GAME OVER: the main mistakes on the first date, or why your partner disappeared after it
It seems that the first meeting was perfect! Well, or almost fine. Well, yes, but better than that. Right now, as you read this article, you may not care about your relationship with this person. Or your fragile pride, spurred by curiosity: “Why didn’t they call me?” Try in vain to find the answer to the question “Why didn’t they call me?” Put up a bottle of wine (ice cream/a bucket of cigarettes/an ad for a fortune teller) and let them understand the situation.
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The number one reason why your failed love is struck by “ignorance” is:
Serious intentions
Even if your interlocutor states at the beginning of the meeting that he is tired of short meetings and meaningless intrigues, your offer to meet his parents can be quite scary. A man admires your lace dress, and you have already shown him your wedding photos. If he restrains himself and does not run away from you through the back door during a meeting, then he can boast of remarkable self-control. Undoubtedly, you have excellent taste and excellent self-organization. But you don”t have to show it. Tell your new friend how many guests you plan to invite to the party. Also, don”t discuss the names of your future children on the first date. At least wait until dessert arrives. At this moment, do men laugh with pride? Keeping horses. In the modern world, girls have learned not to dream about weddings and children (some cleverly pretend, but many are real freedom-loving Amazons). Therefore, do not risk abruptly touching on the topic of a shared future on the first date. Also, if you find your date dreaming of white dresses and dove pies at night, you will soon regret your insatiable sense of humor.
Frivolous intentions
An excessive number of “below the belt” jokes may not be appreciated by your interlocutor if you have not discussed your friend’s short-term acquaintance in advance. A little advice about first dates. Otherwise, your partner will misinterpret you, and you will get only sex or nothing from him — if you create the image of a stupid dummy or a boastful philanderer, they simply will not want to waste time on you. If jokes about sex are not your thing, it is better to abandon this topic. Important: telling corny jokes from the heart is not the same as having a sense of humor.
Read also: The main rules of the first date: how to make the evening unforgettable? your acquaintance with the girl goes well, and you decide to invite her to dinner. How to ruin the first impression and make your chosen one fall in love with you? If you.
Male share
To everyone reading this article: pay for a girl on the first date. Most girls expect guys to pay for tiramisu/pizza/borscht/shawarma on the first date, because our compatriots have not yet obeyed the global trend. Pay for yourself and do not react to their modest attempts to take over your wallet. Try not to look like you have renal colic. Your facial expression will give away your farewell to the money along with the donor. On your first date, you ordered a bottle of French wine, a Bavarian beer and three glasses of hot beer, but it turned out that you “forgot” your wallet? In most cases, the reason for ignorance lies precisely in this. Even if the handbag was absolutely sincerely forgotten, the girl is unlikely to believe it. Excuse yourself and invite the girl to dinner. And check your wallet before leaving home.
Modesty
Who said melancholy while chewing arugula attracts girls? Some caring men invite a girl to a cafe on the first date. Not only out of a sincere desire to feed her, but also because they dream of testing the theory.
Maybe we should play along?
Why do men disappear after the first date? how to behave if a man disappears.
The Silent Spy
If your partner asks you questions, it means he wants to know more about you. Or he pretends to be good, but the result is the same. The more you avoid answering, the more doubts arise. Mysterious girls are, of course, cool. However, don”t overdo it and turn it into a Rubik”s cube. Girls are more distrustful and cautious than men. So if your partner asks you questions on a date, make sure. The fewer points are completed, the less likely it is that you will end up in her bed.
A spy”s find
Remember yesterday”s date. Did the interlocutor manage to insert at least one word into the endless stream of boasting, complaints, whining and self-talk? Nobody likes it when a dialogue turns into a monologue, and two interlocutors turn into a speaker and a listener. Comment on every line, insert serial material, “What the hell! Here I am.”
No one is to blame
You were good, the evening was wonderful, but you didn’t fit into the team. It happens. If the other half of the failed party is avoiding the meeting, write and ask what the problem is. Only without threats and accusations. The evening went well. Did I do something wrong? I understand if we are not on the same path, just listen, be honest. Anyway, thank you for everything. I hope for answers. Have a nice day.” If you still haven”t heard back, forget about it and move on. P. S. Once a few days pass after the first date, you should start to worry. Otherwise, your partner might just be busy or asleep after a Friday night.
