Anal sex — a complete guide for those who want to try
Anal sex is one of the most popular sexual practices. Check your pornography request statistics. And men often ask girls to introduce them to this. Yes, it sounds. In short, they ask for anal sex. However, this practice requires careful preparation, despite its obvious prevalence. Otherwise, it is not only inconvenient, but also painful and possibly even traumatic.
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So let”s look at the details one by one. How to make your first anal experience as comfortable as possible.
What is anal sex anyway?
What type of sex:
- Vagina. Everything is simple here: there is nothing complicated with the penis (fingers, adult toys, shower heads, cucumbers, or cucumbers, in extreme cases, only with condoms wound for God”s sake) and the vagina.
- Oral and its varieties: cunnilingus, rimming, flowjob. also nothing complicated. Stimulating the genitals with the mouth, fingers, or adult toys to please a partner. Cunnilingus is vaginal caresses of a girl, fellatio is caresses of a man”s penis, and rimming is anal caresses with the tongue.
- Anal. The penis or adult toys penetrate the anus.
What”s the problem?
The fact is that the anus did not seem to you the least natural place for cracking and making love. By the way, in a figurative sense it may not be a crack. The anus does not lubricate because it was not naturally intended to lubricate sexually. This is true, in general and completely. All other intimate parts involved in a particular sexual practice are different from each other. The mouth secretes saliva, the penis and the vagina. This is a natural lubrication necessary to prevent sperm from entering the uterus and to allow the anus to release it. Also, it is not intended to have anything going into it. Again, in general. The anus, as you know, is a dirty part from which anything can come out, much to your horror. Unlike the vagina, the anus cannot stretch, widen, or enlarge to accommodate a penis or toy. The latter causes psychological discomfort. Not all girls are ready to perceive the buttocks in a sexual context. This is the most confusing to most because the buttocks and anus are primarily associated with bowel movements and bowel movements. Psychological discomfort is caused by the thought that it will hurt you. And pornography often doesn”t help in this matter at all with the depiction of anal sex as the most rough, hard, animalistic, emotional contact, hugging a girl, paying attention to her needs, very hard, very strong. Even sex sucks. No, anal sex is what it says it is, but it”s best to give your first experience as much tender attention as possible. This is most convenient for her. Read on to learn more about this and how to prepare for anal sex.
How to prepare for anal sex?
Here”s what you do:
- First you need to prepare the anus to accept a very large object for this very hole, stretching it in a purely physiological way. This is necessary so that you do not get injured.
Thus, the scheme of actions is as follows.
- Step 1: anal masturbation.
Start with something simple. During masturbation, when you are alone, try massaging your anus to give yourself pleasure.
It”s best if this happens during the most pleasurable and relaxing masturbation. In other words, if you want to masturbate on the toilet, try touching yourself there, as if you were masturbating with a vibrator. Give it a try. This is essential for psychological comfort. Listen to your feelings. Now your task is to understand how you like it, what gives you pleasure, the speed of touch, the position, and the angle of penetration. Don”t forget to lovingly caress both the clitoris and the anus. Surprise: the anus has nerve endings and is close to the genitals, so its stimulation can be erotically pleasurable. However, it”s not even close to the genitals, so it”s impossible to cum from anal stimulation alone. Anal sex is always a sleight of hand; there”s no trickery here. She”s always a sexual multitasker and loves to pay attention to several areas of her body at once.
- Step 2: Adult Toys.
Since they”re larger than fingers, they help gradually stretch the anus and make penetration more comfortable. Start with smaller adult toys, and then gradually, as you feel more comfortable, move on to larger ones. Below is a section on how to choose an anal sex device.
- Step 3: Get your partner involved.
For example, ask them to rim you. No, but what? They”re going to put their penis in there, but their tongue can”t? Smell that sweet double standard? Actually, rimming is a good idea because it physically relaxes the sphincter muscles. It also relaxes you psychologically, as you experience intense sexual pleasure. And after orgasm, your whole body relaxes, especially the lower abdominal muscles, so the session truly relaxes you sexually, as anal sex can be much more comfortable. In fact, it”s ideal if your partner is by your side the entire time. They”ll love you with their fingers and stimulate your anus with an adult toy.
This is psychologically liberating and helps you relax. Because if you are focused only on personal masturbation, you run the risk of relaxing, and you are ready for this, but as soon as the second participant in the process gets involved, you become constrained and do not get pleasure. By the way, the common story that many girls can cum from masturbation and can cum with a partner does not exist. But if you”re only comfortable psychologically, fine, no problem, let your boyfriend walk out the door.
- When do you start?
When you feel comfortable, relaxed and confident, when anal masturbation is mostly comfortable and not painful or psychologically uncomfortable. In general — when you are ready. In the end, it is your homeless person, and it is up to you to decide how to dispose of it.
How to prepare psychologically?
Partially this topic was touched upon and became more expensive. Enjoying anal masturbation is also an important part of your mental preparation. In addition, it will help you:
- Read materials on the topic of anal sex. For example, below is a section on sensitive issues that will help dispel some myths about anal sex.
- Think about your partner waiting for you, about your first “anal” time. Because you”re taking a risk by expecting it to have a pornographic effect: oh yeah, yeah, fuck my ass, yeah, you”re such a big boy! And you”ll have something so smooth and clean, and it”s overall intimidating.
To avoid such troubles, agree in advance how everything will happen. Slow or fast, deep or very deep, in what position and who controls, everyone strongly disagrees. Imagine your first anus and try to agree on everything.
- Talk to your partner during the process. If it is painful, inconvenient, unpleasant — let him know about it. This is actually the only rule of sex for fairness. You can also set a safe word. After this, all sexual manipulation stops.
Devices for anal sex
First, you”ll need lube.
This is necessary for anal masturbation and direct penetration. Lubrication from the penis is not enough because the anus does not produce natural lubrication. No, using saliva is a bad idea: there is too little of it. In addition, it dries out very quickly and does not release “on demand” (in other words, lubricant that can dry out in the mouth the moment it needs to be added). And yes, you probably need to add lube to the process! Follow your feelings: it becomes uncomfortable and too dry — add more, there’s nothing wrong with that. Lubrication is necessary to make the whole process more slippery, comfortable and enjoyable.
Which lubricant to choose?
- In general, silicone-based lubricants are best for anal sex. They are the thickest and therefore go down slowly, and they are compatible with condoms and adult toys (in most cases, pay attention to the instructions on the adult toy).
- Alternatively, you can choose water-based lubricants. They are used up faster and dry out faster. More such lubricants are required than silicone ones, but they are usually easier and cheaper to buy. In addition, they mimic the natural lubrication of the vagina.
Oil-based lubricants should not be used. They should not be combined with condoms or most adult toys as they break down the latex and penetrate the pores. Important: It is recommended not to use heating or cooling lubricants. Warming lubricants can become too intense and cause pain in the delicate skin of the anus (very thin and without lubrication as such), while cooling lubricants, on the contrary, prevent the fixation of painful sensations.
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Secondly, yes, you will need condoms.
Yes, you won”t get pregnant from anal sex (it”s not true, sperm is released onto the vagina, sperm are tenacious bastards and can live up to 5 days), but the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease is increased. This is due to the fact that during anogenital sex, two mucous membranes are involved at once. genital organs and intestines, i. e. Bacteria in different areas can interact and have a negative effect on each other. This means that even if both partners are healthy, bacteria from the lower intestines can travel to the upper genitals and cause harm.
Thirdly, regarding sex toys.
There are so many of them that it is difficult to recommend any specific model. Just one point: choose the right anal vibrator or paromimetic. It is best not to use vaginal toys for anal stimulation as they run the risk of being too deep and should be obtained from a transport scientist. This is not a joke. In fact, the vagina is designed in such a way that it physically cannot be completely deep due to special curves that prevent this. So, for example, tampons cannot sink that deep and cannot be reached on their own (only if the threads are cut out, they will still reach the tampon). However, if there is such an anal mechanism, it is not provided and therefore the toy may fail so deeply that it will have to be taken away from the doctor, and at risk to health. Therefore, to prevent this, anal masturbation toys always have a thickening in the form of a bend or at the end. A small vibrator or anal beads are suitable as a first toy for anal sex.
Risks and dangers
- Increased risk of bacterial infection.
Why this happens: The skin lining the anus is very thin, and bacteria contained in feces naturally remains on it. The skin is easily damaged by friction, and bacteria can get into these micro-explosions. What to do: Use plenty of lubricant. Use different condoms for anal and vaginal intercourse to prevent enteric bacteria remaining in the condom from entering the vagina. Move slowly and smoothly.
- Increased risk of STIs.
For the same reason: increased risk of skin damage. Anal penetration can lead to infection with chlamydia, Ho”s disease, hepatitis, HIV and herpes. According to doctors, in most cases, HIV is transmitted through anal sex. How to reduce your risk: Condoms are your best friend. No, anal sex does not cause HIV. This is a myth. However, anal sex may cause increased symptoms (pain, irritation, bleeding) if the carrier partner already has the disease. What to do: Use more lubricant. This has already been discussed above: sperm can flow into the vagina. The risk is very low, but it exists. What to do: Condoms are still your best friend, but sexual activity will be different.
- Anal fissures and fistulas.
During anal sex, there is a risk of anal fissures. These fissures can be very deep and extend further from the intestines. This is a serious risk to life as feces from the intestines can travel to other parts of the body. To do this: use plenty of lubricant and move slowly and smoothly to prevent cracking.
Anal sex positions
The most popular pose is probably the one you know: “like a dog.” The woman is on all fours, and the man enters her from behind. However, this position has a significant drawback. He is very dominant for a man and submissive for a woman. Therefore, psychologically it can be very uncomfortable. Additionally, there is little to no physical contact and no room for hugs to spread. You are literally only in contact with the genitals. Therefore, this position is not suitable for the first time. This can be very frustrating during anal sex, especially for girls. It is recommended to choose one of the following poses. It”s simple. The man sits on a chair or on the edge of the bed, and the woman kneels over him, her back pressed against his torso. This position allows the girl to determine for herself what angle and depth of insertion she is ready to choose. At the same time, there is no physical preparation required, as in the cowgirl pose, where the hips tire faster than in the beginning. Pleasure. The woman lies down and the man lies on top of her and penetrates her anus. Although this is a classic position, this method gives the couple more opportunities for cuddling and more intimate and close contact. You can say something in a girl”s ear, caress her with your hand, hug her, stimulate her clitoris, breasts or other sexual areas. Normal position (the girl lies under the man and spreads her legs), but enters through the anus, not through the vagina. The poses are easy to perform and as friendly as possible, allowing for physical contact, communication and eye contact that strengthens the emotional connection between the couple. In addition, no physical training is required. Method: a man and a woman lie down, with the man positioned behind the woman, and penetration is carried out into the anus (by the way, it is also possible into the vagina). A simple position for relaxed, smooth (it is physically impossible to move quickly here), measured sex, very intimate, calm and affectionate. The man sits in the lotus position or on his knees, the woman sits on her knees with her legs on either side of her hips, and the man inserts through the anus or vagina. The position is simple, very romantic and intimate, ideal for slow sex and kissing, very calm and pleasant.
Awkward questions
- I”m worried that my partner will stumble upon something that no one wants to encounter with their fingers, penis or tongue.
There is a risk of getting dirty with feces because here you are not walking through a chamomile field, but using for sex what is usually used for defecation. Don”t pretend that this activity is sterile and should smell like roses. However, this risk is not as great as it seems. Technically this is possible if the feces are already close to the sphincter, i. e. if you need to go to the toilet or are about to go to the toilet. In all other cases, the feces are further up the rectum and usually fingers, penises, or toys are not long enough to reach them.
- Is an enema necessary?
Not necessarily, but it”s something of a myth. In most cases, an enema is necessary for psychological comfort, so that the girl is sure that everything is perfectly clean. Do this if necessary, but usually it is enough, as already mentioned, to have a bowel movement immediately before sexual intercourse and to wash the outside completely.
- What if she farts?
This does happen from time to time. As a rule, this is caused by air entering the anus along with the penis, fingers or toys. He has nowhere to go, so he returns with the appropriate sound (by the way, the sound of a vaginal “fart” occurs for the same reason). Usually such sounds are not accompanied by a smell. It”s just trapped air. Be philosophical about this. As long as you don”t squeak so much that you shove your penis into your buttocks, the fart sound is tolerable.
- I need to go to the toilet!
During anal penetration, there is often a need to go to the toilet in a big way. This happens because the brain is trying to process what is happening. Normally the sphincter muscle tears when you need to go to the toilet — now it breaks — which means you should develop the need to go to the toilet. Added to this is the added stress that usually accompanies womb toileting for many people. Don”t worry, you won”t be defeated in the process, it”s just brain clogging. Relax and carry on. To calm down, go to the toilet immediately before anal play to remind yourself that you were there recently.
- Do you need to shave your hair?
Not necessarily, it depends solely on your desire.
- After anal sex I feel pain, there is blood in my feces, is this dangerous?
If the pain continues for a few days, this is normal. Presumably, the micro-explosions are still inside and are slowly healing. However, if the pain and bleeding persist for more than two or three days, it is recommended to consult a doctor. A glass of alcohol won”t hurt if it helps you relax and doesn”t cloud your judgment. Everyone involved should understand what”s happening and take responsibility for their actions.
How to make your first anal sex better
So, what do you already know:
- Preparation is essential. It is recommended to read more about anal sex to get a general idea of what you feel, what”s normal, and what”s not.
- You will need to purchase lubricants (oil-based, neither warming nor cooling) and condoms (one per act, not for the entire session). Sex toys are optional, but preferred.
- It is recommended to empty your bowels shortly before anal sex. Before the act itself, it is necessary to wash all the involved areas. You don”t necessarily have to force your bowels, but if it helps you relax mentally, do it.
- It”s recommended to choose a position suitable for slow and sensual sex, with plenty of physical and emotional contact, hugs, and kisses.
- Be sure to communicate your feelings to your partner. If it hurts, feels uncomfortable, or is unpleasant, tell him right away; don”t tolerate the pain. If he”s enjoying it, of course—again, the more feedback, the better.
What else can you do to make it more comfortable:
- Make love in the bathroom to warm up, wash each other, make love, cuddle.
- Rimming before penetration helps the woman relax and become aroused.
- Ideally, the woman should climax before anal penetration. This helps her relax mentally and physically. The blood clots, making it easier to achieve another orgasm.
- In general, don”t rush anal penetration, even if it”s the “main course.” The more foreplay you engage in, the warmer the woman will feel and the more aroused she will be by the time of anal penetration.
- During direct penetration, breathe deeply, slowly, and smoothly, and relax all the muscles in your body. Holding your breath causes muscle tension to spasm, making penetration more difficult and painful.
- Anal stimulation should stimulate the clitoris during the process. Anal stimulation is comfortable, but it”s not the only way a woman can orgasm, so either she or her partner should stimulate the clitoris with fingers or toys to enhance the sensation.
What to do next?
Basically what you want. You may want to lie down and cuddle, or vice versa — go to the shower, wash yourself and change your bed linen. Continue sexual intercourse (don”t forget to change condoms!) or), end and rest. There are no specific recommendations.
Why does anal sex feel good?
Physiologically, the anus is an intensely sexual area with many nerve endings and blood vessels, and its proximity to the genitals makes stimulation erotic and pleasurable.
Direct penetration stimulates the clitoral stalk (behind the clitoris in the vagina). If the girl is lucky and the clitoral leg is physiologically close to the muscular septum separating the anal and vaginal zones, she will experience more intense pleasure. However, in most cases, to achieve pleasure with anal stimulation, it is necessary to additionally stimulate the clitoris. For men, anal sex is a kind of erotic fantasy. This is because this practice is very popular in pornography. Men are happy with this opinion. Perhaps, in addition to the feeling that they are breaking a taboo by having anal sex, it also plays a role that their ego is pleased by the fact that the girls do a lot of preparatory work for them, which causes them great inconvenience. Physiologically, for men, the method and stimulation of the penis, whether through the muscles of the vagina or the anus, is not so different. Supposedly, anal ones are simply tighter, which makes the stimulation more intense. By the way, men physiologically enjoy anal sex. They have a prostate and the stimulation is very intense sexually. Well, for the record, no hint as to what you mean.
Reviews from girls
- “It”s not the worst, but it”s almost like flossing your teeth. It”s no fun for me. It”s not that it hurts, it”s just a little uncomfortable and not for me at all.” — Joe R.
- “I used to be into anal. At one point I was having more anal sex than usual. If done correctly (i. e. without a man thrusting his penis into you like a horse in heat), the anus can vibrate dangerously between pleasure and pain.
It is intense and during anal sex the man”s penis completely fills you. When he comes in, you have to hold your breath. This happens because it feels like there is no room in your body for air and his penis at the same time. At the same time, pleasure fills your whole body — Nina T.
- I”ve tried it for a long time. The man I was dating wanted to do it, resisted it, but eventually stopped. He tried to insert it, but it was too painful. I don”t think he used any lube.
If I trusted him enough, I might try again with the right person. It”s not something that”s at the top of my list anyway.” — Clara T.
