Boring sex: women are more likely to get tired of the monotony of their sex life
Longtime Manhattan psychotherapist Andrew Gotzis treated a couple for a long time. Forty-year-old John and Jane have been married for almost 20 years. It may seem envious that they have sex three times a week.
The problem wasn”t that they weren”t having sex or orgasming. It’s just not all she wanted,” the doctor said.
“Slept with a man? It could ruin your entire sex life.” Under this headline, Newsweek magazine published the results of a study of the sex lives of 11, 000 Britons of all ages.
Women tend to lose sexual interest in their partners after a year of marriage,” the study said.
“Many women prefer monogamous relationships. It is cultural and convenient. But this does not mean that sexual desire in such unions remains constant throughout life. And no couple is immune from the fact that sex can become boring.
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So say scientists from two Canadian universities. The results of a scientific work published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
What does this mean for Jane and other women who are bored with their marriages?
If a couple wants to stay in a monogamous relationship, helping them find novelty is an important part of therapy, advises Elizabeth Gordon. “After a year of dating, women are less interested in regular sex with a partner than men.”
They may think they”re “tired of sex,” but most likely they”re tired of having sex with the same partner over and over again.
As with Jane”s sense of adventure, new lingerie and stockings don”t always cut it. When psychotherapist Andrew Goetz asked her where her relationship with John was heading, she said
Often, women find their husbands playing in the “gray zone of monogamy.” These include happy ending massage, bachelor party and meeting with an escort. All this is considered “because they are men.” However, this also seems to apply to women themselves.
