The most common causes of divorce in Russia
As with everything else, there is a very clear and real reason for the questionable leadership in Russian divorces. Moreover, in most cases their initiators are representatives of the fairer sex (80%). Discouraged men ask a logical question: why do people get divorced? After all, many of them firmly believe that a marriage stamp in a passport is the dream of every woman.
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However, the harsh reality indicates the opposite. Of course, in most cases, the reasons for divorce are very standard — husbands abuse alcohol, beat their wives, or constantly “run to the left.” Nevertheless, there remain key points that a modern Russian woman should not tolerate, and, in fact, is not going to tolerate.
Male hierarchy
Often the desire to lead a team and impose one’s point of view on others accompanies men from an early age. The first vertical forces created by him begin to operate already in kindergarten.
Boys receive these tendencies on a subconscious level, control situations and hunt on their own. He protects his home and family from enemies much more effectively. There are many examples in society of teams specially organized by representatives of the stronger sex. This includes the army, the police, and even monasteries and labor camps. However, by voluntarily finding themselves in one of these places (for example, women working in the police, or, conversely, convicted women), women are obliged to conform to the existing hierarchy. In families, many women cannot put up with this.
But, on the contrary, men often choose wives who are initially ready to adapt to them — young fools in remote villages. Thus, like a decorative dog, the wife knows her place and obeys orders. But here most husbands — commanders do not take this point into account. Married women living in remote villages in the outback also mature with time.
Very few people are able to maintain unquestioning obedience at all times. Most women learn and begin to value themselves and their independence and, accordingly, file for divorce.
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Not the right age
This reason for divorce among Russians is directly related to carelessness. And again men. It is important to note that if a husband pays enough attention to his young wife and is afraid that she will go somewhere else, he decides that for some reason she will not go anywhere after she reaches 30 years of age.
Therefore, this worldview views the spouse as a kind of symbiosis of a cook, a laundress, a psychologist, a nanny and a housekeeper. Few beautiful women are willing to endure such situations. By the age of 30, they blossom and gain self-confidence. Many of them can already boast of successful careers and teenage children.
Having become an independent and independent woman, she still needs love, affection and tenderness from her husband. If not, then divorce is inevitable. And the conversation is not only about the age of 30 years. A woman is ready to change her partner at the age of 40, 50 or even 60 years. Especially if she is a real woman.
Top 3 reasons for divorce in Russia
No to patriarchy!
Again, this is mainly about men trying to take all the rules of the family into their own hands. Here, by the way, we can mention adultery. Many men say that if they could change, women are strictly forbidden to do so because they are not allowed to do it, and they cannot do it the same way as they would do it in marriage. And treason is not all that is forbidden to her. We talk about a lot of other things: going out to restaurants with friends and just relaxing.
Sooner or later, a woman simply gets tired of such blatant dominance, and she files for divorce.
Summing up
Having made a wave of logical conclusions from all of the above, we can absolutely say that marriage in the Russian Federation is strong and durable. But only if both spouses are ready to strive for this. Mutual respect is the most important aspect of maintaining feelings.
Family conversations are also important during quiet evenings over a cup of tea. They help to understand each other’s feelings and emotions and prevent impending scandals in time.
And the third absolute requirement of marriage is equality between spouses. All decisions must be made, communicated and agreed upon jointly. Only such relationships can help save a marriage and avoid divorce. If you constantly “pull the blanket” over yourself, then sooner or later he simply won’t be able to stand it and will break up precisely when the relationship bursts, no matter how strong it may seem.
