Traditions, customs and rituals of the first wedding night in different countries of the world.
First wedding night: association — wonderful sex between the bride and groom. Everything is romantic and airy. Right? Fine! But it is intended exclusively for representatives of Western civilization. Having analyzed the traditions of the first wedding night in different countries and eras, we can come to the conclusion that a feast with guests can be considered an obligatory attribute of a wedding and the first night. Everything else, such as the bride and groom, is optional. Moreover, sex.
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European cultures have developed certain characteristics of sex on their wedding night. But everything is fine.
First wedding night in the Middle Ages
It all started a long time ago. It is known that during the period of pessimism, various tame lords constituted the “right of the first night.” Among them were Russian landowners.
There is no reliable information about how this custom developed and existed. However, he certainly did. Surviving documents prove that in fact the feudal lord did not intend to use this right. However, they mentioned it to shake some more important topics out of it. The latter had to pay for the fact that the rights to the first night remained with her newly-made husband. For example, a ham, or another corpse, or a potato can. Thus, perhaps potatoes were more valuable to the ruler than rustic beauty.
However, it can be assumed that men sometimes remember their rights when they see a beautiful girl. It was very convenient then.
Russian customs
In Russia, everything is traditional — the bride and groom with flowers, they were on the first marriage bed. And moreover, there was no one in this bed except them.
The ancestors had enough rituals and their numbers were overwhelming when there were serious things to worry about. And what could be more serious than creating a new family, accompanied by noise and new members of society?
Researchers disagree on how liberal morality is in Russia. Some say that it is enough for them to live together, have children together, and then get married. Obviously, this could be considered true during the time of pagan domination. With the advent of Christianity, her virginity began to take on great importance.
The right to change status belonged to her husband! With the advent of serfs, everything changed a little, but serfs as a whole belonged to the landowner, and a person”s fate depended on his mood and lack of progressive views. Among them were newly married couples.
From an orthodox point of view, only the husband was responsible for turning girls into women. And for them to become them, a wedding ceremony had to take place, where everything actually happened.
Until now, it was not customary for Orthodox Christians to attend weddings during Lent or church holidays. At that time this rule was strictly observed.
It was customary to arrange the wedding night (aka the basement) in a cold room (barn, bathhouse, closet). In addition, the room belonged to the groom with flowers. This happened because, as always, the girl entered her husband”s family.
The wedding bed was filled with bedding donated by the bride. They were then decorated with twigs, bags of flour and other objects as talismans of poverty and infertility.
The beds were treated with whip blows to ward off evil spirits, after which the newlyweds were married.
Sex in the first marriage was a ritual:
- The bride did not eat all day, as it is very easy to get pregnant. However, she sang farewell songs all day and participated in many rituals.
- There were bugs and spies placed near the door, probably to ward off restless spirits.
- Together with the flower groom, the bride ate bread and chicken. The family has grown again.
- The girl took off her husband”s boots as a sign of modesty.
- Actual processing. By the way, being deceived was considered a fact of marriage on earth, not in heaven.
- The girl showed her bloody shirt as a sign of innocence. If the demonstration took shape, she covered herself and her family with shame. The worst thing they could do was return to their parents.
- If all went well, the guests overturned the pot and hung a towel with a red thread.
After the ceremony, the bride and groom with flowers became young. This marked the birth of a new legal family.
Traditions of the first wedding night in different countries
Not counting the peculiarities of the first wedding night! The tribes on the Dark Continent are especially fun.
On the night after the wedding in some countries there was no Zhenya X: there was no bride.
- In South America, the bride”s first man was a magician.
- In Zaire, the leader took the bride because the flower groom did not want to spoil the relationship. Yes, the care and love are obvious. But to whom?
There is only one country where there is no bride at a wedding: Tanzania. She sits at home and waits to be crushed. Waiting is followed by sex after marriage. Maybe. If the groom does not roll around in alcohol.
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A wedding day is almost always a day of excitement, stress, nerves and fatigue. But all this is against the backdrop of music, dancing, intrusive (but almost native),.
No sex on your wedding night:
- In the Philippines. The offspring must be healthy. Therefore, after drinking alcohol it is not possible. The choice between alcohol and sex is not in favor of the latter.
- Muslims. If the newlyweds did not know each other before the wedding (and this, according to rumors, still happens), you can simply talk, get to know each other, eat sweets and read prayers for peace of mind. And if all this doesn’t seem modern, then off to bed.
- In India. First sex is postponed for three days. This is due to the need for spiritual unity, which is possible for people who know each other well. This gives time for recognition.
- In Macedonia. The bride and groom are fighting over boots and hats. The one who wins is the head of the family. Sex?
- Mexico, Peru and Brazil. Newlyweds postpone their wedding night for the new moon: into a new life with the new moon!
- In Central Africa it is not only sex, but also the first night. And for the fight! It is said that fatal consequences of such fights are extremely rare. Comfort, of course, but not by much.
- In Dagestan. This does not mean that the first night passed without sex, and it is impossible to say that with it. If you”re lucky. In fact, newlyweds quarrel here, and the man takes his wife to bed only if he wins. Girls in these parts of the world are resilient and are prepared from childhood to face hardships.
Rituals preceding the night of love:
- In Uganda, as expected, the first wedding night takes place. I wouldn”t give up yet! On the eve of the wedding night, the bride”s parental relative checks the groom for gender competence. Therefore there are no mistakes.
- In Korea, before the marriage bed, the groom tapped the heel of the fish to increase potency.
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- In Turkey they boast of using a sheet with blood to preserve the pores. If they are very proud, they may wave their arms.
- In Kyrgyzstan, if the wife was innocent, then after the wedding night they walk in a new basin.
- In the Berber tribes of North Africa, sexual intercourse exists between newlyweds, but in the company of an experienced parental relative, and not alone.
- In Kenya, it is impossible to be alone and suddenly someone breaks something, because a parental relative looks under the bed and directs the process from there.
- Jewish: the bride does not remove the scarf from her face, and the flower groom does not pray in the evening. Assuming the groom is not wasting time with the flowers, pray to keep those needed strong. But why is the scarf on the face a mystery?
- In Africa, local tribes knock out two front teeth on their wedding night. Yes, who saw the stamp in the passport? And everything is visible, only a smile.
- Again in Africa, but at the beginning of time: all the guests slept with the bride and asked for gifts. It is strange to think that this custom has survived in our time. The gorilla bridesmaids are the ones who take the bride. And if they survived, it was not as a marriage ceremony. Therefore, it makes no sense to break away and run to the Dark Continent. And in others today you can find such marriages and illegal dances.
- In Samoa, the night is spent between relatives and parents. If it is impossible to remain silent, they will leave the game.
- In Thailand, the wedding night will not take place unless the cat enters the room first. And the more, the better.
- In Sudan, the groom will not sleep until the bride is completely asleep.
Of course, by Western standards this is traditionally surprising. It is much more interesting to make the wedding non-standard. Of course, only if a person is ready for the consequences.
Traditional wedding night
Perhaps in modern society the wedding night standard has been brought in by Hollywood and the media with the addition of psychologists. And that”s what happened.
What should ideally happen on your wedding night:
- After that night, therapists say, it becomes the sex life of the marriage. Therefore, bloody nose, it should be unforgettable and romantic.
- Romance is, first of all, underwear for both women and men.
- And also bedding. If you want to slip — silk, if you want to get stuck — cotton;
- Hotel rooms are a good gift for newlyweds, so an even better gift.
- Of course, champagne.
- Flowers and wedding banners will add a festive feel, especially if you are at home.
- Arrange the candles, the more the better.
- Spray a broken or scented candle in the corner.
- Distract those who are anxious, not fearful and not fearful.
- Talk about everything, including what happens in bed.
And even more tips on what needs to be done to make the memories the best and highest. This is advice from psychologists and wedding planners. How does everything happen in real life?
Wedding night in the stories of real people
Life makes its own adjustments, as psychologists say, making the evening unforgettably romantic. Scientists conducted a study that showed that more than half of couples do not have sex on their wedding night.
Another study determined by what young people are doing that evening.
As the heroine of the movie “Twilight” said, on your wedding night you are just like everyone else. What about everyone else? Different. What do newlyweds do on their wedding night?
- Most couples claim to have slept without their hind legs. If the wedding takes place traditionally, with guests and a feast, then fatigue is a decisive factor in choosing an action.
- Interesting story. Nowadays it is customary to spend the first night in a hotel. So, the new wife was waiting for her husband in the room. She got dressed, lit a candle and. I fell asleep because I didn’t hear any annoying sounds. And only when she woke up in the morning, she remembered that she had not given him the key to her beloved. For some reason it didn”t work.
- Sometimes, after a meal in a restaurant, close friends gather in the room and the fun continues. Karaoke night! Don”t forget! Especially the neighbors.
- The romance of the evening sometimes goes off scale, and the man longs to get the moon from the sky for his beloved. Well, if he can”t get to the moon, he can at least grab a bite to eat at the bar before closing time. In a society where everything is as it should be, this is a very casual gesture.
- When young people are busy with a wedding, there is no time left for food. And left alone in a romantic setting, they begin to devour food. And because they had been celibate for so long, food became their only desire.
- The morning is also pleasant. The bride wakes up, goes to the mirror and sees a pillow there, conveniently attached to her head. When she went to bed, she glued the pillow to her hair, since it turned out that she had not taken out the numerous bobby pins from her hair.
- No one is free from problems. Her husband had to spend his wedding night in intensive care because he ate something at the wedding and developed an allergy.
- Such situations are avoided by people who celebrate their wedding without a traditional feast. For example, they go on their honeymoon early and check into a new exotic location. In this case, however, there are many interesting stories to tell. However, in this case, sex always takes place and is very romantic.
After analyzing the stories, the researchers found that more than 50% of couples did not have sex on the first night.
Traditions don”t always decide what the wedding night will be like or whether there will be sex. But people always decide. And if you add love and kindness to this decision, then the night will become unforgettable and will forever remain a warm ray of light next to your heart. This is how it should be, but where and how does not matter.
