The ABCs of BDSM Communication: Important Aspects of Communication
Communication with your partner is the foundation of BDSM practice. Only their consent and quality communication can draw clear boundaries between comfortable sexual play and violence against one partner. However, preliminary negotiations often proceed too quickly and superficially, even among experienced BDSM practitioners.
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When you begin negotiations, you create a sexual imagination with your partner. You discuss what interests each of you. This type of communication is beneficial for both partners, as it allows you to satisfy each other”s needs. Conversations about BDSM itself are also very exciting. Whether in person or via instant messaging or email, all this influences flirting and “dirty” sexual talk. Agree in advance
Agreeing in advance
Also remember that the most important aspect of BDSM-style sexual intimacy is the emotional connection between you and your partner. When discussing the upcoming practice, it”s easy to get lost in the details. However, it”s important to remember that BDSM is a tool to facilitate intimacy, not the main event in itself.
Discussing Desires
Discussing desires
Safety and Sanity: 8 Vital Rules of BDSM
The more I learn about BDSM, the more I realize it can be done completely safely. However, if you don”t yet know the basic rules well enough, consider this: During preliminary negotiations, a list of things you like and don”t want to do can be a valuable service. Discussing this with your partner can help you discover new ideas and desires. This could not go unnoticed by each member of the couple in turn
Personal boundaries of what is acceptable
It is important to remember that discussing your interests is not appropriate for you in any given situation. A particularly important aspect of negotiation in this regard is personal boundaries (sometimes called “hard boundaries” in BDSM, indicating that the other partner cannot interfere).
Personal boundaries
Restrictions and personal boundaries include more than just what is unacceptable for each partner in the bedroom. It is equally important to remember that bruises and other marks may remain after BDSM activities. It may be that for some partners the presence of such “marks” is unacceptable and may have a negative impact on their personal or professional life. Therefore, this detail should be discussed in advance.
Safe word
The importance of safe words in BDSM play cannot be overstated. A very common one in this regard is the so-called “traffic light system”.
Safe words
Medical contraindications
It goes without saying that BDSM may be contraindicated if you have certain chronic diseases or health problems. Some of the most common diseases in this regard are asthma and diabetes. However, these are not the only examples. Before you begin sadomasochistic sex, find out all the details about your partner”s health. For example, if your partner has back pain, certain positions and games are inappropriate.
Medical contraindications
Do not stop intimacy at the end of the session. BDSM practice can be very intense and talking, cuddling or sharing a cup of tea to break the tension is not appropriate. One person may only need a few minutes to recover. Another may take several hours.
Agreeing on the final phase of intimacy
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