Women who are ready to do anything for a man or what the fear of loneliness can lead to
Jokes about 40 cats and being lonely in old age can make a woman wonder what she needs to do to keep her man by her side. On the pages of women”s magazines you can find advice on how not to be lonely. Many young women who read articles like this take it for granted and are the first to realize the meaning of life. Women who are ready to do something for men — selflessness or stupidity?
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Comfortable women, where did they come from?
Oddly enough, you can become a comfortable woman from an early age, different parents raise different women in different ways, and women”s curiosity can be easily suppressed with one word for the rest of their lives. To be comfortable from childhood means not to cause problems, first to parents, then to kindergarten teachers and teachers, not to burden anyone and thus not to create difficulties for men. This position means “be sure to grasp and grasp the pieces” — no matter what is taken away. The magazine writes: “If your husband left you for someone else, it means you didn’t take care of yourself”; “If you want your husband back, be cheerful, take care of him, approve of all his endeavors and fall in love with BDSM.” Such a woman is a very pleasant and unpretentious creature, flexible and pliable, her career is stagnant, but she cleans, cooks, she has children and a husband who is always well-fed and ironing. She is a wonderful wife, she is very much appreciated, but not known. Are you familiar with this picture?
“A woman who is ready to do anything for her man” — in the past, this phrase immediately evoked associations with the Decabul wife, love, heroism and exploits. Now the circle of associations has shifted to the fugitive aunt who endures all the ailments of her legs in order to cook borscht for her husband.
Signs of a comfortable woman
- In every incident and quarrel she looks for her mistakes.
- She plans her future and her daily routine, first of all, taking into account the opinion and interests of a man.
- If he offends her, she comes up with a lot of excuses for her lover.
- She forgets about his desires and indulges his weaknesses.
- She is ready to spend her last strength so that her lover does nothing and at the same time is loved and appreciated.
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She forgot everything: hobbies, friends, education, life goals, books, interesting projects. She just sits and reads magazines about how to do better for him.
Life itself no longer plays in its former colors, because it appears nearby and needs to stay close to you. Now she is a woman, ready to do anything for a man, and there is no one around.
Why are women so afraid of loneliness?
The first reason is stereotypes. Sideways glances from acquaintances, accusations from those closest to you — of course, all this is due to ignorance. However, due to constant psychological pressure, a woman may unconsciously come to the conclusion that she is doing something wrong. There is a desire for the position she takes in the relationship, not the relationship itself. You just need someone to fill the gap around you. And then self-sacrifice begins, and the person goes nowhere.
Satya & bull; fear of loneliness
The second reason is the energy “vampire”. This phenomenon consists of the desire to make someone the meaning of your life against the backdrop of fear of loneliness. A woman needs a man not to build a strong connection with him, but because of unconscious mind games. As an example, she does everything around the house and says that without her she won’t even pour a bowl of soup, but in reality no one asked her to take on all the responsibilities. Thus, she does everything to make her partner indispensable to him.
There is a neurotic and unhealthy need for this behavior. Such women always want someone to pay attention to them. They prefer 100% and bend over backwards to achieve this goal. The essence of social and complete loneliness is not inherent to him — man. However, when a woman makes herself responsible for caring for someone else, if not left alone, it creates problems for her psychological health. A woman who is ready for all men should undergo plastic surgery, work herself out in the gym and do it in a fun way to find a man, not because she wants so much. Such a woman is unlikely to be faithful to her partner. She will tolerate anything she doesn”t like. But over the years, the goal is to fill a spiritual void that may be replaced by other desires. And the idea that you shouldn’t rush to find a man just to avoid loneliness can be overturned by surprise. In such situations, you should not give in to the accusations and ambiguity of others.
Why ask them questions: “Why aren’t you married?”, “How long have you been alone?” “, “What do you care about?” and ask them more often, answer yourself the question: “Does loneliness bother you, or is it a way into yourself?”
Fear of loneliness in men and women. how to solve this problem. psychologist Alexander Brodsky
