Genital arousal and real sexual desire — are they the same thing?

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Teens who experience genital arousal often report feeling intense attraction (and even love) for a particular person. Then, after a while, they completely forget about it.

In contrast, researchers studying sexual arousal found that when participants were shown pornographic videos, many (especially women) reported not feeling aroused while still showing signs of sexual arousal. This so-called “discrepancy” in arousal presented researchers with a problem — what is the most reliable way of determining what participants actually want and desire?

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“Genitals don”t lie,” some say. Others, however, believe that the body”s reaction to a particular stimulus does not necessarily reflect how it feels about it. That”s what sex educator and author Emily Nagoski says.

Nagoski states that It does not mean “desired” or “loved”. Of course, this also does not mean that consent was obtained. She explains this perfectly using the analogy of Pavlov”s dog. Pavlov caused dogs to salivate in response to the ringing of a bell and repeatedly combined the ringing of the bell with the dispensing of food to these dogs. After all, the dogs started salivating in response to one bell, but does that mean those dogs actually wanted to eat the bell? Of course not. It wasn”t the bell that “excited” them, but the idea of eating food.

Thus, Nagoski continues, it can be explained that a man’s ejaculation during sexual intercourse does not mean that he liked this particular woman.

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