How to massage the anus? Preparation and technique
Anal sex requires foreplay. With its help, the partner gets excited, relaxes and is ready for subsequent anal sex. Where to start, what hygiene procedures to carry out and what techniques to use — you will find the answers to these questions in our articles.
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Why?
Anal massage is not only preparation for anal sex. The fact is that both men and women have a huge number of nerve endings in this area. Anilingus (aka rimming) and fingering allow you and your partner to discover new aspects of pleasure.
Such practices are very intimate, and few people dare to engage in them. Some do not believe that such maneuvers are enjoyable, others are concerned about hygiene issues. Proper preparation will help you relax and get rid of enormous fear and doubt.
Conversation
First, you need to have an open conversation with your partner. He should share your enthusiasm. Sexual relationships require mutual consent and trust.
Sexologists recommend having such conversations in a relaxed atmosphere. And, of course, alone. Both of you should be in a good mood. And don”t start this conversation during sex.
If your partner says he doesn”t like your ideas, don”t push him. Ridicule and threats clearly will not help here. Respect his decision. If he is ready to discuss this topic, ask him why he is not ready for such an experiment.
Anal manipulation should not be presented as a surprise. Your partner”s reaction may be mixed. Perhaps your partner has never tried this and has prejudices or suspicions that need to be addressed. He may have already tried it and didn”t enjoy it at all.
Therefore, he does not want to tune in and prepare, because for some reason the game does not seem worth the candle to him. There is another option — your partner experienced discomfort (pressure and manipulation, inconvenience, pain) and therefore does not share your enthusiasm.
Give your partner time to think things through. Don”t rush your boyfriend/girlfriend and don”t try to “unnoticed” include anal sex during regular sex. After the conversation, several days should pass — then you can return to this issue again.
You can also explore this topic with your partner. Read articles, learn techniques, buy lube or, if you”re both ready, toys and other accessories.
If your partner perceives that you are knowledgeable about the topic, they will be more likely to relax and listen to positive results.
Preparation
If you are a massage therapist, you should wash your hands well before and after your massage. Nails should be cut short and well filed. There should be no sharp edges. Prepare lubricant. If hygiene is still a concern, massage with gloves or buy special condoms for fingers (“finger condoms”).
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In tantric practice, communication with a partner occurs at the level of spiritual vital energy. This is the level of universal interaction with sexual QI.
If you are the receiving party, use the following procedure
Start preparing 1 hour — 30 minutes before the massage begins.
Go to the toilet and have a bowel movement. Then take a shower using regular soap. In most cases, this point is sufficient.
- Deep hygiene
1 — 2 hours before the massage, do an intestinal massage. Rinse the rectum with water, as your goal is to rinse the last 15-20 cm of the rectum. Drinking plenty of water can stimulate the digestive system. This will not work in your favor.
If you have a water filter, use filtered water in your colon. However, this is not necessary. The main thing is that it is convenient for you — you can use a filter to purify water. Before doing an en-kishka, do a test by dropping water on your wrist. Water that is too cold or too hot can cause serious discomfort.
Distribute it on the bed before starting the massage. Towels help protect bedding from grease and body fluids.
This will also save you from unnecessary worries — if something goes wrong, a towel will come in handy.
- Use gloves
Packing gloves can be purchased at any pharmacy. Alternatively, buy the ones tattoo artists use with salon gloves, which are thinner than medical gloves and often black in color.
Be careful with latex gloves — they can cause irritation for some people. In addition, latex is not compatible with petroleum-based oils and lubricants.
- Vaginal sex
The movement from anal love sauce to vagina cannot happen quickly. You may get an infection. You must wash your hands (or change your gloves).
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- Keep calm
No matter how well you prepare for anal love, anything can happen in bed. The main thing is to maintain composure and approach everything with humor. You can take a break, take a shower, and then go back to bed and continue what you started. Alternatively, move on to other operations.
Anal massage techniques
- Big circles
Start with this approach. It”s very simple — slowly move your finger in a large circle around your partner”s anus.
Another technique that is remarkable in its simplicity and effectiveness. Using your index finger, also draw a small circle around your partner”s anus.
Slowly and carefully move from top to bottom along your partner”s anus. It gives new sensations.
Run three fingers up and down your partner”s anus. For most people, this technique is more enjoyable because the area of effect is wider.
Gently rub your partner”s anus with your index finger. He will enjoy this.
Perform the above technique using three fingers.
If your partner already feels very comfortable, move on to a technique that uses both hands. Start by stroking with both hands from top to bottom.
Directly into the partner”s anus with the thumbs of both hands. You can also add an adult here.
Level up
Once you have mastered the technique of external stimulation, you can move on to anal fingering (finger love).
Fingering can bring even more pleasure to your partner. If we talk about men, then such manipulation brings them pleasure due to the fact that the prostate is stimulated at this very moment. Sexologists compare this to the G-spot in women.
Anal massage and rings — you generally need to get acquainted with anal sex. And — of course! — Don”t forget about lubricants.
