Cuckolds: Who Are They and What”s the Big Deal
What is this strange sexual fetish? How common is it? Are there any celebrity cuckolds? We”re trying to understand its nuances and why someone might be aroused by the “cuckold” status.
Excuse me, who?
A cuckold is someone who is aroused by their partner having sex with someone else. Cuckoldry is closely associated with BDSM, which involves dominance, submission, and humiliation. All for sexual gratification. Incidentally, “someone else” is usually called a “bull.” It”s important to understand that a cuckold is not a “cuckold” in the classic sense. This is because treason in the classic sense is also out of the question. Cuckoldry is a practice where the cuckold knows they are being deceived. It”s possible this even happens right before their eyes. They may even participate in the selection of candidates for the third role. Doesn”t sound like typical cheating, does it? Is the cuckold always a man? In most cases, not always.
How can anyone enjoy that?
And why is there a general preference for various sexual practices that most people consider perverted? Why do certain sexual fetishes exist? When discussing a particular “kink” (from the English word kink, literally meaning “kink,” meaning an abnormal fetish), it”s important to understand that several variables are always at play when it comes to sexual preference. These include various social and biological factors. Psychologists have identified a number of reasons why people become aroused by their partner having sex with someone else.
- Biological factors.
Some speculate that this may be due to the “sperm competition theory.” Of course, here we are only talking about male cuckoldry. Research has shown that when men see a woman having sex with another woman, it triggers a specific biological response in them. After such a “show” he can have sex longer and more energetically. He ejaculates more intensely, there are more sperm in the ejaculate and the refractory period is reduced. Knowing that your partner is sexually attractive to others can increase sexual desire. Actually, it works for both men and women, doesn”t it? And even those who are far from cuckolds do not agree to such a practice under any circumstances. Sexual jealousy can be a very powerful motivator. Some researchers associate jealousy with the same competition for sperm — the jealous person immediately joins the game of “avoiding rivals and impregnating women.”
Constriction is the opposite of jealousy. When he sees that his loved one is happy, he himself begins to feel happy. The term “compression” is often used by people in polyamorous (non-monogamous) relationships. Thus, they try to convey to society the emotions they experience. In the world of cuckolding, happiness comes from knowing that the person you love is experiencing sexual pleasure and satisfaction. For some people, the humiliation aspect plays an important gender role. It intensifies the sensations of sexual intercourse. It”s enough that some pollsters sit back and watch their partners “cheat” on them. Others need a little more theatrics, so partners and third parties ock laugh, ock laugh and humiliate them. There are also cuckolds for whom the humiliation aspect does not play any role at all. Yes, it feels like a betrayal, but. The participants agreed with everything, didn”t they?
Now there are no problems. In reality, cuckolds are subject to partners, third parties, and established rules. Once again, there are many men and women with a fetish for obedience. It just took on a slightly different shape than choknody. Certain criteria were established for the company. Monogamy is considered the standard for relationships. Anything that goes beyond these limits becomes taboo. And this is very interesting. Cook and his partner break existing rules and do something “dirty” and “forbidden”. And this always stimulates the blood. When we talk about dolls, we almost always mean men. However, as mentioned above, women can also act as observers. This is influenced by almost the same stimuli (not counting “sperm competition”, of course). They understood this. “But how can women agree to participate in this? Marry a doll and sleep with a man they don”t know? Does anyone like that? Why do they do it?” Not everyone chooses monogamy. Many consider it a relic of the past. Then someone turns to dolls and similar practices to save the marriage.
Relationship with a cuckold
What do you expect from a relationship with a person who has such standard sexual preferences? Can they be beneficial? Sexologists answer in the affirmative:
- Physical pleasure.
Sex with an invited bull is something that goes beyond your sexual routine. This is a rare experience that is guaranteed to give you both new sensations (although they are not always very positive, so this is something to take into account). And your sex life can become much brighter after starting the practice. Cooking has the power to revitalize and rekindle relationships. People in such relationships often admit that their sex lives have improved since the introduction of dolls. And the wives of cuckolds report feeling more satisfied.
- Emotional intimacy.
Sexologists believe that most couples who practice cuckolding are usually very close to each other. Your willingness to share your innermost fantasies brings your partners closer together.
- Freedom from rules
Are there really strict rules, but usually not consistent with generally accepted norms? Yes, in many cases it happens that a man acts as a puppet. Yes, his partner usually takes on the role of ruler. Yes, the surveyor is usually faithful to his woman and does not start problems on the side, but. Who forbids you to rewrite everything for yourself? No one.
Where to start?
If you are a “guest star” and plan to join the couple, first take off your rose-colored glasses. Yes, in fact, they are offering you sex without strings attached. Come and enjoy. However, there are a few important points to pay attention to. Firstly, the feelings from such an experience are not always positive. This applies to both parties — you, the man and the woman. And secondly, such meetings indicate a lack of emotional attachment. If you understand that this is not your strong point, think three times before agreeing. If you want to try yourself as a puppet, try the following
- First level.
In fact, it is not necessary to immediately take action. You can start by talking. Penatar”s partner may share with him piquant details of her past sexual encounters. Or tell her about the men she imagines in her fantasies.
- For those who want more.
If you”re really turned on by the idea of your partner dating someone else, you can up the difficulty level. Watch from the outside as your other half flirts with someone else.
Isn”t that enough? Then turn it into a sensual massage for your girlfriend/your boyfriend for someone else. Want to add something even more serious? Send your partner out on a “current” date and ask him to share the details when he returns. Ready to bring a doll into your relationship? Then discuss all the rules and set boundaries. Who will pilot the process? What will the vote be like? Once everything is agreed upon, the third search can begin.
Cuckolds and hotwife
Some people like “Hotwife” (English: Hotwife, literally — “hot wife”). And people tend to interfere with all these heaps. Gender scholars and supporters of these “movements” disagree on what such a position entails. A hotwife is a married woman who engages in sexual relations with another man with the consent of her husband. The emphasis here is on sex, not on emotions, dominance, control or humiliation. Experts believe that hotwifing is a matter of pride. A man is proud that his wife is so sexy that others have ruined her. He gives her complete freedom and allows her to enjoy sex on the side.
Conversation with a partner
It is normal to have sexual fantasies, fetishes and shinki. However, few people dare to share them with their lover. What if there is a need for honest conversations about drilling in your relationship?
If they came to you to talk
Discovering that a partner turns him on can be a real shock. Especially if such a dependence remained unnoticed before him. Proceed as follows:
- Listen and take heed.
It takes a lot of courage to admit to your partner that you have very unusual sexual preferences. Listen to revelation without judgment. Perhaps your partner is smart enough not to ask you to act out your fantasies about life. Ask questions. This way, get all the information you need and demonstrate to the person that he can talk openly with you. Why is he so excited? Does he want to try? How far is he willing to go? How will this affect your relationship? Try to find answers to these questions.
- Think about it.
Make sure your partner understands that you need time. To find the information you need. Consider and understand the feelings that the prospect of sharing a bed with someone else makes you feel. If you find that you generally like the idea, start with something small, such as watching pornographic videos on the topic. You can do this together or in a small group.
If you want to start a conversation
Take a deep breath. Let go of expectations. Don”t think about how your partner might react to your words. And be prepared in advance for the fact that your ideas may not be met with much enthusiasm. Then move on to the conversation: Yes, it is quite possible that your loved one will not want to materialize your fantasies into reality. But you decided to have a frank conversation, so it’s better to demand it, right? Tell us why this turns you on. Explain what you hope to gain from this experience. In the end, a frank conversation will not be superfluous if you are hesitant to convey this position to your sex manager. You can open up to each other and perhaps expand your sexual boundaries. They will. And the more conservative your partner is, the more questions he will ask. You can prepare articles and videos that will help your partner understand the entire topic better.
- Take your time.
You should be as comfortable as possible with each other. Suggest taking small steps. And make it clear that you will not suppress, assert, or violate your partner”s boundaries.
How to find the third one?
Have you decided to try it? Be brave! But now you need to discuss two more points:
- Who will look for the third? Does it matter that you both prefer it? Or is the approval of one of you enough?
- What exactly does Koldom do? When it”s over, do you listen to the story in detail? Are you looking right there? Or are you participating at all?
Having discussed all the details, you can begin to search for that very “bull”. To do this, you can use an app and a dating site. Be sure to indicate in your profile only the purpose for which you are looking for a third person. Your “guest stars” need to know who they are associated with. Of course, you can invite one of your friends. However, certain difficulties have already arisen here. Is it comfortable to continue communicating with this person? Can you trust him? There are many nuances.
Are there any risks?
Household Cuckoldism. Who is a cuckold.
- Do not disclose personal information (place of work, address);
- Make an initial meeting in a public place;
- Get to the meeting place and vice versa (by personal transport);
- If only one of you is going to a meeting, the other one should have all the necessary information (where exactly the date will take place, how long it will last, what time your partner should return home).
First of all, it”s safe.
Stars are cuckolds
There are always a lot of rumors about celebrities and their romances. Is the information provided by publications reliable? Of course, it is not known. However, it is always interesting to read. According to rumors, these celebrities at different periods of their lives rejected monogamy and experimented. If rumors are to be believed, the noble former Prime Minister of Canada has repeatedly “guided him around the corner.” It refers to novels featuring members of the Rolling Stones. In 2009, several sources told the New York Daily News that actress Megan Fox and her husband, actor Brian Austin Green, were in an open relationship. However, to meet others, sources claimed that only Meghan was allowed. When Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore got married, gossip about them regularly appeared on the pages of popular publications. They were even credited with swings. Jada publicly admitted that she and her husband gave each other complete freedom in their relationship. According to sources, Roosevelt”s marriage was also free-spirited. The actor learned firsthand what it was like to be number three. He admitted that this is how he lost his virginity — by joining a couple.
Reviews from men
- We were in a long distance relationship and I liked trying new things. I proposed cuckolding to my girlfriend. Two months later, we have already made this fantasy come true.
She admitted that she didn”t really like the idea at first, but she decided to think about it for me anyway. First there was sexting with other men. Then we posted the ad on the website and received a lot of responses, but no one liked it. Then I accidentally found an ad for a man who was perfect for us. After discussing the details, we agreed to meet at the hotel. My girlfriend was very nervous. I think my words helped her feel better. In the end everything went well. I really wanted to take part, but for the first time I decided that just observing was enough. Of course, we both had mixed emotions. But it was very hot.”
- We started cuckolding by accident. One day we were hanging out at a bar and two guys started beating my wife. Then I was very surprised — she responded to their flirting, which angered me. They all later apologized.
Then I realized that imagining my wife having sex with these men turned me on. I started watching cuckold pornography. He then suggested that his wife post nude photos of her online and then read the comments. She agreed. So I continued and here we are. I can”t help it. A fetish is a fetish. Fortunately, my wife is happy with everything and happily indulges my fantasies.
- I had very mixed emotions. 90% I was happy and 10% I was afraid that she would have feelings for this person. Now I”m much calmer. And we have already agreed with one couple to meet next weekend”;
- The first time I was torn to pieces. On the one hand, I wanted to write to this person so that he would come back. On the other hand, I didn”t want him to interact with my wife too much because I was worried that she might develop feelings for him. But there was no crazy jealousy. My wife and I are quite confident in ourselves and trust each other”;
- “I tried to convince my girlfriend for a long time, but in the end it turned out so-so. The man had sex only in a normal position under the blanket. Then, when I was working, she invited him again. It doesn’t matter. The aftertaste she left after this experience is so-so. Would you repeat this experiment? Time will tell.”
Reviews from women
- After swinging I switched to cuckolding. When my husband first suggested this to me, I didn”t agree, but. For eight months he convinced me and I gave in. He introduced me to a couple who were his friends.
The first time I was embarrassed, but then my face lit up with joy for them. Then we joined.”
- I met this man on the Internet. We corresponded for a long time, and I admitted to my husband that I wanted to sleep with him. We agreed to meet in a cafe and got to know each other. Everything went well.
When I came home to talk to him, my husband said that fantasies are meaningless unless you make them come true. And we decided to take a risk. It was wonderful. Our relationship seemed to be rebooting. The animal energy hidden inside burst out. We started a few more.”
- The first night I was very worried. I wanted to cancel everything. Various thoughts were spinning in my head. I even told my husband about this. But he convinced me to at least try.
My husband was sitting in the other room. I felt embarrassed. I stopped the man and called my husband. He joined us, and I calmed down and began to enjoy myself. I had mixed feelings. After the man left, I started crying, my husband calmed me down and said that I was doing great.”
- I”ve been preparing for this for a whole year. I could have been more calm about this whole topic — perhaps even better. Sex turned out to be the roof. And the emotions were very diverse. There was also a feeling of guilt — I was doing something that was not appropriate for a married woman!
The excitement and excitement stayed with me for the next few days. Sex with someone new cannot be replaced by anything. The hormones hit me over the head. And the realization that I realized that my husband”s imagination added fuel to the fire. I don”t regret anything. My husband dreamed about this for a long time. Everything didn’t turn out the way we imagined, but it’s also impossible to say that we were disappointed with this experience. After this experience, you may feel different emotions. Be sure to share them with each other.”
- I played the role of a cornflower. I invited my best friend into our bed. At first it was hand caresses. Then we started having sex three times regularly.
I joined in and watched with pleasure as he entered her, cumming on her face or chest. What is your most vivid memory? Stopping him in cowgirl position, she finished, then turned to me and said “thank you” with the lips she used to please my husband. The first time, my husband was very nervous and constantly asked if I would succeed. Now we’re already used to it — no nerves, no worries.”
