Aggression in sex — normal or pathological?
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Speaking about aggression in sex, I remember the stormy scene of reconciliation from the very popular film “Mr. and Mrs. Smith.” After a spectacular shootout scene, there follows a stormy and passionate reconciliation, with elements of gunfire and hand-to-hand combat. In real life, of course, not everything is so spectacular, but ordinary people have quarrels and develop into aggressive sex.
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More precisely, at first he can be aggressive, and then, after the adrenaline level returns to normal, sex can end in a tender embrace. Perhaps this is the only case when the manifestation of aggression in bed is logical and understandable to everyone. But this is not the only way it happens.
Why do some men practice it all the time?
Due to a certain specific understanding of temperament, sometimes profession, or the image of a “real man,” some representatives of the stronger sex consider it necessary to show aggression and authority in bed. If a partner has such a “macho man” who is prone to masochism, she may treat her with sympathy. Let”s look at the three most common types of men prone to rough sex
- “Cool” Always and at all times. In everyday life, he is deliberately rude and perhaps disdains “weak” people, for example, homophobes. He doesn”t seem to know anything about respecting women. You often hear phrases like “women only need one.”
- Big man.” Men holding key positions often have a tough, domineering character. Constant moral stress and the burden of responsibility can lead to irritability. For such men, sex is not pleasure, but a way to relieve tension and relieve accumulated aggression.
- “A fan of himself.” In fact, this type of man is a definite loser. They are not often able to raise their self-esteem through business, sports or professional achievements. This happens because they react very painfully to even minor failures and give up what they started halfway. The bed remains the only place where they can assert themselves, demonstrating their strength. Women you love, take note.
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Why do women tolerate this?
Some women like it. Others do not want to destroy their families, take children away from their fathers, or take their own lives. Well, or just try to fix the situation as much as possible, with love.
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- If you think that male aggression in bed is a way of asserting yourself, you can correct the situation. But it”s hard work, she”s just a loving woman. You need to increase your partner”s self-esteem. How? In case of a major failure, do not criticize him for a minor mistake; on the contrary, support his business. Support his endeavors and celebrate even the smallest successes.
Women can be aggressive too
Scientists have discovered that in men, the same cells of the hypothalamus perform two functions at once — they control sexual desire and the occurrence of aggression. Women do not have this function. However, temperament, lifestyle and hormones can make a woman very aggressive in bed. However, this is the exception rather than the rule.
Typically, sexual aggression may be necessary for a couple (within reasonable limits, of course). It is harmful, like a spicy seasoning used constantly and in large quantities, without which food (in our case, sex) would be tasteless.
