What to do if you don”t satisfy him or her
Often relationships that start out beautifully, with flowers and chocolates, “break down” on the first romantic night, when “the one” becomes “the one.” And from this moment on, men begin to think about the questions: “What am I doing wrong?”, “What if I am not satisfied?” and “How the hell is this right?” Sometimes these thoughts move from mildly disturbing to particularly obsessive and destroy the life of a young person. With each new failure in bed, fear grows at incredible speed until it develops into a real problem that cannot be gotten rid of without the help of a doctor.
Contents of the article:
Correcting the first impression
What to do if you disappoint your partner the first time you have sex? It”s easy if it”s “one-time sex” and, as a rule, you don”t owe her anything. But what if you courted this girl for six months and secretly dreamed about her for several years before. Something just stuck and floated on the horizon, but did you have any “disappointments”? This doesn”t sound very comforting, but it”s still not the end of the world. And that”s not even the end of your story. Perhaps you were overstimulated and dreamed of your own beauty, so when the real opportunity for intimate relationships was lost, your body could not stand the stress and gave in. This problem is not fatal for your newly created couple if you are truly important to the girl and she respects your relationship. By the way, such embarrassment is not uncommon. The reason for this may be a lack of reconciliation on an emotional level. In other words, you imbue the object of worship with an unreal and supernatural quality and super coolness. Behind all this, normal human traits, landing and returning to reality are not always visible. To please their ideals, men often set too high goals for themselves and fail to achieve them. And in this case, the brain makes its own decisions. It”s better not to do it at all than to do something about it, because so far I haven”t been able to become Superman.
Have an honest conversation with your girl and tell her that she might be worried. Oddly enough, in most cases this works, and the woman of your heart does not run away from you and does not throw the gifted chrysanthemum in your face.
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Stagnation in relationships
It often happens that people stop enjoying each other after the initial wave of falling in love subsides. You have passed the candy-bouquet period, experienced a phase of mutual euphoria, began to take off your rose-colored glasses more often and objectively assess your joint prospects. In short, they moved out. After three or four months of sugar cuddling instead of sex and, excuse me, licking, there”s no need to sound the alarm if you just want to lie in bed and watch TV in silence. It”s not a problem. This does not mean that your partner stopped loving you, found someone else and lost interest in you. You cannot excite a man (or woman) for the rest of his (her) life in the same way as when undressing in front of each other for the first time. Pay attention to the lifestyle and habits of your joints, ask the question: “What will happen when you stop satisfying your partner?” Equally important is the presence of common interests, environment and appearance. Even if you have won the chosen one (chosen one) of your heart, this does not mean that you can start flashing before his eyes in worn tracksuits and worn-out slippers. As soon as he sees such a picture, he is overcome with anxiety and begins to get nervous. In the same section, you can mention shaggy hair, lack of hair removal in appropriate places, piles of dirty dishes in the sink and laundry in the bathroom (women should pay attention to this).
Remove irritants
- Finally, remember that women don”t like it when their partners don”t take off their socks before sex. Even if these are your favorite socks, even if you have cold feet! Take them off!
- Hygiene. Is it worth reminding you again about fresh breath, the unacceptable smell of sweat and, of course, clean underwear? Don”t count on ignoring any of these factors—something is different (in some ways, better) this time.
- Talking during sex. Not everyone likes it, but it can work. Ask the girl what she wants and how she likes it, and don’t torture yourself with mental questions, thereby distracting yourself from the process and only heating up the situation. Ask her what she likes, seriously, calmly, without nervousness or disappointment in your voice.
- Experiment, but don”t overdo it. It”s good to try something new sexually, but only if both partners agree to it. Don”t start anal sex with a girl suddenly and without warning if you don”t want to end up with a scandal, but successfully. Expect her to enjoy your creativity.
Remember: any problem can be solved. But it will not be mutual isolation and silence that will help solve it, but a frank heart-to-heart conversation and, of course, your personal efforts.
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