Fears and anxieties of a real man
The stronger sex is not as fearless and cynical as it wants to seem. Even fans of Statham”s films can secretly watch The Notebook and dream of love. Men are not robots. They also have fears and insecurities.
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The fact that society discourages male vulnerability (which is mistakenly attributed to the natural desire to love, be loved and enjoy a happy relationship) makes it difficult for men to admit their fears. As you know, recognizing a problem means moving closer to solving it.
We read, get to know ourselves and eliminate our fears.
Fear of Rejection
This is perhaps the most powerful. After repeated rejections, we begin to seriously doubt our sexual attractiveness. Perhaps I”m doomed to die alone? whispers an inner voice. This fear is familiar only to those men who stack girls at first sight. And if they have even the slightest fear, they will not admit it — it harms their image.
Let us note, however, that, in fairness, some people use the tactic of “pressure on pity.” Embellishing your loneliness with lies is not a crime.
The fear that the girl you like will reject you in front of your friends, laugh and mock you haunts men”s nightmares. For the same reason, not everyone dares to approach a beautiful girl (see next paragraph).
Beauty is a terrible force
Look at your friends and acquaintances — have all the beauties already been removed? Not at all, but often the more beautiful girls are alone, while the less beautiful (and more liberated) friends will spin a man like a glove. Aren”t men afraid of smart, beautiful women? And of course they exist.
“Beautiful girls have high standards. This is their problem!” You are partly right. Mark only partially. Many girls (smart beauties) are not looking for a handsome man in a Maserati. They also agree on a handsome, smart, normal guy with a good sense of humor. If this gorgeous woman were his, this “ordinary man” would be in heaven.
But a “normal guy” doesn”t even dare think about approaching an “unusual girl” (by the way, they themselves classified her as “unusual”). They miss out on the opportunity to be happy with the woman of their dreams and spend the night with people they weren”t afraid to approach.
Dating a sex bomb isn”t easy. It”s nice to walk down the street and be looked at with envy. It”s awkward when all your friends want to sleep with her. But if the game is worth the candle, you have to take the risk.
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Why is it so hard to find the perfect man? Every single girl thinks such specimens are long extinct or live on another planet. Guys.
Disappointment
First of all, this is, of course, related to sex. Then again, if a man isn”t that experienced, he compares himself to his ex-girlfriend (possibly to his disadvantage). And if it”s her—God forbid! — Comparing his skills (or physical attributes) to his ex guarantees a bad mood.
The fear of disappointing a girl (especially if she”s truly important to him) ranks high on the list of men”s fears. “She doesn”t like sex” — this phobia preoccupies men”s minds when all they want from a girl is sex. I don”t want to be remembered as a loser, even if we never see each other again.
“She doesn”t like sex, my stupid jokes, my interests, my work, etc.” — When a woman preoccupies her mind, it immediately fills with doubts and insecurities.
Her friends
Men know that a cup of coffee is being discussed, that it”s not tiramisu. And him. With all the details, with all his flaws. These encounters resemble the gladiator fights for which the Colosseum is famous.
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Her family
Meeting parents is stressful for the body, but for some reason, they don”t write about that on cigarette packs. The first meeting with potential parents is like navigating a minefield. Sure, you won”t lose a limb (unless her father poses you provocatively and you don”t have an X in your hand), but you risk losing a few nerves.
It all works on the same principle. The more we love a woman, the more painfully we feel towards her.
Betrayal
In most cases, both the guy and the girl are afraid of one thing — a wounded heart and frayed nerves. Of course, very attractive girls cause fear in guys at first sight. At the same time, you should not expect that only men will be afraid of betrayal without explanation.
Even a smart pet can act like a deep hater if he already has one day left to be a fool.
Under the hood
Careful checking of SMS, selection of passwords for phones, secret messages to all beauties from the Franda trend list. And disgust. The fear that your girlfriend will turn out to be too deep and will regularly deprive you of your brain makes men afraid of serious relationships like fire. But in this matter they are far from impenetrable, and there are relationships in which a person will endure the brains of any little thing, and it will also be endured.
What are men afraid of when meeting women? Psychology of men| Yaroslav Samoilov 18+.
