second part of the study. This section assessed the following: According to respondents, this or that characteristic is important for their partner.
What girls thought about their partners
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- Openness to discussion. Women considered this factor important for men by 4. 84 points, and men by 5. 19.
- Cloth. Women”s score is 4. 45, men”s score is 4. 36.
- Physical attractiveness. Women”s score is 5. 36, men”s score is 5. 21.
- Perception of sex. Women suggested that this factor is important for their partners by 4. 85 points. In fact, at 5. 01.
- Desire to hear compliments. Girls thought that guys wanted her — 5. 06 points. Men have a rating o f-4. 41.
- Opportunity to express your desire. For men, this factor was 5. 01 points more important. Women underestimated him: 4. 86 points.
- Rapid sexual arousal. Women believed that men wanted faster arousal from them (4. 98). In fact, this factor is significant at 4. 59 points.
- Easy achievement of orgasm. A revaluation was also carried out. 4. 6 for women and 4. 32 for men.
- Devotion to pornography. Women believed that this factor was more important for men — 4. 22; in fact — 3. 48.
- Perseverance and initiative. Here the scores are approximately equal: 3. 98 points for girls and 3. 91 points for men.
Guys” opinions about girls
Representatives of the stronger sex were presented as follows:
- Openness to discussion. This factor turned out to be more important for women (5. 50) than for men (4. 95).
- Cloth. Scor e-4. 11 for men; 4. 37 for women.
- Physical attractiveness. Women considered this factor 4. 75 points more important than men. The men themselves slightly disagree with this: 4. 96 points.
- Perception of sex. Men believed that women like sophisticated lovers 5. 05 points. And yes, it turned out: the girls rated this factor at a maximum of 5. 21 points.
- Desire to hear compliments. People almost got it right. Their guess was 4. 77. And it was almost identical to women”s need for compliments — 4. 72.
- Opportunity to express your desire. Men did not know that openness is very important for women (4. 83 points) (5. 11).
- Rapid sexual arousal. Male guess — 4. 32; female opinion — 4. 57.
- Easy achievement of orgasm. The stronger sex (3. 33 pts) is convinced that girls do not really value ejaculation control (3. 73).
- Devotion to pornography. Men”s ratin g-3. 06; wome n-3. 08.
- Perseverance and initiative. The stronger sex almost guessed the preference of beautiful women in this regard: 4. 24 versus 4. 19 points.
So we can end here. Gender needs are similar. However, the assessment of partners” needs in most cases differs from the true state of affairs.
