The time machine broke down: what not to say about exes
Our current partners don”t want to hear about the first 24/7; they don”t want to hear about the latter either. Does this mean they don”t care about what happened before? No, damn it! A very small percentage of people have absolutely no interest in what their predecessor was like (they are very confident, or afraid of their secret publications, or very liberal, or really love you, or afraid of disappointing you, or or just pretending), everything else will neatly and nicely start the conversation about the conversation about the previous one. It is important to be careful here. Can you imagine finding out in a roundabout way? You will get too much — it will be remembered forever. Read the strategic plan and remember it.
Contents of the article:
Don”t idolize
Excessive admiration for the external and personal qualities of your previous love will, at the very least, make you doubt your feelings for your current love. There is no need to talk about it out loud, even if you consider your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend to be your first and last true love.
But wait. If you are infatuated with your previous partner, perhaps you will have to finally admit it to yourself, accept the fact that the person you are with is the best and is worth breaking up with?
In all other (healthy) cases, the ex is a (decent) person and has a good sense of humor. There are many pleasant memories, but at the same time remember everything that caused the breakup (it is very important to clarify that you are not significant, you do not keep evil in good memory, but you are not going the same way). river twice).
Don”t mix with dirt
Nobody likes an ex-girlfriend who bad mouths them. Nobody likes a woman who spoke obscenely about her boyfriend, from whom fate separated them.
Your predecessor or your former competitor seems to have heard that you are almost “fine” in the ear of the one with whom you are currently sharing a bed.
Although a guy”s ex-girlfriend can be completely normal at any time, the next article will focus on how to properly build relationships with people.
In reality it looks like this:
- “Was it really that bad before her? We met with him several times, and he seemed like a normal guy to me. Maybe you’re asking too much, friend?
- “How can she react like that to your ex? Even if she was such a fool and hysterical, you still loved her. Maybe because she left you, she”s not so stupid?”
- “Hm, I take it that if we break up, you will tell all your friends about me in such intimate detail?”
Read also: My man says he loves his ex. What to do in such a situation?
Let”s decide: does your man say that he loves his ex, or do you assume it? Indeed, to understand how to act, you first need to.
Everything is the same as in the previous paragraph. It mentions that a serious conflict has occurred. Please note that you do not want to see these qualities in your partner. This is enough to quell curiosity and discreetly mention that you disagree.
About current
You are asked about his new girlfriend, not your previous one. At the very least, the question arises: how do you know such fresh details about the life of a person you no longer see? Do you communicate secretly? Do you look at previous pages on social networks?
Likewise, girls won”t appreciate your latest news about your ex”s new man. And your undisguised hatred and aggression in his instructions leads to bad suspicions.
– And who is she dating now?
“I think I heard that she agreed with her colleagues.” I hope everything goes well for them. So where should we go in the evening?
Sex
Don’t add complexes to your girlfriend and don’t talk about Ex-Extension parameters and porn star skills. Do you think she fusses so much that she signs up for yoga and relaxes more in bed? No matter how it is. In most cases, the poor girl grows up in self-deception, and sex occurs once a year, in the dark and under a blanket. If you have it, then you will have it. A woman”s inability to have sex is worse than impotence.
Male creatures are less suspicious, but you shouldn’t test your self-esteem to the limit. The sex was good, but in many ways it was inferior to ours. Because at least I love you now.” If you want to bring something from the past into bed, anyway: “Why is he/she like this.?”.
3, because addressing the character is the gentlest possible response.
Imagine your desired pleasure as the film”s central spy.
About feelings
Is it worth explaining what your current girlfriend or boyfriend heard from your lips? “I still love her.” — Low blow? If your feelings for your ex are stronger than your feelings for your current partner, see point 1.
To a foreign monastery
All the cute habits, jokes are “two people”, leaving traditions in the past, etc. Is your favorite cafe always associated with the first one? Find a new cafe, eat at home and discover new dishes. Does the resort evoke pleasant memories of past vacations? Go somewhere else. The wounds are fresh, but not white with sick nostalgia. If you feel that everything associated with the past causes negative emotions, avoid it.
Create new memories, love new bands or movies, read new books, set new goals, learn to cook new dishes. The more time you spend in the past, the more wonderful moments there will be along your current path.
