What types of lesbians are there? The history of the emergence of all myths and stereotypes.
Women have always belonged to sensitive and romantic natures, who tried to find the ideal combination of love and understanding, harmony in relationships with their partners and the world. Relationships are too multifaceted and sometimes go beyond the generally accepted category of “normal” perversions.
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This article is about lesbianism, a deep yet exciting society. Where did the phenomenon of lesbianism come from, the reasons for its development from a psychological point of view and advice on how to behave towards gentle women who choose pink love.
Historical overview
When most people hear the word “lesbian,” they immediately have an image of a passive girl who imitates the behavior, manner of speaking, and appearance of men. It is difficult to find another topic shrouded in myths and speculations of society.
As you know, the open spaces of the CIS countries are not tolerant of LGBT culture, so there is an opinion that lesbianism is a perversion that migrated to the pure and innocent post-USA countries or corrupt Europe.
Unfortunately, AH, lesbian subcultures have flourished and are thriving since the development of mankind. And not only in the Soviet Union there is sex, but there is definitely no perversion there, as is claimed. That was it all. You can easily turn to historical literature to see how interest in lesbianism developed and what the greatest minds of the time thought about it.
The term “lesbian” has been around since the late 19th century, but love between girls has been described in literature since the late 14th century. It was doctors and confessors who first started talking about unconventional love between women. The great difficulty of the sources of this period is that most studies of Catholic literature are translated and completely distorted.
The Russian Church has long considered women to be the source of evil and confusion, to be followed by men.
Ideally, both men and women should be chaste and should not kiss anyone.
Playing games with friends was considered masturbation and was punished by 40 days of light and prayer.
In the church questionnaire for communion there is a point where the question should be asked whether the woman has intimate contact with a woman. The forbidden topic of relationships between girls from the classic pen enters society, and an active discussion of the sexual elements of lesbianism begins.
In the late 19th century, there was a theory that women with a very large clitoris, simulating a penis, or a very large clitoris, were more likely to be lesbians. Over time, in practice, the theory was rejected by many scientists.
After the revolution in the Russian Empire, scientists tended to believe that lesbianism is directly related to prostitution and that all this stems from the desire to satisfy fallen women who are tired of sex with men. The norms of Tsarist Russia did not regulate relations between women who had sexual intercourse with each other.
The topic of lesbian sex was discussed with restraint and concerned the scientific works of V. Nabokov, I. Kankarovich and Dr. I. Bentovin. After the revolution, the opinions of scientists agree that they are active and passive.
All the science of the period of smooth development in post-revolutionary Russia comes down to the opinion that lesbians are sick women, easily recognizable by masculine behavior, masculine activities and other attributes of masculinity.
A modern approach to lesbians
As a brief excursion into history shows, modern society is not so corrupt, and homosexuality is not the result of liberation and tolerance.
Psychological research on the topic of homosexuality in girls is incomplete without old man Freud and his views on the innate bisexuality of man and his ability to lean towards both masculine and feminine principles in the process of growth and development. Psychologists identify several reasons why girls become lesbians:
- Family problems.
Problems in the family lead to the development of homosexuality in girls. The behavior of parents shapes the child”s attitude towards representatives of the opposite sex of the father.
If his mother constantly humiliates him, it means he is insignificant, and his mother never tires of emphasizing the uselessness of men in women”s lives. Another stone in the foundation of a future lesbian is a complete loss of contact with her mother. At this point, friends become advisors and objects of love and understanding.
- Physical data.
Girls can be beautiful and ugly. The first category turns into a real idol in the eyes of boys, who shower them with gifts and compliments, make friends and communicate with them.
Thus, many girls love girls. They form heterosexual girls. Ugly girls are constantly ridiculed by more attractive girls and boys, which causes them to become defensive and successful in the eyes of boys.
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They are drawn to aggressive sports, assert their authority in the company of men and become like the men in life. Perhaps some of them will consider men morally weak, and the second part will become lesbians or be attracted to the dominant sex.
There is no denying the fact that boys can be born in the bodies of girls and vice versa. Nature plays cruel jokes with genes, and people suffer all their lives until they find themselves and their place in the world. Such people make active sex partners, leaders and people independent of public opinion.
- Stages of growth and curiosity.
From adolescence to old age, sex is an exciting topic. The majority of young people surveyed confirmed that they had at least kissed a same-sex partner. Masturbation and full sex at least once do not count. Many people are interested in how lesbians have sex. Lesbian sex is not only part of the experience, but also a great opportunity to experience new sensations.
A woman is always beautiful, neat, smells nice, has no extra hair on her body and knows exactly how to please her peers. She finds all the secret sensitive areas before men and does not turn to the wall after orgasm. Are these not arguments in favor of indulging in debauchery?
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Classification of lesbians
Within the LGBT community, there are conventional subgroups that designate the type of girl depending on her appearance, behavior and worldview. In general, there are three types of gays.
- Enter one “fem”.
Up to a certain point, she grows up like a girl and does not show any desire for homosexuality. Then, during puberty or when she gets a little older, her attraction to girls begins. She”s not looking for a specific type; Comfort and safety are important to her.
She embodies a complex integration of masculine and feminine qualities, attitudes, and appearance. The girl herself often doesn”t understand why all this happened or who she really is. Women seek care and love to attract male attention, but at the same time, they see men as a threat and strive to get closer to women.
An interesting type of independent man with a strong female body. This is a conscious choice of behavioral model, and its prototype is the image of a strong man. Their entire appearance, mannerisms, and behavior betray a desire to play the role of a man. They will not be a quiet, domestic partner who wipes dust and cooks dinner.
Social stereotypes — Olga Gulevich / postscience
The ideal lesbian type, or rather, a very harmonious blend of masculine and feminine. They are masculine, reliable, polite, responsible, feminine, caring, gentle, and sensual. They are not the typical man, like Butch, who suppresses all hidden femininity and talks about himself as a man.
Self-sacrifice is in the girls” blood, as is their willingness to raise children. The ideal of a reliable family partner is for everyone, despite their muscular build and lack of male ego.
Stereotypes of modern society regarding lesbians
Modern Russian society strives to meet global standards, but falls far short due to hostility towards people of non-traditional sexual orientation. This is unlikely to change in the next decade, and it will likely take several generations for people to grow up not sleeping with strangers and not discussing who is sleeping with whom and how.
Openly admitting, “I”m gay,” is almost tantamount to a crime. And when you start counting the questions and accusations from family and friends, you just don”t want to live. What stereotypes and myths about lesbians are being created for people who are far from gay couples and are fed up?
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- Myth 1: In a couple, one is dominant and the other is submissive.
Difference. Women represent one gender and are not competitive. The problems of everyday life are ordinary problems, and children from previous relationships are ordinary children. This is a big difference from marriages with men, where he is the main character and everyone has to listen to what he has to say. The roles of lesbian men and women are equal, regardless of who wears skirts and who wears sweatpants and has short hair.
Almost 100% of men are convinced that lesbians readily agree to a threesome and always remember to offer it. It”s strange that they don”t ask normal couples the same question and ask if they want to try something new. Dreams of lesbian sex come from pornographic films. Only after such films, and even under the influence of alcohol, will the idea of offering a threesome come to the minds of those who are not the smartest representatives of power.
- Myth 3. There were no ordinary people.
This is not true, and thank God for that! — 50% of gay girls answer, the other half make sincere noise in Russian and go to their beloved women. Some women have switched to the “pink love” camp after being laughed at or sexually assaulted by men. Whatever the reason, you must remember that once is a conscious choice of a woman. No one tied her to her feet with underground ropes and held her as a hostage; she herself chose how to deal with women.
If you do not live in one of the post-Soviet countries, then there is no problem: you are not a parent, a relative of a parent, or an adult. In addition, you cannot choose parents, relatives, adults and neighbors. When meeting new people, you should always tell them where your husband is and what kind of girlfriend you have.
Fight off homosexuals, potential rapists who want to “cure” rape from lesbianism, be afraid to show your feelings in public and, if necessary, refer to the fact that you live with relatives and parents in the same apartment. And no problems!
- Myth 5. You want men to be
The powers that be sanctimoniously believe that annoying lesbians just dream of waking up one morning and seeing a growing penis instead of a vagina. Then life would begin, and.. Some amount of pain. They really like people who don’t want a penis, respect men, bypass them and pester them with stupid questions.
Every lesbian in the world is in the top three for most relationship questions and will tell you that they”ve been asked about sex at least once. Lesbian sex is an exciting topic for men and women, especially for men who dream of being the third component of sexual intercourse. Sex without dicks is possible.
This will shock men, but the sex industry has established regular production of penis substitutes of various configurations. Lesbians are not bored without a man in bed. Accept this fact.
The study of the phenomenon of homosexual love has been exciting scientists for hundreds of years. Today, European scientists have come to the conclusion that the reason lies in the violation of the fine line between genes and family upbringing. The roots of this behavior also lie in parental upbringing, lack of it, or trauma. Lesbianism is not a fashion statement or a desire to look special.
Trying to force everyone into the framework of “normality” does not lead to anything good. You need to learn to accept people for who they are and stop interfering in their lives in order to build lesbian love.
Perhaps it is more pleasant for loved ones to know that their loved one lives next to a loving and caring woman than in the same apartment with an arrogant and tyrant. Isn”t that right?
