How and where to meet during quarantine?
These are difficult times. We are all in a constant state of stress. Anxieties are fueled by the media and daily feed us not the most rosy information. How to maintain a relationship with your significant other in such conditions and make each other happy? What to do if cafes, cinemas and other establishments are closed?
Contents of the article:
There is a way out. And not just one.
Ingenuity and distance
The New York Times in one of its recent articles talked about a couple who can go on dates and keep their distance. The ingenuity of these people and their ability to find a way out of difficult situations is definitely noteworthy.
Nineteen-year-old Ellie Reid from Oxfordshire drove about 10 miles to her boyfriend Jordan Cadman”s house. Domino”s Pizza, which was supposed to deliver a pepperoni pizza and two flatbreads, was rushed to Jordan for Ellie and Texas.
Having received their catch, the couple got into another car and went on a date. The meeting place is the canal. The men parked six feet apart, lowered their glasses and began to eat. That”s what a date is — it seems to bring you closer, but it also seems to distance you.
Most recently, Ellie and Jordan met daily. Since the coronavirus panic took hold of the world, everything has changed. Preventive measures are very justified,” 20-year-old Jordan Astoma. This makes it even more vulnerable to Covid-19.
It”s very hard not to hug him. But I understand that this will save his life,” Ms. Reed says.
The coronavirus outbreak has forced us to avoid visiting restaurants, bars, museums, theaters and other public places. But this does not mean that there is no place for romance in our lives. Choosing a parking spot is just one of many ways to organize a romantic date.
In such a situation, it seems easier to give up dating altogether than to come up with odd plans and try to combine romance and social distance. However, Dr. Raisin Henry, a couples therapist in New York City, strongly disagrees. She continues to advise clients even during the pandemic, but now online. Henry believes that you should not give up dating because it is important for maintaining a healthy relationship.
In normal times, we go on dates because they help add variety to our daily lives and routines. It’s no different here,” says Henry. Racine also said that social distancing and other “attractions” of quarantine can negatively affect our psycho-emotional state. Monotony can cause a variety of emotions — from disappointment to anger and indifference.
“It doesn’t matter whether you keep your distance or not. You still want to spend time with this person, create new pleasant memories and remind him why you are together. Turn off your phone, get in the mood, and schedule time for romance and connection with your partner,” advises Henry.
Don”t know where to start? Zero ideas and complete lack of inspiration? We offer to spy on other couples who are willing to share their experience without genes.
Michelin stars at home
Local friendly establishments such as cozy cafes, luxurious restaurants, favorite eateries and favorite coffee stands have closed their doors indefinitely. But the supermarket — thank you! — are still open. Organize your gastronomic shopping and have a gourmet dinner at home.
Do you love Japanese cuisine and are worried that your favorite restaurant might close? Cut down on the chatter and work harder! Jen and Max Scoville from Oakland, California, decided to create their favorite dish: shabu-shabu. If you”re interested in their efforts, check out Jenn”s Instagram @gennhaver.
Read also: Go through fire, water and quarantine together: 11 tips from a psychologist
“i can”t take it anymore!” He chews too loudly. She puts food in a ridiculous refrigerator. He uses too much soap and toilet paper. And at.
Naturally, they decided to make a mess — not only did they prepare a dinner worthy of a Japanese restaurant, but they also dressed up. Scoville, 33, is a remote host and producer for IGN. He decided to wear his own shirt to dinner. Miss Scoville is 31 years old and works as a dentist. More precisely, she worked until the office closed. She came to dinner in a black dress. Jen didn”t forget about her hair and makeup — false eyelashes complemented her look.
“When we cook for each other, the clothes make me feel different than other days,” Jen says. She said today”s outfit is a “step up” from the Backstreet Boys T-shirt she”s been wearing for the past three days.
Dr. Henry devotes one of his books (A Palate For Love) to explaining the impact that intentional cooking can have on your loved ones. It’s the most universal way to receive and express love,” she explained.
It doesn”t matter if no one in your couple knows how to cook. You can use this time to experiment with different recipes and strengthen your bond. It”s a great way for couples to get to know each other better,” says Avital Ungar, founder of Avital Tours, a culinary company that produces events in New York, Los Angeles and San Francisco. Ungar recently shifted the company”s focus from in-person restaurant tours to virtual cooking and mixology classes led by chefs and bartenders.
Couples play with different flavors and recipes, which gives room for creativity and experimentation. When they sit down to eat together, the meal itself becomes a catalyst for deep and meaningful conversations,” Ungar explains.
Virtual museums
In 2013, 32-year-old Somin Dansiger and 31-year-old Lilly Dansiger from Manhattan first met at the Museum of Modern Art in New York and vowed to celebrate their future anniversary at the museum.
For five years, the couple maintained this tradition. And even the coronavirus will not be able to interfere with their plans — because now they can get to the museum online!
Mrs Dancer, a freelance writer and editor, said: “I have been working on the museum for a long time and am very proud to be part of it. She also adds that this problem can be easily solved by walking around the museum without leaving the couch.
Plus, entry was free and shoes were optional,” adds Mrs. Danciger.
Mr. Danciger is responsible for the operations of Gracefully, three grocery market stores in Manhattan. He continues to work and constantly interacts with both colleagues and clients. He also appreciates that he can now spend time at home with his wife.
“Every step outside is unrealistic. Every day you look at New York calmly, as if Christmas morning is so strange. It looks like a wasteland. But then I return to my apartment, warm and cozy, and life seems quite normal.
Dance class by the sofa
I always thought it was cool to emulate Monica and Ross from Friends. He is 33 years old and works as a tour guide at Warner Bros Studios in Bell Bank, California. Mr. Matos is on paid leave and decided now was the right time to study choreography. He invited his wife, Heinlen, 31, to dance lessons.
It’s just like a normal date—we agreed on a time, made a plan, and stuck to it,” Denver says.
Try it in quarantine
Best communal entertainment for couple IDI:
- Prepare a new dish together.
- Wander around the virtual museum.
- Take a trip and visit the top of the volcano online.
- Read books out loud to each other and drink wine.
- Have a picnic on your balcony or in your own backyard.
- Stand on the grass at night and look at the stars or spend the night in a tent.
- Have breakfast in bed.
- Set up a karaoke bar at home.
- A game I”ve never had before.
- Set up a video date.
- Write love letters to each other and read them out loud (candles and wine don”t hurt).
- Arrange a home photo shoot.
Postscript
If you are voluntarily separating yourself or are forced to do so by your country”s government, your choice of where to meet is very limited. Does this mean you should grieve regularly and forget about romance?
Anyway! Systematically cross off items from our list and enjoy each other”s company. Even if you live separately, this is not a reason to be lazy — the benefits of civilization in the form of the Internet, video calls and semi-sweet red wine are at your disposal.
