Blowjob — a complete guide to oral pleasure
Fellatio is considered something very despicable for a woman, but now it has become almost a natural part of sex life, and most men are waiting for a girl. But how can you make sure that both guys like it and you feel comfortable (and ideally, comfortable)? Here, in as much detail as possible, you will see that there is no water in the housing.
Contents of the article:
- What is blowjob
- How to prepare for a blow job?
- How to make a blowjob comfortable for a girl
- Enthusiasm
- Where to start?
- How to caress a penis?
- A little about the psychological aspect
- Which pose should you choose?
- Risks
- Awkward questions (what to expect from the process)
- Guys talk about the best blowjobs of their lives
What is blowjob
Fellatio is oral sex in which a man makes love to the penis using his mouth, hands and sex toys, but does not penetrate the vagina or anus. The opposite situation is called cunnilingus, when a woman receives such love se When oral love breaks up at the anus — this is a fringe.
By the way, an interesting fact: the word “fellatio” is French. Mainly used in Russia. Previously, its synonyms were such expressions as “French love”, “French kiss” (now a kiss with the tongue is called a French kiss).
In the English language learning space, the term blow job is used. And caressing the penis in your hands is manual work.
How to prepare for a blow job?
In principle, the preparation stage can be divided into two equally important blocks: your personal comfort and your baby’s preferences. It makes sense to take steps to ensure that the blowjob session itself is comfortable and enjoyable for both parties.
- Ask your boyfriend how he likes it.
If he has already given you a blowjob, then most likely he has a personal preference. Although the physiology of each person”s penis is the same (the physiology of the vagina is the same as that of girls), as you will read about it below, everyone”s preferences are different.
For example, some people like to be fast and focused, while others don”t. When someone concentrates on the head, some love, some prefer the love s test circle, and some are distracted only by touching. I don’t care whether someone is engaged in lovemaking with their butt or anal penis at this time.
If a man has not yet given a blowjob, this makes the situation easier and more difficult at the same time.
This is easier — perhaps because it is easier for an inexperienced man to make him cum, because he himself will be aroused in order to humiliate him that he was lovingly caressed with his mouth. This is more difficult — because you both will have to experiment to find out whether he likes it or not. Everything is the same as during normal sex. It is very unlikely that both virgin participants will agree that first sex is very fun and exciting.
If a man is inexperienced, let him watch pornography with fellatio together and let him say what he wants. Please note that the exercises and poses from pornography may seem very erotic, since in pornography everything is aimed primarily at the visual component.
Another way to find out what he likes is to ask him to do a monk and look at his hands. This way, you can repeat the movements of his fingers during this minute, lovingly care for the place that the man touched most often, and repeat the pace of his movements.
- Warn the man about what you don”t like.
If you think in advance what actions are unacceptable for you at the moment, then talk about it with your boyfriend.
For example, what are you going to do with the sperm? Are you willing to swallow it, or let the man cum on your face, chest, or hair, or keep the cum as far away from you as possible?
Do you agree to take his penis deep into your mouth and very deep into your throat (SO-CALLED “deep throat” technique)?
Do you agree that He is directing your actions by placing His hand on your head?
Do you agree to allow him, for example, to call other methods “dirty words”?
Remember that you don”t have to do absolutely anything you don”t want to do. Nothing. Moreover, your boyfriend will benefit from it if you clearly define your boundaries. In a way, yes, he may have erotic fantasies about sperm on a girl”s face. However, in this imagination, the girl is happy about it, but it doesn”t look like she is sick now. Therefore, discussing boundaries immediately will make both of you feel comfortable.
This includes the preparatory phase. If you”re here for a blowjob, you probably know how handsome your guy is and whether he has hair down there. So remember his penis and ask yourself, are you ready to take it into your mouth? Or do you want the guy to cut or shave the hair between your legs (seriously, it gets in the way), or you take a shower before a blow job?
By the way, talking about the soul does not necessarily have a strictly “maternal” connotation. This may be part of sexual play.
How to make a blowjob comfortable for a girl
It makes the process more comfortable for you and for him. In fact, it is secreted intensely because there is not enough saliva even when using life hacks (eating something sour or sweet before fellatio, chewing gum or drinking water).
In addition, saliva quickly dries on both the tongue and the penis. Due to rapid drying, the jaws rub more, and licking needs to be stronger and smoother. Another inconvenience of saliva: it is difficult to squeeze it out as needed, and such a need may arise.
Therefore, using lubricant makes the job much easier. It is best to use water-based lubricants. This is because they mimic saliva in large quantities.
Of course, lubricants must be edible. It”s best to choose non-standard flavors (such as strawberry or chocolate, which are the least popular) because these flavors are usually less chemical and more pleasant. After all, you literally have to eat and lick it, it’s better if it evokes a pleasant sensation rather than a desire to brush your teeth.
Important: It is better to avoid heating and cooling lubricants. They are too intense and can damage the oral cavity (warming up) or, conversely, “freeze” it too much, so that you will not be able to understand that you need to relax or that you have scratched a man with your teeth.
They can be used both on yourself and on him.
About yourself — because a blowjob shouldn”t be completely focused on the man (unless you want it to be).
Sexual activity is a dance consisting of two dances: the dance of the man and the dance of the woman. So it will be very normal if you love-groom yourself in the middle (and you can choose a position in which he can love-groom). Therefore, why not use a blowjob in the middle, for example with a vibrator?
Then you can use it to, firstly, diversify the stimulation and, secondly, give your jaw a rest (believe me, this is tiring).
You can do this to the penis using a regular vibrator, a round head and reins, a scrotum post mat or trial circle, or buy an adult male toy. For example, vacuum stimulators, which provide a very intense effect and a very fast orgasm.
- Hygiene and convenience for you
Its hygiene has already been discussed above. What can you do to feel cleaner? First, brush your teeth before giving a blowjob. Secondly, take off your clothes. It is more convenient to perform fellatio naked, since otherwise the sperm may end up in the most unpredictable places. Thirdly, if you are not ready to finish your hairstyle, it is better to remove it. Fourth, don”t strive for comfort. For example, you are not required to kneel if they are being rubbed in this position.
Enthusiasm
Much has been said about the benefits of fellatio for technicians. Do you consider the path that language takes, the person writing, and how to tie it into a bow using only the tongue.
But the truth is that men are not stone statues at all in terms of emotions. It is important for them that the girl enjoys the process. Therefore, she is pleased, and she is pleased to lose favor, or to receive something, or to say: “I was you for a few minutes — you gave me cunnilingus.”
The lion”s share is to see that you are ready to give him pleasure, that you want his penis, that you want to lick him, that you love to caress him with your hands and are not ashamed of the sounds you make, you like his taste, color, smell. After all, men also have problems with the appearance of their genitals.
So try to recognize that this is your pleasure, not just his. Enjoy the interaction with the body of your loved one, the trust he places in you, the intimacy of the moment.
If you are tired of this process, you don’t like it, you creak or feel humiliated — it’s better not to do it at all. He will see that you are disgusted and feel like a rapist, so he will not be disgusted or pleased by you either.
As with any other sexual activity, the only appropriate motivation for fellatio is “I want to do it.” Not “he suppresses me, so I do this.” Because otherwise I would have turned out to be tight and notorious”; “I’m on my period, and he needs it”; “I need to do this because he does it.” Because he gave me cunnilingus.
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Anal sex is one of the most popular sexual practices. Check your pornography request statistics. And men often ask girls to introduce them to.
I just want.” And “I don”t want” is then a suitable and acceptable argument for refusing anything related to fellatio. And if your boyfriend pushes you when you don”t want it, this is a good reason to think about whether you need such a man, since he violates your personal boundaries.
Where to start?
Foreplay included. When you get to the main course, your man will be warmer and more excited — better hurry. Hug him, kiss him, play with his hair, kiss him and go down, pull his body down and slowly undress him and shower every exposed inch of skin with love.
You know in your tongue how much you want to feel his cock, how much you care and want to please him. Knowing that you want him will make your man even stronger.
Even if you go all the way down, do not touch his penis or put it in your mouth. Inhale the scent, rub your cheek, run the tip of your nail along the inside of his thigh and say something dirty to him.
Of course, these recommendations are not a panacea. Some men don”t like long foreplay; they are not as comfortable with the idea of a long, dirty and unclean male life. Besides, you simply cannot be in a situation where you are spreading the idea of trees. Focus on your partner”s desires: for example, if he is impatient and constantly pulls you down, listen to him. Well, or tears. Whatever you like, darling.
How to caress a penis?
Therefore, you should know about the physiology of the male penis and its immediate environment.
- The most sensitive part of the penis is the glans.
You can care for it in different ways: lick, suck, take it into your mouth and gently massage the muscles of your mouth (tongue, cheeks, gently roll your mouth). Since the glans is the most sensitive end of the glans, it is technically possible to bring a man to orgasm without putting the penis in his mouth at all.
This is where the head connects to the barrel. She is also very sensitive, many men love to touch her. For example, you can draw on the tip of your tongue.
This area is less sensitive, so more intense love sessions can be used. In most cases, a boot is love in the palm of our hand: we grasp it and massage it from above. A simple and effective tactic: suck and lick the head while moving your palm up and down the penis.
It all depends on the person”s preferences. Some people only become distracted when the testicles are stimulated. It is also very sensitive and should be handled gently and carefully. It can be gently massaged, stroked with your fingertips, licked and sucked.
- Lower abdomen, inner thighs and buttocks.
Here all this can be kissed, lightly bitten, chewed, scratched or allowed more intense touching. However, not all men agree that they should cross their legs, and keep in mind that many have strong prejudices against it. Do it.
- Anal hole.
Some men don”t even mind stroking this area or inserting fingers or toys during fellatio (which creates a very intense impact on two sensitive, flexible areas at once), but some men categorically object. If you”re tempted to do something to his butt, it”s best to ask first. Not all men are ready to feel your hands.
An important point: teeth are a taboo for most men. Judge for yourself: imagine that you are doing cunnilingus, and a man bites your clitoris. However, everything that was inside was taken, right? And that”s all. It will also most likely be uncomfortable for him. At most, you can lightly “hold” his penis with your teeth, but it is better to do this with his permission.
Specific instructions based on all of the above:
- First, simply touch his penis. Take your palm and massage it lightly, trying to do it in a way that is most comfortable for you. You can give a few compliments, the man will probably be pleased, all people in such a situation are a little worried about the appearance and smell of their genitals.
- Focus your main attention on your head. Kiss her, lick her lips and tongue with lots of saliva and lube, tease her with the tip of your tongue, take it into your mouth, start sucking on it and play with the intensity of your movements.
- Meanwhile, stimulate your torso with your hand. Stroke up and down with masturbatory movements, as men themselves do during masturbation.
- You can also pay attention to other areas: carefully place your fingers on his testicles, take them in your palm and massage them lightly. You can take the penis deep into your mouth and squeeze his buttocks at the same time. If he gets tired of concentrating on the penis, you can go higher and kiss his stomach, cover his chest with kisses and light bites, go higher and kiss his lips.
From a technical point of view, this is enough for men to enjoy.
A little about the psychological aspect
- First of all, don”t be afraid to make noise.
Most men love it and it only turns her on more because it shows the girl is having fun. There”s no need to moan on purpose. No need to be shy. And if you feel like moaning, don’t be shy, it excites the guy and makes him happy!
- Secondly, about appearance.
Most men like it when women look down on them. Some people see liberation and sexuality in this, others see it as humility and submission, but most people like it, it’s a common porn technique.
- Third, look at his body language.
Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to blowjobs. It”s difficult to give specific advice here because some people are fast, some are slow, and some have different sexual pleasure zones. Pay attention to his behavior, as it is very difficult to hide sexual pleasure.
If he breathes faster and faster. Throws back the arc, the hips. Curls his toes. He clings to something with his hands. He grumbles and says something in support. His face turns red and sweats — you are doing everything right, keep up the good work.
Don”t stop and change tactics at the last moment. This will defeat him and prevent him from having an orgasm. If this is your goal (this technique is called edging: almost bringing yourself to orgasm and not allowing it at the last moment) — no problem, but if you want him to cum — do not change the stimulation.
- Enjoy the process, make your man want it and try a delicious pie that you want to lick and eat right now.
Dirty words, compliments on his dick, sounds, looks, genuine enthusiasm noticeable in every movement — all this is brought to life. Simple touch and stimulation excite.
- And to enjoy it, do not forget to take care of it. If your chin is tired, give it a rest. If you”re not feeling well, don”t just focus on your penis; Touch yourself with fingers or toys if you”re excited.
Which pose should you choose?
Most men think of it when they think of fellatio. To make it more comfortable, place a pillow under your knees; Standing like that for 30 minutes can actually cause chafing.
The man lies on the bed, his legs hanging over the edge of the floor, and the woman kneels between his legs and caresses him with her mouth. The dominant-submissive dynamic is reduced and becomes more comfortable as they can lean on something with their hands.
The man stands and the woman sits between the man”s legs, facing his genitals. Comfortable.
In this position they can caress each other. However, the classic 69 is very difficult to perform when both partners are lying down — it”s easier.
The man lies on his back, the woman lies between his legs and makes love with his mouth. Yes, it looks like cunnilingus, but it”s fellatio. Both partners can add pillows to make it more comfortable.
Risks
The main risk here is contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Transmitted through oral sex:
- Chlamydia
- GO disease;
- Syphilis
- Herpes
- Human papillomavirus;
- HIV;
- Trichomoniasis.
As you know, the risk of pregnancy from oral sex is minimal. To do this, you must be very lucky to get the sperm from the vaginal opening.
It is important to note that both the one who gives the blowjob and the one who receives it can become infected.
Another risk of developing a sexual disease during oral contact is that if bacteria spread from the penis of a sick man to the mucous membrane of a woman, the disease will affect the throat. This is very dangerous.
The main way to avoid the disease is with condoms, but most couples do not use them. This is because it is believed to reduce the intensity of sensations. Actually this is not true. Although the sensations are reduced, they are very minor because the latex of the condom is very thin — it is not armor or a gas mask, but a thin barrier through which bacteria and sperm can break through.
If you and your partner use condoms during oral sex, you”re fine. To enhance the sensations, more intense stimulation is sufficient.
If you don”t use a condom, at least test both to make sure the diseases aren”t spreading to each other.
Awkward questions (what to expect from the process)
- How long does it last?
Typically 10-20 minutes. It depends on many factors. How excited a person is at the beginning of the process, how much he guesses the pace of movement or the trance zone. If the process is slow and tedious, do not rush to move on to another sexual practice. If only a man has achieved orgasm, he is not obliged to “sit in triumph.”
- What should I do if my chin is tired?
Give her a break. Release your penis, lovingly caress it with your hands, kiss the inside of her stomach and thighs, move up and kiss her lips—whatever it takes until her mouth gets a break.
- Do you have to take it deep?
No. It”s completely optional. Many people have such erotic fantasies, but if you don”t like the prospect, you have every right to refuse.
Physiologically, the head of his penis can only make you orgasm. This is because it”s the most sensitive. “Deep Ship” is designed for visual pleasure and the fulfillment of erotic fantasies about a completely submissive woman.
- But what if it”s not to my taste?
Well, in general, normal people”s dicks aren”t as big as those of actors in pornography. In pornography, they deliberately acquire very large fellows and even choose appropriate angles to make it look downright menacing.
Regular male dicks are usually 10-15 centimeters long and don”t have the most impressive girth, so there”s usually no problem with them “not fitting.” However, if your guy is truly naturally endowed, and you have a very small mouth, you can quite easily lick him with your tongue without holding him in your mouth, or take him as far as you feel comfortable. You can take him as long as you feel comfortable.
- Have any of our club members tried it?
Typically, the lubricant and skin of the penis have a slightly salty taste. This mainly depends on how clean the man is at the time (if he hasn”t washed, the taste will be different). He may be sweaty or dirty), his health (his health can affect the taste of the lubricant), and his diet (if he eats any). (If he eats more meat, the lubricant will be saltier; if he eats a lot of fruits and vegetables, it will be sweeter.)
The consistency of semen is similar to lightly beaten egg white or (pardon the unappetizing comparison) cold snot. It tastes like fat, has a salty aftertaste, and is sometimes described as “raw,” “fishy,” or “nutty.”
- What if I vomit?
As an extreme exception, this usually happens very rarely if the woman is drunk during a blowjob. If you feel sick, stop making out and hold your breath. Alternatively, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth to stop the gag reflex. There”s no need to continue to deal with nausea and a drunken head.
- What if I hurt him?
As already mentioned, biting is prohibited unless the man asks. Don”t worry. Accidentally biting a man”s penis is not as easy as it seems. If you are very worried, make sure that your teeth are always “clasped” by your lips.
Guys talk about the best blowjobs of their lives
- She started with long, slow licks from top to bottom, then teased the head a little with her tongue. She then started taking me inside her and licking the base of my dick while I was deep in her mouth. She constantly moaned and cast affectionate glances at me, but could not let me close enough and kept me in suspense.
She felt it was time for me to cum, so she fucked me nonstop and caressed the base of my dick with her hand. The orgasm was so strong that it spread throughout my entire body and lasted at least a minute. I experienced multiple orgasms. I didn’t know where I was, I didn’t know who I was, I was just drowning in pleasure.
I couldn”t move for half an hour. My whole body was electrified and I shuddered every time she touched me.
