Men often avoid affection, and here”s why
There is a category of men who enter into serious relationships without an excuse. And that doesn”t necessarily mean they don”t want it. There are several explanations for this phenomenon.
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He loves and then disappears. avoidant attachment type
Why do they do this?
- The man simply does not take the relationship seriously. He loves to manipulate a woman”s emotions, feels how dependent she is on him, in love with him and needs him. He feeds his pride because he himself is completely isolated from emotions.
- He is looking for the ideal woman. At the moment it is used as a transit point, but not in the long term.
- He is afraid of appearing vulnerable and losing his independence. A man directs all his moral strength to prevent emotional attachment to a woman.
- The man had experience of unsuccessful relationships. Perhaps before this he met a girl whom he loved very much, but they broke up, and he is not yet ready to open up again.
- He is so engrossed in his work that he has no time to express his emotions. There are also such workaholic careerists — they are uncontrollable.
- A man does not feel financially secure and does not want to give a woman false hope. Perhaps he is ashamed that he cannot provide his partner with everything she needs, so he prefers not to get too close to her.
- This may be due to childhood trauma. If things weren’t going smoothly for parents or they grew up in an imperfect family, a man may be afraid of causing the same suffering to his future children. This can be solved, but requires the help of a professional psychologist.
- He believes that he is not good enough for a good woman. He may have been told his whole life that he wasn”t good enough. As a result, the man grew up with the idea that no normal woman wanted to be with him.
- He has personal problems. Some men are very secretive and do not like to talk about problems even with their partners. When he figures it all out, perhaps an emotional attachment will arise.
- He does not see a future together with this woman. Perhaps the partners’ values and goals are too different, but at this stage the man is happy with everything. So he doesn”t leave, but at the same time he doesn”t get too close.
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