Money in relationships between men and women
People never get tired of talking about relationships and money, and discussing the relationship between these two concepts. A number of loud statements have been made that girls only need financial resources, while men say they love trams and should buy them. Others say: “I’m ashamed to ask a man for help” or “I’m angry that my wife earns more.” But in these messages you will find a grain of truth that should be remembered for the future.
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Where do legs come from?
There are only two main issues connecting love and finance: the relationship between the two sexes and the relationship between the two sexes.
- The reluctance of some members of both sexes to grow up.
- Strong attachment to old stereotypes.
Now all young girls are at a kind of crossroads. On the one hand, the beauty they give to the aunt and mother, saying that she must provide for life and must follow her partner. The existence of a couple.
Meanwhile, the reality of our time is sewn up and screams about freedom and independence of the weaker sex. Unfortunately, the older generation as a whole did not accept the new rules of the game. These rules require women to work in low-paid jobs, submit to men and participate in the political sphere of life, while their children become accustomed to the old pattern. World.
Similar photographs also had an effect on the male population. Because from birth they have it in their heads what they should do in the family and what they should do in return. But, as always, harsh reality takes its toll.
Money is the same basis as love or affection, as their union. There is no room in Mercantile. This asset not only creates happy families. However, it is necessary not only to have sufficient financial resources, but also to be able to dispose of them correctly.
Typical examples
Speaking about relationships and money, take the above situation as a constant, it is not very pleasant and is a common paradox. From childhood, many women are instilled with the idea that men are obligated to them. They must provide, pay and take care of their problems.
At the same time, the girl”s duty is limited by her freedom. Freedom is what feminist advocates love to shout about. Therefore, it turns out that I want to be independent, but I don’t want to provide for myself.
There is a woman who is called the first complete opposite. When a woman invests absolutely everything in herself — from work to onion changes. And such behavior can turn a completely unformed person (a 40-year-old child who does not know how to cook an omelet) into a complete baby. It is very important to remember two simple truths:
- If a man or woman fully supports the family, then a priori the second partner depends on the breadwinner/nurse. Even if he or she doesn”t want to accept it.
- Families in which true equality reigns can be counted on one hand. They adhere to a competent distribution of responsibilities. In such marriages, people know how to communicate and solve difficulties together. Even alone, such a family is doomed to face criticism from friends and parental relatives who “understand life.”
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Standard family
The wife gradually seizes all the levers of influence in the family. The husband”s emotions, behavior and all his money are under complete control. The concept itself develops independently, and the patriarch decisively disappears. A woman sits at home, raises her offspring, buys food and cooks.
If there is not enough money in the family, then the husband does not earn enough. Here the husband needs to remember what he was taught as a child. Some people fall into a state of exposure, indifference, work, TV destruction. Others may try to prove their superiority, and this causes scandals and a blow to the nerves.
When a woman stops paying attention to her social status and appearance, her partner disappears from her interest. From here come young lovers who are attracted to their activities and hobbies.
Reverse family
Both spouses work. The girl becomes unburdened in her desires and causes more and more. As a result, her salary exceeds the salary of the “miner”. Raised in the spirit of “I am a leader,” he begins to feel insecure and turns into a teenager who gets offended over trifles or relaxes to sin against his wife. As a result, women who are “shuttlers, reapers and male players” are already suffering.
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How to make a happy and wealthy family
When a family on the verge of collapse comes to a psychologist and talks about typical problems, the doctor tries to pay attention to such pleasant words as compromise. Having decided to start a family, both need to decide how the family will be guaranteed and what it will do if there is not enough money. It is a good idea to discuss the distribution of finances as well as income.
- It is worth understanding that spouses are partners of sorts and that marriage can be viewed as a contract. Each partner has both responsibilities and rights.
- On the other hand, you should forget about language based on the gender characteristics of partners. Women are no longer required to live in the kitchen, men — in the workplace. The world has changed a lot.
- Even if everything goes well, do not forget about your own development. Having your own source of income, albeit small, is the path to confidence in your own character.
The needs of a modern person often do not correspond to his financial capabilities. Not everyone can make every effort to implement their own plans. One of them is a communal apartment and enough space for pasta for lunch. Others want to have their own transport (not economy class) and the opportunity to vacation abroad.
This should also be taken into account when creating a couple. Everyone knows how to dream, so you should pay attention not only to the similarity of life goals, but also to the ability to achieve them.
Correct conclusions
Re-educating adults is a lot of work, not real work. People who are afraid of being responsible love to talk about relationships and money. At the same time, the prosecutor is trying to hush up his negativity.
If a person truly represents her as she is, then it is worth starting a relationship. After all, it’s one thing to go on a date to a cozy cafe, and another to live with another person under the same roof. Everyone must have the opportunity to earn money.
Many adult husbands ask their wives to stop their careers, and they comply with this request. Their focus is on family and daily life, as well as on their hobbies, but spouses who leave when the family is in financial crisis may find work, albeit temporarily. This is just one example of a suitable family. And there are many such options.
