Lost interest in sex? How to Rekindle Intimacy in Your Relationship
Lost interest in sex? How to Rekindle Intimacy in Your Relationship
Have you—or your spouse—lost interest in sex? When one of you initiates physical contact, is the other too busy or in a bad mood? Are you afraid that the wonderful feeling of warmth and ignition that brought you together has faded and will never return? Do you miss the intimacy that sex used to bring? In this article
- Couples who come to me want to stay together
- Ways to ignite the sexual fire in your relationship
- Focus on sensation exercises
- As you go into your day, be curious about what”s going on.
When sexual desire in a marriage begins to wane, some couples redirect their sexual energy to work and raising children. Perhaps one or both will secretly begin to look outside their marriage for someone to reignite their excitement. Others begin to wonder if they are heading for divorce.
Couples who come to me want to stay together
Is it possible to restore intimacy? Although they despair that part of their relationship has died, they strive to bring sexual intimacy back into their marriage, although they are not sure how. They hope to find ways to spark intimacy in your relationship—new positions, sex toys, watching porn together—the list goes on. Often one of them thinks there is something wrong with them or their partner that needs to be fixed. Can a marriage survive without emotional intimacy? Or physical intimacy for that matter? No it can”t. He can survive without sex if there are medical reasons for it. But not without physical and emotional intimacy. Without marriage, couples would be nothing more than glorified roommates. It”s important to make an effort to rekindle intimacy in your relationship. Can you bring back attraction to a sexless relationship? Yes, it is possible if you work to resolve intimacy issues in your marriage. How to fix intimacy problems in marriage? I suggest to them that
- There”s nothing wrong with either of you. When you go deep into your body, it will show you exactly what it needs to be vibrant and whole.
- To reconnect intimately with your partner, you need to first connect with yourself—especially the sensations you experience in your own body.
- The best way to please your partner is to focus on what gives you pleasure.
Then I introduce them to sexual wellness, a method I”ve developed that undoes everything you think about sex and opens you up to a whole new world of connection and eroticism!
Ways to ignite the sexual fire in your relationship
Sexual Wellness Practice This program is designed to rekindle the intimacy in your relationship so that you feel more pleasure throughout your body, respond better to touch, and are more connected to your partner.
In other words, it restores your natural vitality and vitality. You start to enjoy what you do — in or out of the bedroom!
Rekindle intimacy in your relationship. Sexual wellness practices begin with simple non-sexual touch and then expand to a full range of sexual expression as your body awakens. You will learn that sexuality is a journey without a destination and that there are unlimited possibilities for where it can take you! The first two levels of practice, which introduce sensual touch, subtle movement, and sensation-based communication, can be done alone or with a partner to reignite intimacy in your relationship. More advanced levels include sex play and erotica. Some of these practices can be done alone, while others can be done with a lover. Curious? I invite you to try this PG version of a healthy sexual practice to reignite intimacy in your relationship. Then, if you want to learn how this practice can be expanded into sex play, give me a call! To rekindle intimacy in your relationship, this can be done alone or sitting next to your partner.
Focus on sensation exercises
Set a timer for 8 minutes (preferably one that doesn”t light up!)
- Sit in a comfortable position for 10 minutes. Do not cross your arms or legs unless you are sitting on a meditation cushion.
- Start the timer.
- Close your eyes and become aware of your breathing. Without trying to change your breathing in any way, pay attention to the duration of inhalation and exhalation. Become curious.
- Tune in to the slight movements that occur with your breathing, such as the rise and fall of your belly or the feeling of expansion/relaxation in your chest.
- Now pay attention to one place in your body, say the back of your hand. Focus on any sensations you feel there, such as tension, warmth, vibration, pain, pulling, and even numbness.
- For the next few minutes, focus all your attention on this single area. Notice how it feels to give him your full attention without asking him to change it — just like you would love a small child or an animal that climbed into your lap. If you are distracted by a thought or emotion, notice it and then gently bring your awareness back to the sensation.
- When the timer goes off, slowly open your eyes. Take another minute to notice what has changed for you. Do you feel quieter or more relaxed? How is this the place you are giving your full attention to now? Is it buzzing, hot, cold, less stressed, more awake?
As you go into your day, be curious about what”s going on.
How”s your energy? Is it harder or easier to achieve your goal? Can you stay connected to what you feel in your body and enjoy whatever sensations arise? Most importantly, pay attention. Do you feel more connected and open to your partner? If you find yourself speeding or distracted, no problem! Use this awareness as an opportunity to stop, take a breath, focus on the sensation in your body, and start again! If you follow this practice every day, you will soon be able to rekindle intimacy in your relationship.
