Why doesn”t a man say he loves him — should he file for divorce?
As a joke, a situation may arise in a couple when a man once said that he loves them, when asked “why don’t you say that anymore,” to which he replies that he will say if something changes. In fact, there is some truth to this joke, and women who are worried about why their man doesn”t say he loves them need to understand that the male psyche is fundamentally different from the female psyche.
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Why, after all, is he silent?
Why don”t men ever say they love you? There are many reasons, besides the obvious one — he doesn’t really love the woman. This is also possible, but, as a rule, women feel this acutely and understand how everything really happens.
There is another situation — a husband and wife have lived together for more than 10 years. The man says, “It”s obvious that you love her, you”ve been together for so long, right?” He expresses his opinion. Another situation is also possible — a man is not used to talking about his feelings, does not know how to do it, or does not understand what it means.
Instead of throwing a tantrum, a woman can confess her love. This will make it easier for a man to answer her and take this first step.
Interestingly, a lot depends on how a man was raised by his mother. If it is customary in a family to talk about love, then men are not afraid to admit their feelings and can talk about it every day.
There is another extreme possibility. Instead of worrying about why a man doesn”t say he loves her, women find that he says those words often. If they are not supported by actions, perhaps the man does not actually experience such deep feelings, but the one who was silent, but gave flowers or gifts and helped his wife after work, really loves her.
Psychologist”s opinion
The psychologist was asked the question: “Why don’t men tell women that they love them?” Alina Lipkina replied that the fact is that many people are accustomed to the fact that they cannot openly express their feelings and show weakness.
It is also dangerous for men if their emotions are too strong due to a large release of adrenaline, and they withdraw to protect themselves — they go to another room or walk alone, remain silent for a long time, and do not talk about their feelings. This is a completely normal situation.
Interestingly, in one study, men and women were given recordings of a small child crying. Men were more likely to switch off or leave the room because they were able to cope with rapidly increasing stress and preferred to free themselves from the situation. It”s just a natural defense mechanism.
Read also: My man says he loves his ex. What to do in such a situation?
Let”s decide: does your man say that he loves his ex, or do you assume it? Indeed, to understand how to act, you first need to.
How to help a man open up
Women who want to learn how to talk to and understand their husbands must first accept the fact that all men are very sensitive to stress and will hide from it, approach themselves and be pushed aside. To help men, they need to create a relaxing and calm atmosphere at home. This includes no arguments, mostly because the man was five minutes late for work or sitting on the toilet talking on the phone.
This way, the woman can be the first to talk about her feelings and be polite to the man. This will make it easier for men to open up.
You can ask your man to watch the film “The Mask I Live In” with you, which explores this topic in detail.
My wife doesn’t want to file for divorce — but we don’t live together! what does it mean? does she still love me?
What if he really doesn”t love you?
A situation is possible when a man does not talk about his feelings because he really fell in love with a woman. Women by nature are very sensitive and notice immediately, but here the opposite reaction is triggered: “Does he still love me?” A question arises.
Before turning to a psychologist and filing for divorce, a woman can try to independently determine whether her suspicions are groundless or whether the man really fell in love with her chosen one.
You can understand that men have cooled down by certain signs, but girls do not always understand them or deliberately prefer not to notice them.
The first signs, such as “you don’t love me anymore” from a man, may indicate that he himself no longer experiences tender feelings.
If a man really loves a woman, he has no reason to deceive her. He avoids even obvious temptations so as not to destroy good relationships. If there is still betrayal, then love has already cooled down.
Lack of attention to a woman — a phone call or SMS from work, a small surprise or gift, an offer of help around the house — are very clear signs that a man is not interested in a woman.
For unmarried couples, a good test is whether the man proposes. Perhaps this will never happen if the couple has been together for a long time, but he is in no hurry to “feed everyone with obligations” and turn the girl into a wife.
Despite the fact that men are often silent, their behavior can be very eloquent, and to understand whether a man loves her or not, a girl just needs to take a closer look.
