List of things not to talk about at the beginning of a relationship
Many men show their trust in girls and do stupid things or tell things about themselves that are worth keeping for a while. Or keep it a secret. We advocate honest and trusting relationships, but this article reminds you that it is better not to mention the beginning of a relationship. Over time, you will likely return to these topics when the level of mutual trust is high enough and confirmed by your behavior. However, if you”ve only dated a few times, don”t rush into it.
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Don”t interfere with her relationships with friends and relatives
Even if her friends seem like rare idiots to you, keep it to yourself. This is her environment, which you just recently found yourself in, and negative statements about people in her company will backfire on you. Stay silent or say something neutral, such as “they seem to have slightly different interests” or “we don”t know each other very well, so we can”t jump to conclusions.”
However, flattering reviews about her relatives or even parents are doubly frightening. Even if she comes to your date in tears and talks about her fight with her mother, help her calm down and distract her. Tomorrow they will make peace, and she will remember and not forgive what was said about the person closest to her. Try to be neutral in such matters. However, if after meeting her father they both become fans of ice fishing, Breaking Bad, and Cuban cigars, you can express your pleasure at having met such a wonderful person. The main thing is not to overdo it so as not to look unflattering.
Hold your sexual adventures
You can and should talk about sex before you have sex for the first time. However, if after the first date you tell her cool stories about how you fucked Masha all over the dorm room since her sophomore year, this is unlikely to add positive reputation points to you in her eyes. It is advisable to approach these conversations with caution. You”re an adult, but it”s worth exploring the waters before giving her a package with all the adventures. This encourages conversations about beer with men.
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Let”s start with the fact that this article is completely fictitious and has nothing to do with the real world. However, readers will enjoy the read.
However, some girls do not have complexes and prejudices about sexual topics and perceive them as something simple. Perhaps you were lucky and found each other. And perhaps tomorrow she will tell you that you have four boyfriends and the place for a third is almost empty. So get to know each other better and don”t get too excited in advance.
And money topics too
Do you want to impress girls with the size of your income? Don”t be surprised that soon only selfish women will remain next to you. She doesn”t need to know your income, expenses and the price of a new TV before you move in together. An affectionate girl may think that you are trying to buy her. And those who rob your wallet will only circulate you and drag you into their skin.
If a girl shows interest in your finances, chances are you”ve just met a predator. Or are you an accountant? However, one does not interfere with the other, and questions about your financial well-being on the first or second date are a reason to think about it.
Don”t even start a relationship without these tips
Don”t talk about your health
Do you have panic attacks? Do you need to see a psychologist? Many have done this, but after such a story, those who are not familiar with the topic will briefly write you off as a psychopath. Of course, if the woman you”re getting into a relationship with is your doctor, there”s little you need to hide from her. You should also not grumble that you were not accepted into the army because of flat feet. Our illnesses are our weaknesses, and you are not in the right relationship with them to identify them. There is a time for everything.
If the girl herself talks about her pain, decide for yourself what conclusions you want to draw from this information. Perhaps she”s trying to appear vulnerable?
And remember your ex
You both may have already been in failed relationships, so this is definitely not the best topic to start a relationship with. After a bowling game: “And my previous games were not like yours, I never knocked out!” If you think that saying “I’m not like you” is wrong, then you’re wrong. The girl does not want to be compared with her ex, she prefers to be the only one, this is normal.
What if she herself is interested in how indifferent your ex is? Answer something neutral. This question could be a test to see if you”ve forgotten about an old relationship or if you”re stalking all your ex”s Instagram photos. It”s better if you forget, trust me.
The most important thing is how to behave at the beginning of a relationship, which we will talk about in the next article.
