The consequences of prolonged abstinence and prolonged abstinence from lovemaking in women and men
The term “life without sex” raises many questions in the public consciousness. And it”s not a matter of morality or public opinion. After all, the former sex belongs to a complex of natural mechanisms designed to reproduce and sustain humanity as a species. We really enjoy this process, and pleasure evokes a desire to repeat the experience.
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But when was sexual intercourse simply a way to conceive a child? A very, very long time ago. Nowadays, intimate topics are freely discussed on television and the internet, and people are constantly shown their accessibility and commonplaceness. So now, sexual intercourse has transformed from an intimate activity into something ordinary (like watching TV). If reproductive issues are no longer a problem, the following topics should be of interest to all adults:
- If people choose this life, why is there no sex?
- What factors contribute to the abstinence of intimacy?
- What are the threats to abstinence?
- What are the benefits and risks of regular sexual activity?
The naturalness of the process
Couples married for more than a year should be careful. How often do they fulfill their marital obligations? No more than once or twice a week. Moreover, many spouses visit their bed only to sleep or read (or watch TV). Is this behavior natural? Freud once said that voluntary abstinence from sex is intolerable. Austrian scientists believed that libido partially controls human behavior. This leads the body to a state of arousal that requires forced release. If a person maintains their physical function, then after achieving release (orgasm), a state of peace and tranquility ensues. The inability to provide the body with this secretion causes discomfort on both a mental and physical level. In practice, this leads to feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, and melancholy from mild disappointment. Fighting this desire is extremely exhausting and energy-consuming.
Libido should be understood as sexual instinct and sexual desire. The word itself was introduced by Freud with psychoanalysis and translated from Latin, which means lust, passion or desire. However, there are factors that “suppress” the sexual instinct, as a result of which a man or woman does not experience a craving for sex. In addition, the absence of desire does not mean the absence of “side effects” from abstinence — anxiety, bad mood, etc. There are quite a few reasons why sexual desire can be suppressed — illness (including psychological), shock and shock, fatigue of the body, hormonal imbalance, influence of external factors (third parties), etc.
Reasons for abstinence from sex
Typically, young people (under 30) in romantic relationships have sex five to six times a week (sometimes several times a day). After this, it gradually decreases to 2-3 sexual intercourses per week (in some cases, per month). After 45-50 years, having sex at least once a month is already a pleasure. There are exceptions. The point here is not a natural decrease in the level of sex hormones, but rather the specifics of city life. Comparing the sex life of urban residents with those who live in real villages (no technical advantages, 12 working days per hour), you can see that the latter have sex after 60 years. We are talking about health (moderate but mandatory physical activity, nutrition, fresh air).
But it is better to give examples of some people whose daily life can be described as a sexless existence:
- Cuts and monks ks-spiritual without contraception (religion prohibits this) and people who have regular sex life. In fact, sexual contact with women occurs only because of the concept of children.
This implies the presence of real priests who dedicated themselves to religious life.
- Colonial prisoners, soldiers on military service, sailors on a voyage—representatives of similar professions (when ZK is called a profession) are forced to abstain due to the absence of persons of the opposite sex.
- People with non-traditional sexual orientation (for example, latent homosexuals) and androgynes (hermaphrodites) may deliberately avoid sex for fear of being judged by society for addiction.
- Asexual people — they just don”t need a sex life. They do not experience arousal or intimate desire. Kisses, love, tenderness are completely replaced by bed games. Asexuals may consent to sexual contact in order to conceive a child.
- Men and women who have experienced violence in the past often begin to dislike the process itself. And often — to representatives of the sex of the rapist. This is a psychological trauma, and only a competent psychologist and therapy can help here. This includes very painful breakups with former soulmates.
- Sometimes people become so attached to each other that the departure of one of the lovers leads to the reluctance of the second partner to have sex with someone else.
- In their absence, they devote their lives to “real feelings” and refuse intimacy until they meet their destiny. They do not want to exchange themselves for temporary relationships or casual connections. This is the choice of each person. This also applies to believers, who are allowed to have sex only within a legal marriage.
- Promoholics — they not only do not have time for a fully formed life, but they also simply do not have enough energy for this activity. And the problem of finding a partner is very easily solved by workaholism.
- Men and girls with professional parents. Such parent-relatives constantly interfere in the personal lives of their children and drive away untested candidates. Adult children of such parents cannot express their will. She was crushed as a child.
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Special places are occupied by spouses whose marriage has lasted for several years. Lack of variety in sex keeps relationships fresh. Their attraction to each other disappears, and they can begin to live as simple neighbors. At the same time, moral principles do not allow anyone to follow their lead. Hence, abstinence. Often such spouses simply give up and do not try to diversify the bedroom game. As you can see, everyone can have reasons for abstinence. But this is another question that he brings.
The impact of regular sex
It’s worth noting right away that a high-quality sex life (with orgasms) with a permanent, healthy partner is ideally justified with a husband/wife. Otherwise, casual intimate relationships will sooner or later lead to sexually transmitted infections and sexual disorders, and possibly to mental disorders.
- Prevention of cardiovascular diseases — no one can say about this. The likelihood of a heart attack and other “surprises” that accompany regular sex life is reduced almost several times. Despite the fact that the act itself intensifies, blood pressure and pulse also return to normal.
- Everyone says sex improves your mood. This is true. This happens because during lovemaking the pleasure center of the brain is activated. A significant amount of endorphins (pleasure hormones) is also released due to oxytocin. In addition to happiness, this substance increases a person’s pain threshold.
- As mentioned above, orgasm gives a feeling of peace and relieves anxiety. The result is an excellent recipe for stressful situations, since it adds an increase in the production of hormones that increase the psycho-emotional state. Overall, people feel calmer and more balanced.
- When sex means positive action rather than “the vague friction of dying quinoa,” partners get rid of a fair amount of calories. This is also a good exercise for the entire muscle frame. Yes, you can lose weight through bed games.
There is no point in listing all the hormones produced during sexual intercourse — serotonin, dopamine, estrogen, testosterone. In the genitals, for example, prolactin is produced, which is responsible for the development of female mammary glands. It is enough to understand that this process has a beneficial effect on the functioning of the entire body and causes attraction to future partners.
Among the disadvantages (in addition to infection due to accidental gluing), one can note the increased load on the respiratory and cardiac systems during the act itself.
Abstinence
What a person gets from sexual intercourse, besides the pleasure itself, is already clear. Now you need to understand what happens to the body after a long period of sexual deprivation. First of all, distractibility and arousal increase. This can be avoided by engaging in favorite hobbies and other enjoyable activities. However, scientists have conducted numerous social experiments. In the study, people with a personal life demonstrated significantly more calm and decisiveness in difficult situations than their absent respondents.
Immunity
Analysis revealed that people with a normal sex life have a 30% stronger immune system than those who brood. This is presumably due to the production of antibodies, which is also stimulated by intimate medical procedures. Some scientists argue that a good emotional state can also serve as an additional barrier against certain diseases.
Erectile dysfunction
If something is idle, it eventually becomes unusable. The penis then becomes a clear example. Men are expected to experience problems with potency, premature ejaculation, and other “pleasures of abstinence.”
Interesting dreams or decreased libido
The effects of abstinence in men
Alienation
If people in a relationship live without sex, this practice gradually leads to a chasm between the woman and the man. There is a risk of betrayal, as well as a complete breakdown of the relationship. For more information on how to live without sex, read our article “How to Live Without Sex.”
A blow to self-esteem
Prolonged abstinence leads to thoughts of a lack of desire. People develop complexes and self-doubt. The longer a person goes without intimate relations, the more difficult it becomes to resume intimate contact with the opposite sex. Fortunately, this is temporary.
Diseases
In addition to erection problems, men have an increased risk of developing prostatitis and prostate cancer. The likelihood of developing medical diseases is directly proportional to the duration of abstinence. For non-sexually active women the situation is somewhat more complicated. Firstly, lack of training of the vaginal muscles has the least positive effect on the organ itself. However, this can be compensated for by doing Kegel exercises. In addition, women who have not given birth before age 30 are more likely to experience fibroids and fibroids and are at risk for other medical conditions.
Hormonal problems
Girls may experience irregular menstruation. Some experience increased pain during menstruation. In addition, estrogen levels decrease, which is accompanied by new problems. It has already been noted that testosterone is also produced during sexual intercourse. With testosterone deficiency in men, muscle mass decreases, hair loss and increased fatigue occur. And this is not to mention sexual problems.
Attempts to replace release
Without the necessary processes in the body, a person begins to look for pleasant sensations in other areas. And these areas are not always profitable. Eating too much junk food, drinking a lot of alcohol and playing too much games are not good for you. In fact, people who practice abstinence for a long time begin to feel the incompleteness of their image of the world. They may feel that “something is wrong,” especially in the way they treat the fair sex. They have a strange inferiority complex towards themselves.
How to survive the absence of sex?
If for some reason a man or woman is forced to refuse sex, it is first recommended to engage in self-satisfaction (especially for ovulating women). This reduces the symptoms of blood congestion in the pelvic area and slightly increases the flow of endorphins. Another way to temporarily experience “difficulties” is through sports and work. Especially if a person is able to collect unused energy and direct it in the right direction. However, all of these are temporary ways to help a person “hold out” until a sexual partner appears.
