A handsome, intelligent, moderately well-fed, sexually mature man—who is he?
At what age does puberty occur? Any of them! As soon as people begin to understand what exactly they want, they are ready to share it with others and gain information about what they want. Is that too complicated? It’s easier and more interesting to use an example.
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Growing up isn’t very fashionable these days. It’s too difficult and too responsible. It’s better for girls and boys to remain mature even at 40+. The fact that this is unnatural and has unpleasant consequences isn’t immediately apparent to everyone. In early childhood, they pay the price of not being able to lead a full adult life in any form. Immature people are incapable of developing mature, long-term, and lasting relationships, not only in family relationships but also sexually.
How does sexual maturity manifest itself?
Maturity doesn’t mean rocking in a rocking chair, smoking a pipe, and reminiscing about the good old days. Ideally, maturity should arrive much earlier, as soon as youthful enthusiasm fades and experience takes its place. Even now, 20 or 25 years later, it’s still possible to sometimes ask yourself, “What do I want to do now?” This is why sand doesn’t just fall out of nowhere. This can make interactions with people more fulfilling and deeply joyful. Therefore, you can consider yourself fully sexually mature if:
- People of the opposite sex somehow seem a bit off. It doesn’t matter how you characterize them. They are either delayed in their development in some way, or, conversely, almost celestial. Mature people understand the differences between men and women and acknowledge these differences without pretense or illusion. Ultimately, it’s these differences that allow us to have sex, and to do so, we must respect and value each other.
- We can easily interact with the opposite sex. They don’t make us feel overly shy or, conversely, like we’re clinging to our butts like we’re trying to hold onto a bus seat. Observe yourself with people of the same and opposite sexes. If your behavior has changed dramatically, something’s wrong.
- You can develop an intimate relationship with someone you like. This doesn’t mean you have to shout about a beautiful object. There are many ways to let someone know you like them and are willing to accept more. Your ability to apply these skills speaks to your maturity.
- Love and accept your body. Yes, yes! Even those few folds on your stomach are far from the ideal shape of your legs and arms. People are different. They love each other just the way they are. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can give up on yourself. It’s about loving and accepting yourself.
- I love sex. Nothing is uncomfortable for you. This doesn’t mean you’re ready for perversion. This is a personal matter for everyone, for those who enjoy it. It’s enough to acknowledge that sex is normal, that there’s nothing shameful about it, and that all its physiological details don’t cause you embarrassment, shame, or disgust.
- Be willing to listen to your partner, recognize their needs, and acknowledge your right to your own opinion, but be able to defend it. You know how to give and enjoy, as well as receive.
- In a relationship, sex isn’t just important to you. Affection between adults isn’t limited to bed. Shared interests, activities, responsibilities, life, friends—everything that’s important to one person should resonate with the other.
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What happens to those who don’t grow up?
Doesn’t it seem wrong to stay forever young? Of course, at first glance, nothing. Some advantages. But that’s not true. You need to evolve. This doesn’t necessarily mean some kind of training, personal growth workshops, or other fashion trends. No, that’s not true. A person grows, develops, and ages; no process in the body is statistical. Their psychological age must correspond to their physical age, and only under these conditions will a person’s life be harmonious and fulfilling. It’s easy to imagine the impact a youthful wrinkle on the face can have. The same dissonance would arise in the opposite situation, but it seems that’s not the case. A person’s age isn’t just about wrinkles. It’s a combination of psychological, physiological, and other factors. A young man in his 40s or 50s may look young, but he still loses out next to a younger man. No matter how difficult and painful it is for young people, it’s hard to watch yourself age.
Therefore, it’s important to take everything in time. You can grow and age. It’s not scary. It’s natural. Sexual growth will bring harmony, as will relationships. Sex is a huge and very important part of human life. Enjoy every stage and don’t miss a single opportunity—this is the only true path to a happy life!
Male Psychology – Alexander Shevchenko│sermons
