My wife wants MFM — should I agree?
While inviting someone into the marital bed can be a positive experience for all participants, the presence of a third party increases the risk all couples face due to feelings of jealousy and aversion to uncomfortable realities, such as sexually transmitted infections and social stigma.
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What would you do if your wife wanted an MFM, and you were genuinely skeptical about its success?
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- First of all, you never know how to react until you do it. At that point, it’s too late. A friend of mine in college couldn’t get the memory out of his head of his wife moaning and screaming in orgasm over another man. Alone with her, he remembered it.” — Vladimir Harkonnen.
- “No, no, no, no, we didn’t start over! Sex is too tied to an emotional connection and rife with risk.” — Dan.
- “Actually, I wasn’t interested, but my husband talked me out of it. It was fun, and now we’re swingers. I love my husband, and he loves me. There has to be trust between you and your wife. I hope this helps.” — Mary Davis.
- My wife was into the idea. So I told her if she wanted to, we could do it. She found a guy she thought was hot and asked him to join us. “Everything was wonderful!” – Sam.
- “Stop being weak and just find new joy.” – Josephine Rosatti.
- “Go with her as soon as possible.” – Gary Goree.
- “Because of the obvious consequences, it’s best not to.” – Jose Palacios.
- “I say yes! There are experiences others only fantasize about. As for all this nonsense about “it’s too dangerous,” your wife is already thinking about sex with other people, but she wants you around. You refuse, and she’ll probably do it behind your back.” — Harry Scott.
- People have sexual fantasies and fetishes all the time (sometimes very strange ones), but that doesn’t mean they should be acted on. – Swati Panwar.
- No one can answer that question for you but you. If you can see it fairly, you can make your wife happy; if you can see it fairly, you can make your wife happy. Otherwise, there’s no point in doing something that will ultimately harm you, just because of your imagination. — [OSS]
- “Try it! Talk about it! Fantasize together. What does she like? What would you like to do? But if you’re completely unwilling to do those things, just say so up front and drop the subject.” — Suzanne Fair.
- “I don’t think you have to consent to a sexual act you don’t want to do.” — Jeremy Grenesk
- “It’s a pleasure for her on your part, but the final decision to participate or not is entirely yours. If you feel uncomfortable about it, it might be best to say no. If she truly loves you, she should respect your feelings.” — Sharon Talbot
- “The biggest problem in sex is J. Fortunately, with proper communication, almost any problem that arises can be overcome.” — Robert Lopez
- “Is it a random stranger or a friend? Does it involve direct intercourse only (i.e., oral, anal, etc.)? My friend, you need to answer a lot of questions before you decide to go down that path.” — Question
- “Tell me, if you have to share her with a man, then next time she should find another attractive woman.” -Ed DeLoach
- If you’re not interested, then you don’t need to have sex three times. Make it clear to your partner that you’re not interested.” -Zachary Maximillian
- In some ways, I’d have to say you’re one of the lucky few.” — Michael Aaron
- Be a responsible adult and talk to your wife about what she wants. What boundaries, agreements, and rules will you need to make it happen? Or, if you’re not interested, walk away. Your choice.” — Gavin H.
- I’ll go for it! But remember, you’re opening a door that can’t be closed. So be prepared for this to become the standard for the future of your marriage.” — Tadd Bennett
- There are only two decisions. Yes or No. Either way, you both need to have a stable relationship, and you need to be ready for it.” — Anonymous
- This is a big commitment that has subsequently destroyed many relationships. Are you ready for that? “And yes, when she says ‘three,’ are you sure you’re one of those three?” – Frank Hicks.
- I’d throw them out, but I’d never put third first. Otherwise, your relationship is over.” – Shri-Lynn Simas
- Don’t do this, it will ruin your marriage. These encounters evoke strong, deep, subconscious, negative feelings. In most cases, these encounters, at a minimum, end in divorce. You already have fears, which is why you’re seeking advice. Listen to that inner voice that tells you this will end in disaster.” — Neo Svensson.
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Here you decide whether you agree with MZM. Everything depends on whether it is acceptable This practice is for you. It is very important that group sex only occurs with mutual consent. Otherwise, serious disagreements, arguments, and mutual recriminations may arise between you in the future. If you want to spice up your intimate life, don’t consider MFF cheating—why would you? It’s a wonderful practice that provides a lot of intimate pleasure. If you are against it and don’t want to see your wife with another man, tell your wife so directly.
