Wedding night: things you should know
A wedding day is almost always a day of excitement, stress, nerves and fatigue. But all this is against the backdrop of music, dancing, the intrusive (but almost familiar), ecological chirping of the voices of the toastmaster and spectacles — under the magic of wedding impressions and moments, the very same one. It might be the first wedding night.
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Different people have different views on weddings and have their own ideas about the wedding night. Virgo or not, whether she knows her future husband or not, there are some general guidelines that will help the bride make this one of the (first) unforgettable nights of her life.
Remember!
- It will look like a scene from a movie (but maybe not).
Weddings are well-crafted tales created by the month. But no matter how well everything is planned, something will go wrong: Carl will refuse to go somewhere, the florist will send a bouquet of yellow roses instead of white at the last minute, the cake will turn out to be chocolate, the wedding jazz band will accidentally show up on time, and the wedding extravaganza includes towels and toothbrushes. The main thing is to be prepared for the unexpected and try to abandon the perfectionist mode. Controlling all the events on a wedding day can be difficult, especially for the bride, but she must pull herself together, shift all organizational responsibilities to the coordinator, mother, friends and other interested parties and simply surrender to the moment. She is enjoying the best day of her life.
- Remember that her husband is also a faithful friend!
The key to a long-term romantic relationship is a strong and unbreakable friendship. By establishing open communication with your husband based on trust, honesty, understanding, healthy compromise, and a sense of humor, you will minimize the number of unresolved issues, including on your wedding night. Even if unexpected awkwardness arises, the consequences can always be resolved and laughed about together. Healthy communication with your partner (which includes, among other things, asking direct questions about your partner”s interests and not being afraid to voice your own desires) will help you begin your wedding night with the first step toward strengthening the bond between you. And most importantly, don”t be afraid to say “no.” If there are reasons (and after a difficult wedding day, they may be quite valid), explain to your partner why now is not the best time for (first) sex. Be gentle, but firm. The wedding night is the most inappropriate moment in a relationship, because it begins to salvage aggression and the pain of misunderstanding.
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- Don”t forget to create a romantic atmosphere!
Is a room decorated with candles and the dim lighting of wedding extravagance, rose petals on the bedspread, a favorite music track, sexy pictures, massage oil, and several rooms with surprises up their sleeves — is that appealing enough?
And if the couple has been communicating for a long time and knows everything about each other — desires, tastes, and interests — nothing will stop them from realizing forgotten fantasies and making the wedding night truly unforgettable for both (and what if “Star Wars” is involved?)
- Embarrassment is completely normal.
Even if a couple has known each other for a long time, their wedding night can be unexpectedly awkward for both partners. In the end, here it is — the beginning of a new, adult and responsible life, legalized in the registry office, a new surname and, possibly, a new apartment. If the couple did not have a civil marriage before the wedding, then this is the beginning of everyday life with the husband — a new member of the household, a loved one, but with his own habits and daily routine, which may not appear between the period of sweets and a bouquet of flowers, and even many weekends spent together. And it still takes time to get used to new things — don”t be afraid to give yourself and your partner that time. If the bride marries a virgin, there is a risk that the first sex may not be as enjoyable as expected. However, such a risk can very easily be reduced to zero. This is because proper preparation for this issue is the key to opening the box of pleasures. You need to think in advance about condoms (especially if the couple at this stage does not want to be young parents), high-quality lubricants, as well as interesting and useful devices, such as sex pillows. It will be a little annoying when, after all the wedding preparations are completed, it turns out that only the groom”s friend had a condom. And most importantly — foreplay, foreplay and more foreplay! Typically, a high level of arousal leads to the natural production of vaginal lubrication, and the more lubrication, the more comfortable and less painful the sliding will be.
However, if none of the usual methods help and pain persists during insertion, always inform your partner and, if necessary, consult a specialist.
- Relax and enjoy the evening together
With or without sex, your wedding night can be an exciting experience. Your wedding day can leave its mark in the form of physical and emotional exhaustion for both the bride and groom (and now wife and husband). Therefore, there is no need to worry if something goes wrong or not according to plan. The most memorable day (and night) of their lives.
