“For myself, I am an angel,” or how we justify our betrayals
What could be easier than defining sex? However, this term, like many others, is more complex than is commonly believed. Like heaven and earth, different people have different ideas about sex. Some people believe that sex is simply an act that ends in orgasm. Others are convinced that innocent touching can also be attributed to sex and that it does not lead to physical intimacy at all. Each of them has their own criteria for this. This often leads to fundamental misunderstandings between people.
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A most interesting study on this topic
American scientists G. Gute, E. Eschbauch and J. Wiersma decided to study the behavior that people classify as “sex”. In a 2008 study, 839 college students (96% of those surveyed were heterosexual) were asked whether they considered oral sex to be “full sex.” Only 36% of girls and 39% of men said they would classify fellatio and cunnilingus in this category. However, scientists were not so naive. Subjects were then asked whether it should be considered sex when a partner performs fellatio or cunnilingus on another person. Not surprisingly, the number of positive responses skyrocketed. 62% of women and 63% of men begin to consider oral contact as “real sex.” Given these results, it”s not surprising that people have different understandings of “sex” itself. Another study conducted in 2016 confirmed this finding. People are more likely to call oral sex cheating if their partner does it than if they do it themselves.
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Psychology of self-justification
It seems that people tend to be more lenient towards their loved ones. It is known in psychology that people in ambiguous situations tend to justify their behavior more. However, the people around them do not have such privileges. This is associated with the formation of positive self-esteem. This image breaks down if a person”s behavior is classified as negative.
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The most common sexual excuses include: “I was drunk, so cheating didn’t mean anything to me, I only slept with him once, it doesn’t count.” But as soon as others demonstrate this behavior, justifiable anger flares up within us. We do not try to justify or rationalize our neighbor”s behavior. Instead, we immediately judge the person. After all, undoubtedly, immoral behavior was caused not by external circumstances, but by his negative character traits.
Psychological and legal aspect of the findings
The results of these studies are important not only within the framework of practical psychology and sexology. The fact that people tend to evaluate their sexual behavior differently from the behavior of others has negative consequences in the criminal world. In other words, people who engage in sexual harassment may not consider their behavior to be criminal. And this phenomenon may complicate the task of reducing sex crimes.
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