How to find your love with your ideal match?
We all wish we could stop asking how we can find love. In an ideal universe, people would somehow meet and fall in love without putting any effort into the process. In reality, the handsome guy on Tinder turns out to be an Instagram dad blogger and a fully married man.
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And the ideal lover on VKontakte is a girl who will repost pies so as not to lose beautiful photos on her website. Yes, the “chemistry” of parameters cannot be destroyed. They often start relationships with the most inappropriate people, but love happens here too. What if there was a relationship, but the love was strained? Worth a look.
How to find your love — the first Zen way
This method belongs to Zensky. Because you don”t have to do anything. How to find your love? Just live your life. How about sports? Train, participate in competitions, attend themed events. You don”t have to wait until you find someone. You will do anything for him. It is very difficult to build relationships if a person does not know anything about himself.
You have to search for yourself. Try to truly understand what pleases you, not society, moms and dads. Find passions that light a fire in your eyes and make you passionate about what you love.
Women for whom searching for men is their only hobby often do not find them. It”s simple. Nobody wants to take on too many responsibilities at once, and it is written on their foreheads: “I want seven children and a strong Soviet family.” Yes, and one may not be suitable, but an eternal search is not the most pleasant experience.
- Don”t look at it at all.
- Find your hobby and do it with passion.
- Tired of them? Find a new hobby.
- People will appear around you. Your chances of a “late” meeting increase.
- Even if you don”t find one, you”ll still have a better time than sitting on social media and posting endless memes about how there are no men left!
Classic option — study
In Soviet times, mothers were told that they should look for husbands at the institute. And there is love. In general, without going to college, he has little chance of entering decent society. Today, a 14-year-old girl is already teaching relationships, judging by her VKontakte status. However, the research topic remains classic. This is logical — in any educational institution there are almost equal numbers of boys and girls, and there is always a possibility that there is a second half.
In research, love is sought in different ways:
- Some carefully compile a list of promising men on the course and carefully place the network.
- Others do nothing. They just dress nicely and try to please everyone.
- In fact, others actually do research. And they were lucky to cross paths with Prince Charming from time to time!
How to find your love among your classmates? It’s bad to study alone, so there’s nothing special to look for; you will be together until the fifth year, when you will have to communicate with classmates, some of whom will be your friends and family, some of whom will be your friends. Then you will have to communicate with these people. Therefore, there must be reasonable boundaries for active search between unique groups. The reputation of a girl who spent the entire course trying to find her lover is not very conducive to a relationship.
Many people see this only in the audience, which is not true. On the contrary, it is better to attend some social events, be it the notorious “student spring” or a party dedicated to some event.
Work
Everything is much more complicated here. Remember the picture about the love for the Yandex Food and Delivery club? Romeo and Juliet may be from competing companies, then a serious company requires the signing of a non-disclosure agreement. The organization may also believe that meeting other people during free time is prohibited, and employees may believe that meeting is prohibited.
Girls look for love at work in different ways: some:
- Some meet proactively, some meet head-on and offer to spend time outside the office in the office.
- Others seek advice, discuss work problems, and talk about their involvement in projects, but the real reason for their involvement is to build relationships.
- Others are not looking for anything at all, but simply accidentally come across the work of a loved one.
Everything happens smoothly only in the series, because the structure of personal life is a workplace. In life, to avoid problems with your career, you need to hide “positive activities” from your bosses and colleagues or report it to the HR department. And if the relationship does not develop, everyone needs to explain what is wrong and why this happened. How to find love in such situations?
Sometimes you have to sacrifice your career for your family, and vice versa. Here you need to set your priorities correctly. What is more important, do you want to save a place or build a relationship? Everyone decides for themselves, but even a decent job is difficult to find these days.
Social networks
Here we are not talking about dating sites or special applications, but about ordinary social networks and special dating networks. There is also a whole course on the correct design of profiles for girls and guys. How to attract the right people into your life?
Read also: How to find the love of your life
Despite the fact that modern technologies make life easier and seemingly bring people closer together, finding true love is becoming more and more difficult every day.
- To get rid of primitive profiles like “here’s a selfie in an elevator, but in bed.” Create the illusion of life and movement in your profile, but don’t constantly post parties and bottles of champagne. Then a man may get the impression that you only create girls wandering from club to club.
- Post photos with other people, but not strictly men. If you are looking for love, then even brothers should appear on your profile.
- Get rid of everything that most people hate — meaningless eyebrows, huge lips covering half of the face, artificial breasts in every photo.
- Find a certain balance between sexuality and modesty. Lots of beach photos with beautifully curved poses only lead to private messages with pictures of various parts of the male body. But the right shots in the pool or on the beach, as well as some photos — from work, school, exhibitions, parks — are standard.
- Find a balance between posting cats and dogs. Even if you have a pet, it shouldn”t be in every photo. We don”t endorse this advice, but why should you love someone who doesn”t love your cat?
- Don”t blog about relationships. For some reason, men get bothered by bloggers explaining every step. Why are you surprised? And do not upload your conversations with others, even if they are very funny.
- If you have children, do not change your profile to this. There are several photographs of you with your children. Make a blog entirely dedicated to him, closed to girlfriends and parents of relatives.
In addition, it is not recommended for a girl to write in every message that she doesn’t need anyone, or, conversely, to write about how she wants to find love.
Everyone is advised to do the following.
- Delete a million “me and my brother, me and my brother in the car” photos. This is not fashion from early 90s children”s albums. The girl will think that you are always with your “brother”, but she doesn’t belong there.
- Also, delete the “Me and My Beauty” photo. Even if you are a gymnastics coach, you are better than the woman in the photo.
- Don”t change your profile to Instagram. Even if you are in good shape, the fashion for limited iron will pass you by. Girls like guys who, ideally, can support something other than biceps.
- Say a few words about work and study. Nobody loves someone who doesn”t do anything.
- Don”t go to the other extreme — quote about business, self-development, reposted from the “Business” group. Informatio n-Businessmen”s accounts are not kept. Entrepreneurs of the eternal beginning are also of no interest to anyone.
- The family in the photo is normal, but the image of an idle eternity with a lot of alcohol and homemade salad in a bowl can scare anyone away.
- A few quotes about women in a men”s group and long reposts of articles “about relationships” and “about relationships.” Even if you have personal drama and your only love has been betrayed, you should not engage in sex wars. It gives immature teenagers
In general, you should carefully study everything that is broadcast on social networks. And avoid content that might show you as someone who isn”t ready for a relationship.
How to find your love — the best techniques! (Part 2)
How to find your love on regular social networks
There are no important rules here. Someone starts a great romance with communication in a city group, someone becomes an individual. There are no rules. At the very least, you can take part in the city”s interactive dating experience. The main thing is not too often. Nobody loves a professional lover of love.
But the place to find love doesn”t have to be a group like a takeover or a teen party. There you can only find adventures of varying degrees of severity.
Dating sites
Today, ordinary social media profiles might lead you to believe that dating sites and social networks are taken from the lives of 30-year-old sisters. In fact, not only pensioners sit there. And apps like Tinder are full of young men and women.
Another issue is that apps are often used to find a simple one-night stand or date, which is exactly how he behaves with those who are already looking. In such applications, you need to place a photo according to all the rules of marketing — happy face, no problem. No sad quotes about lost love, clothes that flatter your figure and don”t look like grandma”s coat.
On dating sites it is very easy to start relationships based on ordinary communication. After all, people gather here not only to make new acquaintances and chat with former work colleagues. Thus, they are ready to flirt and communicate.
However, the downside of the site is that many come here not for love, but for entertainment and sex without obligation. Indeed, the problem when people in relationships want to get even closer has not disappeared. And even in our time, in order to at least hide something, such figures always open profiles on dating sites.
Love and other troubles
Today it is difficult to find a person who would be distracted by the great inter-shift wars. Guys complain that girls don”t want to be beautiful, feminine and submissive. They do terrible cosmetic procedures “for friends”, dye their hair blue and purple instead of “for men”, wear ripped jeans and stretched T-shirts.
Girls — guys become too feminine, need small bouquets and sweets and it is better to take them to work in their own cars. It”s good if men work. Usually they look for themselves, go to the hairdresser to get their hair cut and even dye their beard in the same place.
Everyone can express their dissatisfaction with inadequate masculinity or femininity. Social media is seething with hatred. The groups “No Men Needed” and “No Girls Needed” gather thousands of subscribers and many shares. What does it mean that humanity is heading towards the end and love cannot be found? In fact, it is worth understanding that all these conversations have always existed.
In Soviet times, someone suffered from the “second shift” of women at home and the lack of opportunity to realize their mountain talents as a man. In the “pre-revolutionary” period, some fought for their rights, others for rich suitors. There have always been conflicts and discontent.
Therefore, all this has nothing to do with the search for love. If someone wrongly accuses a woman online, it doesn”t mean you won”t be able to meet your man, and vice versa. And practice shows that our youthful ideas about an ideal couple may not coincide with the image of a loved one.
Scientists are trying to “decompose” love into molecules. Some write that we smell and are looking for a partner for life. And life shows that finding your love is the main thing, believe me, not to exchange marriage for mutual benefit for commodity-money relations, but to grow yourself and your business.
