How to recognize a tyrant: energy vampires and their tactics
Statistics show that every second man is a tyrant who asserts himself at the expense of women, including daughters. One in nine is considered an aggressor. Their relationship cannot be complete without aggression. A woman can be like this too, especially if her father did not allow her much as a child. Children are treated the same way. To be a little safer, we decided to collect the main symptoms of moral abuse, which boil down to communication without physical harm.
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Weak physically, strong in spirit
Energy vampires are not so common. These are morally vulnerable people, accustomed to living at the expense of other people’s feelings, but always negative ones. Vampires themselves, or psychological tyrants, differ from traditional types. As children, their parents did not like them, considering them a mistake or, to put it mildly, an accident. Due to the sudden appearance of children, their parents could only feel discomfort.
Consequently, such children grow up not only without love, but also without a guardian. When the parents’ selfishness is under complete and absolute control. Here the children are their own. Adults need to survive in an environment where couples love and want children. As a child, such men see only one model.
As a result, they create imperfect families, but are happily married. A girl next to such tyrants needs nothing. Addictions arise, energy vampires care and provide financially, but are limited. On the female side, there is a ridiculous argument that you need to deny yourself everything.
- They can no longer choose their own clothing style.
- Waste is strictly controlled.
- Constant phone calls asking where you are.
- A careless attitude towards your partner’s emotions, especially regarding emotional outbursts.
In this case, only someone who is terribly jealous will check the phone. If nothing is found, the energy vampire will not do this because there is reason to trust. Therefore, we again have to slow down with calls and SMS. Moreover, psychological tyrants rarely check the truth, because they themselves know when they are being lied to. It is much more profitable to blame without waiting for an explanation. Thus, the victim becomes completely dependent on the emotional moods of his peers.
This type of woman is rare. They can put moral pressure on men only if the man does not want to start a family, earn money and devote his life to the reproduction of newborns. Pressure begins with arguments – comparisons with the ex, constant humiliation, comments about behavior. Rudeness occurs for obvious reasons and often leads to divorce.
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When does the moral stranglehold begin?
In order not to lose control over you, your partner from the first days of the relationship tries to show his position in society. As a rule, he speaks directly: the conditions he likes and dislikes. For example, remember, my dear, I do not eat in the evening, but I must serve breakfast as if a feast is planned. The woman may demand an ongoing account of where he was and with whom.
Of course, in response, the tyrant “feeds” his spouse with obedience and thanks him in every possible way with dinner, gifts and kindness. However, over time, each misdeed comes with a punishment, and the rewards become increasingly meager. Thus, the victim falls under the emotional control of fear of doing something wrong.
Another situation is when a person is self-sufficient and losing him means the end of control over the situation. Work disputes begin. Quarrels in the family over children are very common – some do not pay much attention to them because of government agencies; the child has little contact with one of the parents. This is an argument for keeping people behind four walls and not allowing them to grow up.
Energy vampires, why are they like that and how to communicate with them?
At night, victims of psychological violence listen to negativity from those who are very tired. The tyrant absorbs negative emotions and sweeps away any thoughts about a bad event.
A moral violator is likely to leave many negative impressions of himself, even if he does not doubt himself. He is ashamed to show it to his friends and parents, but insists on knowing about you so he can control you through them. And God forbid if a friend interferes with his personal views on roasting children.
Moral violators always control their friends. It’s not only obvious. For example, spouses are prohibited from wearing certain perfumes and wearing certain types of clothing. Always talk about appearance and point out the slightest flaws: gray hair, pimples, cold lips, 100 grams of excess fat.
And the victims receive all these injections every day, no matter how hard they try not to disappoint their life partners. They look with gratitude, purse their lips and list the shortcomings until the “slave” gives up and does everything the way the arrogant master of life wants. Therefore, you need to get away from such energetic, gloomy people as quickly as possible.
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