Shut up and enjoy: gags in erotic play
Why do people use gags in intimate situations? Some believe that, unable to speak, they can focus on other sensations and enhance them. For others, it”s a simple form of dominance, giving them a sense of power over their partner and opening the door to other BDSM practices. And some have watched “Fifty Shades of Grey” or other top films on Pornhab. The reasons for choosing this form of erotic play aren”t so important. This article is not about theory, but about practice.
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When it”s best not to
People unfamiliar with BDSM culture don”t always know that its basic principles are safe. And even seemingly harmless things like gags in sex play can cause serious harm or even be fatal. And this is no joke. There are numerous contraindications to the use of gags, including asthma, epilepsy, cardiovascular disease, respiratory diseases, and even previous maxillofacial injuries. If any of these apply to you or your partner, don”t take unnecessary risks. There are plenty of other sexual practices in the world that add spice to your relationship. Try something different.
Also, don”t forget about hygiene. A gag is a personal item, but wouldn”t you share your toothbrush with someone else? Same story. No matter how trusting the relationship, personal hygiene is paramount, and using it with a new gag that remembers a previous relationship is a bad idea. Just buy a new one.
How to choose?
First, decide what you want from the gag. The gag should fit in the mouth, and the lower jaw and tongue should be fixed so that the person cannot utter a word. Regular BDSM practitioners don”t find this unusual, as people unprepared for it are less likely to experience the desire to repeat such violence through the oral cavity. Therefore, it”s better to start with other, simpler methods.
A cane is the best option for beginners. It”s a rigid rod covered in soft material. Not to be confused with horse harnesses! However, a sex shop will be able to advise you and help you choose the best option for you. A cane allows for some freedom, and you can, of course, emphasize satisfied moans and cries to help.
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Sex is much more multifaceted than most people think. Vivid fantasies and trust between partners can bring this to perfection.
Rings and posts are another common option that have many benefits. Firstly, such gags do not interfere with breathing, and air passes through them freely. Secondly, it leaves plenty of room for oral sex if the partner doesn”t object and the ring is large enough for the “device” to penetrate. Even though the mouth is not blocked, it is not possible to talk using the ring. Open your mouth, speak and see for yourself.
Ball gags are a tougher option. If you decide to start with this, make sure it has a hole for air to enter. The material from which the ball is made must be elastic and soft so as not to damage the teeth. Then chew the apple to determine the optimal size. No, don”t chew as many pieces as possible. A normal bite is necessary, comfortable and does not require the cod to strain its jaws.
Lion vs. — shut up!
However, do not buy gags, but use improvised means. Even clothes are suitable, from a tie to a lace. Don”t try to use duct tape. Firstly, it will not allow you to breathe through your mouth, which can lead to tragedy. Secondly, removing the gag after erotic play is a real torment for you.
Important!
I repeat once again that first of all it is safe. One of the main dangers during oral sex play is salivation. Swallowing with a gag in the mouth is very difficult, saliva can accumulate in the mouth and even leak out. So if the sight of your loved one drooling makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps you should try other games. And never walk behind your back with a gag in your mouth, so as not to choke on your own saliva. It”s unlikely to kill you, but violent vomiting is almost guaranteed.
To stop abusive practices in the BDSM community, it is common to use safe words, but it is impossible to say anything with your mouth closed, as you must agree with the gesture. If we take a fighter”s gesture as an example, lightly tapping the palm on the floor means surrender.
This is very common, if your sexual practice also involves holding your hands, a bell on your hand is another option, ring it if something goes wrong. They can be purchased at stores for hunters and fishermen.
