Betrayal of a man and what lies beneath it
The topic of today”s conversation is “male betrayal.” What it is, how to experience it, how to relate to this phenomenon, who is to blame — the question is complex and multifaceted. Undoubtedly, such situations turn our usual perception of the world upside down. The conversation is long, serious and even somewhat awkward.
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What lies beneath the betrayal?
If we put aside the generally accepted meaning of the word “betrayal”, it is a little more difficult to understand what people mean by it. After all, what is it? Betrayal is when one person goes against the views, desires or principles of another. The consequences of such an act are such that they cause serious harm to the person committed, both physically and mentally.
There are many examples of real betrayal. However, given the relationship between a man and a woman, the question arises as to how much value can be put into this matter. There is no physical harm, but psychological harm is debatable. To understand this issue, we need to dive a little into the principles of relationships themselves.
As we know, two people who meet and fall in love are still completely free in their actions. This means that freedom of choice is given to everyone by default. If we ask you to honestly answer the question “Do you agree to serious restrictions on your rights, provided that your loved one is nearby?”, the answer will be negative. If consent is given, it is for a very short period of time.
In the future, everyone will begin to defend the right to freedom. It is not clear why freedom means hobbies, travel, same-sex friendships and all the rights associated with love. Why doesn”t a person have the right to fall in love, be disappointed or leave? What did he betray? Another wait? Dreams and plans? How can one betray something that has no value for him? And who is to blame for the fact that a man does not understand what it means to continue a relationship?
Loved ones, especially married couples, always have different responsibilities. When a couple gets married, vows such as “for better and for worse, in sickness and in health” are used. The next step is marriage planning. Children, savings and other attributes of married life. Then the fun begins. This man keeps his promises. He cares, helps and earns. However, everyday life is changing. Views and worldviews change, new truths are discovered.
Women also undergo these changes. But for her, due to her specificity, such things pass through the prism of everyday worries. And at such moments, married women are divided into two camps. Some blend in with children and everyday life, others passionately desire to remain young, build a career and forget about everything in the world.
Development of events or debriefing
The average woman successfully gives birth to an heir, sits on maternity leave and enthusiastically takes care of her children. Rattles, cubes, all types of early development — schools, walks, children”s menus. As a rule, time is completely devoted to the offspring. But besides this, there are other issues such as cleaning, washing, etc. Well, if he has time. If not, he can always cover himself with a diaper and look humiliated. There is no time left for my husband.
The wife is content with a short greeting, listens to a huge amount of information about the number of “readings and spells for a while”, learns about the diaper rally and is suffocated by debris and steam cuts in the o”ridge. Old attempts to understand his problems ran into a blank wall of indifference. This wife is simply not interesting. Even if she listens, everything passes by her. Her brain is busy thinking about children. Now, if the spouse gains access to the body in the evening.
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Thousands of books have been written about opposite-sex relationships, TV shows have been filmed, and psychological courses have been recorded. Representatives of the fairer sex are trying to figure out how to find.
However, there is a good chance that the baby will jump out of your arms head first when crying, and there is a high chance that the endless “TSS, wake up softly” will sound like “Not today, honey, I”m too tired.” Attention question! Who started to betray whom? Well, hey, purely rhetorical.
The woman decides that she is definitely not Klush. Then he begins to attend all kinds of trainings and seminars for advanced mothers on maternity leave. If he is strong and dexterous enough, he opens his own business. Children are invited to endless nanny courses, home cooking smoothly transforms into the fast food category, and all conversations boil down to endless stories about new trends in psychology, business and other developing areas.
Constantly traveling with similar groups of people turns his wife into the Flying Dutchman. And the husband with the child from the supermarket and his child on her lap sit in the evenings, and she communicates with his wife only via messenger. And again a rhetorical question: who betrayed whom?
There is another option — the third. However, spouses of this type usually do not face betrayal from a man.
Selfishness as a reason
Never forgive a man”s betrayal if you respect yourself
The habit of ruling over others and getting a nice thing only by birthright is passed on to the spouse, but in an inflated form. After all, if the parents fail to lay down a moderately capricious chest, they encroach on the sacrilegious desire of the husband and immediately go to bed. Don”t be surprised if one day a gentle toffee appears. Feed your wife pies and press your wild head to your soft, hot womb.
How to survive betrayal
To survive a man”s betrayal with minimal loss of your own spirit, you need to have some form of awareness of what happened. And you need to start from the very first day. What happened before the wedding?
What happened next? What changed with the birth of your children? And answer these questions as honestly as possible. If you have doubts about the objectivity of your answers, you can turn to a friend or mother for help. Indeed, the best helpers are either traitors or mothers. They will definitely shed light on the error.
The brain is busy searching for answers, but the understanding that, in principle, nothing has changed in the world will come gradually. A philosophical approach has never harmed anyone. However, a decision must be made on whether to return the traitor or not. By the way, there is a high probability of shock when one’s behavior is put into detail. I fell out of love for a reason, I left and left for a serious reason, and now I need to decide whether to return the betrayer or not. So is this betrayal?
I don”t like the idea of returning an asylum seeker and if it”s not allowed it seems out of the ordinary. We must be brought back to life. First, what if it happened directly and personally, putting yourself in the shoes of the traitor? What to do if a woman cannot tolerate her husband’s antics, and new love looms on the horizon? After all, situations like this don”t arise very often.
Why are there so many excuses for one’s own betrayal? Oh, yes, this is not betrayal, it’s just “we changed, I fell in love with someone else.” Secondly, stop crying and do something interesting. What? Courses and trainings no longer bring you joy? Why, I can”t! I can”t! Or even cooler: what are cubes and steamed cutlets when the head is confused, the cheeks are protruding from behind the ears, the priests are overflowing? The child urgently becomes fixated on kindergarten and, in parallel with the cries of the child psychologist, the mother gallops to the nearest fitness center and examines the degree of styling.
Question: why wasn”t all this done before? It turns out that there is no such thing as “human betrayal.” There is a terrible mistake in the relationship.
