A sofa equals a bed, or should you accept “expensive” gifts?
I recently stumbled across an interesting article online. The mother of a young woman urged her daughter to come to her senses and stop giving expensive gifts from obsessive admirers. She complained that her daughter was openly negative, unreasonably, and provocative toward him, but at the same time, she complained that she shamelessly accepted expensive gifts.
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This article presents a completely different perspective. Furthermore, psychologists have developed a formula for identifying “high-value attention cues” and the decisions of intelligent people who tell you how much this should be. One of the gifts that was taken was a sofa. It was after this example that the idea somehow naturally formed in my mind. The average cost of living is average because it is practically nobody”s
This is always the case with the proverbial “average”. After all, in order to hide a sin, someone can afford to spend much less than this amount per month, and someone can afford to spend it on one trip to a restaurant, without thinking about it. Imagine that this is the person who caught your attention. He does not use public transport (if he lives in a big city) and does not work on the street on a motorcycle inherited from his grandfather (out of respect for rural workers). His garage, on top of which is a collection of cars, expensive branded clothing and jewelry. He is used to the fact that time is money. Therefore, he wants to give you time spent on him: a trip to a restaurant or a nice conversation. He goes to the store and buys jewelry at the actual average monthly cost, and not, for example, at the amount that someone in the government calculated. And what? The girl should say: “I won’t take it, is it too expensive?” What conclusion should arise in his head? Don”t say, “What a sweet, humble young woman.” No! He is visited by the most unnecessary thoughts for a girl. So she”s cheap and not from my circle. Therefore, she feels awkward when interacting with my friends. That”s why no one ever spent time with her.” Remember the notorious sofa, so you understand that this piece of furniture is worth more than your attention? Now imagine that instead of this girl, you are the daughter of a billionaire. She can buy such a gift for herself, but perhaps not for the gentleman himself. Does she evaluate the gift according to its value? No, for her it is a small thing. For us, it is a small piece of chocolate. Rather, she appreciates the gift itself. How well it suits her, how much the person paid attention to her tastes and preferences. Whether or not she considers a gift depends on its price, but it evaluates the message that this presence represents.
Not the price, but the message
Then we get to the point — the message, not the price, is what matters and deserves the main focus. Some men believe that a bottle of cheap beer already obliges them to continue only at night. But there are representatives of the stronger sex who don’t even think about such things. They can provide concierges with massage chairs. The concierge complained of back pain. And in return they expect, first of all, universal praise for his insight and ability to “get to the heart” of the needs and aspirations of other people. He would prefer to give a gift to himself: to be glad that he has reached the level where he can afford it. If there is a desire, he will still buy the girl, simply indicating the amount, without wasting time on gifts. And if you refuse, he will not perceive it as coquetry.
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Money in bed: how to give and accept crisp bills correctly Each person may encounter a situation where he is given money in bed immediately after sexual intercourse. How do you deal with this? You can accept but she may perceive rejection as a challenge or competition. I am such a man, not a woman. And such men, oh, how keenly they treat this. They are constantly under pressure at work. Do you need a rival at home? And then watch how the fire in his sparkling eyes goes out, the pain in his heart goes out and the trip to Paris that you have always dreamed of floats away from under his nose. What does this mean to you?
Accepting or not accepting a gift is nothing more than your mood and your own intuition. If something bothers you, ask directly whether you owe anything to such signs of attention. Look at the clues and phrases with which the gift is presented. If you understand that a person asks for a “cup of coffee” without hesitation, clearly after midnight, and you are not ready to do it, do not take anything from him. But there is a gift that comes with a completely different thought. I can imagine millions of young people smiling condescendingly, they say. I”m not interested. And this is a game that works much more effectively with women, no one seems to harass her, she only sees men. Then she creates a desire to move to another level of communication so that they see her woman exactly as she sees them. This is definitely happening! And if you pay attention to the fact that this is the opinion of young men, then it is impossible to disagree with this. What did I mean?
Without solving personal internal contradictions and problems, nothing is done in this world
Yes, this means that sexual potential and needs also decrease somewhat with age. And this is what many men call a nuisance. They begin to look for what else might interest young people: intelligence, experience. And also high social status, connections and the ability to solve any problems. When giving expensive gifts, they first of all imagine that they are proving something to themselves. I remember one conversation when I was young that I rebelled against. The man, who seemed quite old to me, complained that all young women were not interested in anything except sex! Then, when I was a complete virgin, he told me: “You know, I’m not interested in sex, I just want to have sex with you. What do you mean? For many strong personalities, a little older, a gift to young women is smart beauty, as an opportunity to once again plunge into the atmosphere of love and romance, but when it seems that no one wants to talk to it without familiarity, “something below the belt” is already insisting on changing the behavior of the politician. She demands it. So should it? a person who has achieved a certain status through hard work and fortitude, giving a rose from a sale of dead flowers to a girl he likes? For some reason, he is greedy and, above all, causes internal discomfort in a person. Thus, of course, the gift becomes an expression of the relationship between price and quality. Without it, it would be impossible! But what if he refuses to accept the gift? It is impossible for such a person to return the goods to the store. “This was meant for you. If you don”t like it, give it to someone who needs it” and leaves it to the girl or sends it to the nearest landfill. Only his heart will feel very bad. But then all he wanted was the sparkle in his eyes and your childish delight.
Where are all these thoughts taking you? Look at the personality of the giver, not the price of the gift. If he is one of those people who always pursue their own interests and consider you a debtor because you are not ready to return a gift, even a simple bottle of perfume or a kilogram of apples. If you understand that a gift is important to the giver, do not hesitate. Gratitude goes a long way. And who knows what will happen tomorrow? Perhaps tomorrow this person who is so generous to you will do something that will take him out of the friend zone and into a whole other level.
Satya Das — should you accept expensive gifts from men?
Satya Das — Should you accept expensive gifts from men?
