Women”s complaints against a man. Blaming one”s own unfulfilled dreams
You don”t need to spend a lot of money on surveys, studies and analytical tables to understand that men and women have many complaints about each other. I just want to speak in the voice of a black cat from the cartoon “A Kitten Named Woof.” The mammoth was too small. Is it warmer there, with all the stone tools in the next cave? To be honest, not much has changed since then.
Contents of the article:
Why do complaints actually arise?
Any statement is, in fact, an accusation. Rather than blaming someone for a specific wrongdoing, it is much more complex. Claims are made when expectations are disappointed and reality does not live up to the dream. There were no complaints, because there were no expectations, because there was nothing to come from, because there was disappointment.
Women are much more likely to idealize the ideas they choose. Moreover, when falling in love, courting, or putting on rose-colored glasses, people tend to look better than they really are. Logics. At the initial stages of dating, no one advertises their shortcomings. An idealized idea of a person is created, which harsh reality certainly begins to destroy. Women are disappointed in their expectations and make claims against men.
What are wives and mistresses most often dissatisfied with?
The general complaints of women about the collective image of a modern man are as follows:
- Men have become rude, disrespectful and less “gentlemanly”. Of course, few people see the reason for this in women”s struggle for gender equality.
- They don”t want to be responsible. And this applies mainly to the sphere of relationships. In business, at work and in life situations, representatives of the stronger sex still make decisions and are ready to take full responsibility if these decisions turn out to be wrong.
- Women”s opinions are not heard at all. Perhaps this is the result of a worldwide male conspiracy: “Listen to women and do the opposite.”
At the everyday level, husbands often hear the following:
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People are rational, but they cannot escape their instincts. For animals, this is a natural and necessary process of protecting their territory. In the human world.
- You don’t love me (you don’t hear, you don’t understand, you don’t want).
- These are selfish people who think only about themselves and their needs (they are rarely at home, often sit at home and prefer to spend their free time with friends).
- They are emotionally petty, stay away from conversations, and consider their wives to be hysterical.
- Kids, not wanting to bear responsibility, leave everything to chance.
The list is endless. But it doesn”t matter much. In the end, all of the above points say the same thing in different ways. And when she looks at the world from the perspective that she is a little mean and even selfish and “owes me and my husband more than anyone else,” an intergender argument easily and naturally turns into interpersonal conflict.
What to do with complaints against a man
A claim is a dangerous and destructive thing.
If you look closely, you can come to some rather unexpected conclusions. And why do people generally allow themselves to invent, fantasize and deceive themselves, and then consider themselves entitled to blame others for not meeting their expectations?
Complaining ruins relationships. Why? After all, instead of finding out the cause of the dissatisfaction, just find out where it came from, talk to your loved one, and the claim will be made. Blaming, attacking people and disrespecting their worth as human beings. The desire to resolve controversial issues from the position of “you owe me, you owe me” is a dead end. Dissatisfaction can be expressed in rather unpleasant ways, for example, by raising the voice and notes of hysteria. Basically, “it”s your fault that you don”t do what I want and I can”t change you.” It”s unfair, ugly and wrong.
All women make complaints sometimes. But at the same time, they remain rational beings and know how to express their opinions. Most people know exactly when to tell themselves to stop and understand that such conversations are pointless. The ability to listen to your own voice and understand that the words spoken are offensive and unfair is a valuable quality. He will stop, admit he is wrong, change the tone of the conversation and listen to what the other person has to say.
Learn to hear and understand your loved one. Or break up
If the accusations continue endlessly, and one of them is very different from the other”s idea of an ideal partner, does it make sense to think about whether they should stay together? There are not many options for solving the problem. You can either put up with endless little things, or break up and find someone really close, or learn to understand and respect each other.
