A wonderful addition to BDSM play: about personal gender qualities
Boys are blue, girls are pink. For a long time, gender stereotypes were considered unshakable and almost eternal. However, modern researchers have proven that gender is just a social construct. It depends on the country, culture, religion and philosophy. It may also change over time.
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Difference between gender and sex
In most cases, gender corresponds to biological sex. However, this is not always the case. Sex and gender are usually different. For example, a person”s physical gender is male. However, he has a deep psychological conviction that he is a woman. Recently, the issue of the number of sexes has been hotly debated in scientific circles. There are up to six different versions of this type.
Bringing Gender Traits to BDSM
Therefore, for many people, gender determination plays an important role in areas such as self-realization, in particular sexuality.
Indeed, this brings us to the connection between gender consciousness and sadomasochism. There are many exciting ways in which you can play a role and still enjoy the full rainbow of BDSM possibilities.
For most people, the main highlight of sadomasochism lies in the energy exchange between the ruler and his subordinates. However, without paying attention to the physical side of things, it is easy to see that everything here is based on the personal qualities of the participants in the action. Namely: a cold and cruel master or mistress and a timid and fragile subordinate. In a nutshell, the point here is clear: a BDSM character is a person who is not a person of interest.
Therefore, you can add character traits that are gender specific to your BDSM character. You can imagine who you are in this game.
Practical implementation
Let”s see what this looks like in practice. For example, a man asks himself to be a “true dominant” in the BDSM play space. However, when he starts thinking about what to do, his thoughts go crazy. Creating a dominant personality can actually be a challenge for many people. For some people, this can be a completely impossible task.
Read also: Basic qualities that a dominant in BDSM should have
Bdsm relationships are unique in that one partner is dominant and the other is submissive, but it is still a relationship and should be inclusive.
So instead of trying to create your character out of thin air, why not use the energy of your gender to get the most out of it?
For example, if you are talking about a man who identifies as a woman, he may focus on typically feminine behavioral styles, such as being moody, polite, and scheming. Plus, you can add some feminine pieces to your wardrobe.
50 shades of bdsm
Think carefully about your own personality. How does he speak? What does he think? For example, what are his preferences and tastes in food? Some things may seem unreal. Others can help discover new aspects of BDSM.
A good way to study characters of different genders is through media resources. Think about which characters from books, television, and movies inspire you the most. And how you can embody these qualities in BDSM play. For example, by calling yourself a man, you can add features of Hannibal Lecter or James Bond to your image.
Maintaining balance. Gender and vulnerability in BDSM
Of course, there is no other side. Thus, each member of the couple has the opportunity to alternately take on different roles, as necessary — the subordinate becomes dominant and vice versa. However, it is important to note here some important points regarding the functioning of our psyche.
For example, the role of submission in BDSM is not as harmless to the individual as you might think. A bottom is more emotionally risky than a top because you are stuck in that role. Therefore, anyone who decides to try themselves as a submissive should not forget about the part of their personality that determines dominance. This allows the submissive to set clear boundaries of tolerance and take responsibility for the instinct of self-preservation.
Another feature concerns age games. Reincarnation into a character younger than the practitioner himself can activate the child”s psychological trauma. Therefore, you should be attentive to yourself and if unpleasant feelings from childhood are activated, you need to stop playing and, if everything is serious, seek advice from a professional psychologist.
