How to experience simultaneous orgasm?
11 out of 10 Incidents of simultaneous, violent orgasms are magnificent. However, such tales usually only exist in paperbacks and melodramas of women’s fiction, which make young girls boil.
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Today we’ll explore how to bring about or delay orgasm (both male and female) so you can finally cum together.
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Everyone dreams of orgasming at the same time—it’s the best indicator that sex is truly successful. When both people orgasm, it’s wonderful. When it happens at the same time, it’s perfect.
However, our world is imperfect, and this applies to all areas of our lives. Unfortunately, for sex.
Situations where one partner reaches the finish line too quickly or, conversely, too slowly are normal and common.
However, this doesn’t mean you have to agree with it—it’s a fact.
Obstacle_Course_(Men)
Understand the factors that prevent men from achieving orgasm in the first place.
If it’s just one failure, then the lack of orgasm could be due to excess alcohol. A man might decide to relax a bit, but overdo it—it’s not his head that’s relaxed, but other parts of his body. And, of course, the ever-present stress and “fatigue” can also contribute.
If problems with orgasm occur regularly, the cause could be very serious. The unpleasant term “anorgasmia” is looming large.
The symptoms of anorgasmia are very unpleasant: ejaculation occurs, but the peak of pleasure is not observed. Other symptoms of anorgasmia in men include a weak orgasm. Or the man may not enjoy sex at all.
If physiological issues are overlooked, the problem may be psychological. For some reason, the man feels uneasy about his partner or wants a relationship with her.
Other causes of sexual problems include diseases (genital and endocrine), alcoholism and drug addiction, severe psychological illnesses (such as depression), or medication side effects.
If there are no physiological problems, it’s worth overcoming your inhibitions and consulting a psychologist. For some reason, in Russia and the CIS countries, attitudes toward psychologists and the people who seek their help are very specific.
For our compatriots, consulting a psychologist means admitting that you’re not only crazy but also weak—you can’t “solve” your own problems and have rushed to the doctor.
It’s important to prioritize correctly—do you have other people’s stereotypes and opinions about the quality of your intimate life?
Also, cut down on alcohol and tobacco.
The problem won’t go away on its own. It can lead to even greater problems, including frequent urination and specific discomfort in the genital area.
So, here are some brief symptoms of male anorgasmia:
- The man experiences pleasant sensations during sex, but orgasm doesn’t bring much pleasure—the sensations are slightly heightened.
- Painful sensations during intercourse.
Psychological and other issues that interfere with orgasm:
- Strict upbringing—sex was considered shameful in the family. Condemnation of symptoms of sexual interest in a child.
- As a result, psychological trauma occurs, during which the child discovers their parents are in love.
- As a child or teenager, the person experienced abuse.
- The first experience of failure and the painful shame associated with it.
- Disappointment (often occurs after the long-awaited first sex).
- Abuse of coitus interruptus as a contraceptive.
- Lack of focus on the process – the man’s thoughts wander far beyond the bedroom.
- Lack of emotional attachment to the partner – “robotic” sex without an emotional and sensual experience.
How to solve the problem:
- Visit a psychologist.
- A healthy lifestyle (at least, diligent efforts will lead to this).
- Resolving a conflict or breakup with a partner. A man will begin to experience orgasms and intense emotions from sex with another woman.
- Visit a doctor. It’s worth checking your hormone levels (excessively high prolactin, low testosterone) and ruling out hypoglycemia.
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You might as well write a paper about the problems women experience on the path to orgasm.
It attempts to present the information without using “too many bugs.”
Unfortunately, not all women experience orgasm during intercourse with a man. However, women are very easily discouraged by concepts like “coldness.”
If a woman experiences sexual desire and orgasms during “solo sex” or cunnilingus, it’s foolish to consider herself one of the “cold” women.
Symptoms of female anorgasmia:
- Painful sensations during intercourse.
- Lack of orgasm.
- Lack of sexual desire.
The main enemies of female orgasm:
- Lack of confidence in one’s body, focusing on one’s own shortcomings (usually much more boring ones) rather than on sensations.
- By focusing on one’s partner’s pleasure, a woman forgets about herself and thinks only about the man’s orgasm.
- Survived sexual assault.
- Negative relationship experiences include betrayal, toxic partners, mistrust, and fear of men.
- Unsuccessful first time sex.
- A previous partner carefully instilled in her an inferiority complex.
- Strict education. Taboo topics around family sex.
- An unhappy marriage. A series of failed romances between mothers, witnessed by their growing daughters.
- A morbid fear of not being able to relax during sex.
- Nervous system disorders.
- Endocrine problems (deficiency of female hormones).
- Gynecological problems.
- If there are no physical health issues, it’s worth addressing your mental health. Psychological trauma, experiences of violence, fear of relationships with men—these issues can’t be resolved by talking to a friend or sharing a bottle of wine. It’s worth seeing a good psychologist.
- Get your hormone levels checked. Especially if there are mood swings, sudden weight fluctuations, and general laziness.
- Ask your partner to spend more time on foreplay.
- Stop and worry about the ten people hanging on the “aesthetic” side of the process, in one position or another, for some reason not resembling breasts or a priest, but here thick ankles catch the eye. Many are also embarrassed by facial expressions during orgasm. The verdict of men is as follows: When there are naked girls, nothing else matters.
- Learn to relax. Unless you live like a mountain ascetic, you will not be able to protect yourself from stressful situations. You need to learn to free your body and mind from excessive tension. Take up yoga and learn to meditate. Important: Yoga is, first and foremost, spirituality. If you’re laying out your gym mat for luscious priestesses and slender legs (you’re about to pounce on your man again), forget that you really came here for harmony and peace. Reread the points above.
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You can achieve much more if you need it. Once you’ve identified the main enemies of orgasm (both male and female), a new question arises: how to synchronize your internal “orgasm” clock?
There’s only one solution: slow down one “runner” and dope the other.
Speed up orgasm
During vaginal sex, women can stimulate their clitoris with their hands or sex toys. In most cases, for the fairer sex, orgasm isn’t quite enough for clitoral stimulation. But here’s the problem. Women are shy about doing this with a man. And here, on both ends of the spectrum, it’s worth reconsidering priorities—a powerful orgasm. Perhaps at the same time.
Foreplay, foreplay, and more foreplay. If a woman is only properly aroused mid-intercourse, how can she possibly have simultaneous orgasms? Providing some resistance and oral stimulation can help immediately before intercourse itself.
Women shouldn’t ignore the top position—it gives more room for action and allows them to take the initiative. Or, perhaps, no hands at all.
You can also conduct the following negotiations in a matter of minutes. When the man is almost at the finish line, the woman begins with a small, shallow thrust (just enough to get the head of the penis inside the vagina). Clitoral stimulation.
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If the man is dangerously close to the finish line and urgently needs to do something, pause the process and gently squeeze the head of the penis for five seconds. This stops blood flow and reduces arousal.
The main rule: handle such an important organ carefully. Excessively abrupt and forceful penile compression is unlikely to facilitate a happy outcome of simultaneous orgasm.
And considering that Russian women are “horses and barns,” the evening could end in the emergency room.
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First, don’t focus on orgasm at the same time. Pornography and romantic melodramas can have a negative impact on our perception of reality.
Start watching romantic comedies where sex is depicted realistically, in awkward moments, sometimes embarrassingly. Some finish quickly, others not.
Focus on the journey, not the destination.
Reading professional literature can be helpful.
In Laurie Mintz’s book “Fulcrum,” you can read real-life sex scenarios between real couples.
