How to choose a man for sex? A checklist for those looking for a partner
How to choose a man for sex? What should you pay attention to in your partner to know in advance how enjoyable or uncomfortable sex will be? And what issues are best discussed in advance to avoid disappointment in your intimate life later? This article is a short but useful checklist for anyone looking for a sexual partner.
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Attraction is Important
The first thing you need to know is the signals your body is sending you. Do you find your potential partner attractive? Do you like the way they smell? Research has shown that, at a genetic level, people are more compatible with partners they find attractive. Genetic compatibility increases the likelihood that a partner will have a good sex life and a strong relationship.
Attention to Hygiene
Everyone loves to fall in love with a clean and tidy partner. Hygiene is very important in sexual relationships. Make sure your partner takes care of themselves. Are you comfortable with the amount of hair on their body? Would you say their skin is clean and pleasant to the touch?
Unpleasant odor and other signs of poor hygiene can impact your enjoyment of sex. It doesn”t matter how attractive your partner”s face or body is to you, or how skilled they are.
Respect and Sensitivity
Does your partner respect you and your desires? How do they view sex and women in general? Do they care about your pleasure, or do you think their orgasm is all that matters?
Finding answers to these questions before physical intimacy is very helpful. Otherwise, you could experience psychological or physical trauma, as well as an unpleasant and negative experience.
If, midway through, you feel like your partner isn”t paying enough attention to your pleasure, isn”t sensitive enough, or that intimacy overall is making you anxious or uncomfortable, don”t be afraid to stop.
A woman”s pleasure is no less important than a man”s. You also have the right to say “no” at any time if something isn”t going your way.
Discussing Expectations
Talk with your partner about your expectations of them and your sex life. Then, ask about their expectations and compare them with yours.
Want to have sex every now and then, but don”t want to call your relationship a relationship? Is your partner happy with a parallel romantic relationship with someone else? Are you comfortable with your partner having sex with someone else sometimes (or regularly)? Would you exchange certificates stating that you do not have sexually transmitted diseases? What would you and your partner do if you got pregnant? How often would you like to have sex?
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If your needs don”t align with your partner”s, you”ll likely be disappointed with your sex life. People get upset when they can”t have sex as often as they want. But you can”t have sex when you don”t feel good. This can be painful and lead to dissatisfaction with your sex life.
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If you can”t find a compromise on the frequency of sex, the easiest and most beneficial option for both partners is to find someone else to have sex with.
By discussing these questions, you will learn more about both yourself and your partner. If all the details of the deal are discussed in advance, you will know exactly what to expect from sex and relationships. Additionally, discussing important issues such as contraception, illness, and pregnancy beforehand can reduce a woman”s anxiety during intercourse. And the more a woman worries, the easier it is for her to experience excitement and pleasure. Discussing issues related to sex directly affects the quality of sex itself.
Setting Boundaries
What kind of sexual experience do you want to have? What type of stimulation do you like? Maybe you prefer only non-penetrative sex — touching, mutual masturbation, oral sex? If you”re attracted to penetrative sex, are you comfortable with vaginal only, anally only, or both? Would you like to try adult toys? What poses do you like and what pace of movements do you prefer? Are you more comfortable taking the initiative into your own hands or giving it away? Would you like to try more exotic practices, such as some elements of BDSM? Do you like to talk in bed? What turns you on more: dirty talk or praise? What is your foreplay like and should it continue to excite you?
The more issues you and your partner discuss before sex, the more comfortable your experience together will be. Don”t be afraid to talk about what you”re attracted to, as well as what you want to avoid. Pay attention to your boundaries and respect his comfort (or discomfort) rather than trying to convince your partner to violate them.
If compromise doesn”t work (for example, if you don”t want to perform fellatio and it”s important to your partner), your best option is to break up with the unsuitable partner and continue your search.
This simple checklist will teach you how to choose men for sex, save time and avoid bad experiences.
