The work of a surrogate partner: psychology or prostitution?
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In many Western countries, there is a surrogate partner — a profession. In Russia this niche is completely free. Do they even undertake this, are such specialists in demand, and in general, how serious is it?
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What do surrogate partners do?
Imagine, for example, a situation where a person has unrealized sexual fantasies that are affecting his life, and he is forced to consult a psychologist. He can”t talk about these fantasies with his partner — it”s too embarrassing.
And now, when the psychologist has discovered the problem, in addition to unfulfilled desires, he directs the misfortune to the surrogate partner, who not only turns to the imagination, but also helps to realize it. During the implementation process, they talk a lot, understand the nature of this phenomenon and do not dare to tell their partners about it.
The result of this process is indecision and the need to overcome the ability to realize your dreams in the second half. Or, having acquired the necessary experience, you should stop giving free rein to your imagination.
What”s the difference between a good prostitute or a gigolo? Psychotherapy is carried out, and the specialists are not faced with the task of binding people to themselves and extracting as much money as possible. On the contrary, one of the problems of therapy is that the number of sessions is initially limited because the “patient” runs the risk of receiving too many attachments.
People who have serious problems with sex also resort to the services of surrogate partners. For example, they experience physical discomfort as a result of injury or illness. They are helped to learn to accept themselves and relax in bed.
The goal seems to be very good, but in general all this can be done both by priests or loving priests, and by truly loving people. Isn”t the purpose of treating a surrogate partner in this case to recognize a person whose dignity has been violated and who has suffered real humiliation?
Absolutely every person has the right to expect that he can be loved with all his strengths and weaknesses and to focus on this — which only aggravates existing problems. The job of a good psychologist is to help a person accept himself as he is, and not to prescribe sexual exercises.
The surrogate partner leaves, but the problem remains. A new partner comes along and you have to learn to behave differently with him because he doesn”t pay him for sex or to have sex with him.
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Ideal is good. Because you have a clear understanding of what to strive for and what to compare yourself to. However, such parameters as an ideal partner.
Prospects for the Russian labor market
As strange as it may sound, Russia has a rather puritanical attitude towards sex. Cheap sex is becoming increasingly popular among young people. However, spouses are unlikely to appreciate their partner”s enthusiasm for solving sexual problems outside, with the involvement of accredited specialists. Firstly, they can go to an ordinary psychologist, and secondly, they can continue to fantasize about solving the problem on their own or, worst of all, about their health.
The benefits of a surrogate partner are even more questionable in the case of people with serious problems due to actual physical disabilities. Of course, with him, as with a doctor, you can overcome yourself and even achieve some success when it seems that the problem has been solved.
However, in real situations with untrained people, things are different. Whether frank conversation is useful or not is an important question, as is recognizing your differences, even if they are not visible in normal communication. Again, if necessary, an ordinary psychologist or a truly great feeling can help here.
In Russia, on the contrary, people are outwardly distinguished by their coldness and even callousness. They tend to react more warmly to other people”s misfortunes. Yes, they do not pretend that disabled people are no different from healthy people. Unfortunately, that”s because he”s not — he”s not well.
And although they do not ignore the problems of others, fearing to humiliate them by admitting their imperfections, it is Russian people who calmly offer help when it is needed. A profession that involves receiving money for accepting people as they are is unlikely to find a response in Russia.
In conclusion, I would like to recall the conversation from the ending of the film “Some Like It Hot.”
What does a surrogate partner dream about | anzol
-Um. First of all, I wasn”t born blonde.
– I smoke cigarettes. Like a locomotive.
I have a shameful past. I lived with a saxophonist for three years.
– I can”t have children.
“You don”t understand, Osgood. I”m a man.
– Everyone has their own shortcomings.
A still from the film “Surrogates.”
If a person is truly in love, they have no problems and don”t need a surrogate partner. They accept their beloved completely, with all their strengths and weaknesses, perfect or imperfect. The best cure for complex and unrealistic fantasies is to actually find your loved one!
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