Phone sex — a real story about the underbelly of this industry
We all know what phone sex services do. We know why people call there. But how much do we know about what girls on the other side of the line have to face?
Contents of the article:
Finding yourself
Hello, my name is Amandari, I”m 28 years old. I grew up in Kentucky and lived in the Midwest until I was 24 years old. Then I moved to New York. After living there for three years, I realized that I love this city. Today I am a writer, editor, designer, blogger and online store owner. How do you like to spend your time? I love writing, walking the dog, photography, dancing and hanging out with friends. Like most of the 20 people who voluntarily moved to New York without money management skills or real work experience, I went into shallow water. I painted, sculpted, and worked as a repairman—the pay was good, but there was very little work. I needed to find something that would help me drill holes in my budget. I came across an ad and decided to go on Craigslist and give it a try. The interview was not very formal — I came, they told me about the job. Then there was training, then “listening” — I made several calls to the manager, who listened to me and gave feedback. In other words, getting this job was easy.
Workdays
My shift lasted from 2:00 to 9:00. My normal schedule consisted of a one-day shift on the weekends and a couple of two- to three-hour shifts here and there. However, some women in the service worked almost 24 hours a day, talking on their cell phones. If additional money were needed, a few more shifts on the schedule might be asked. I took regular breaks during which I would run out, buy a sandwich at the store, and walk around the block. Our office looked like a regular call center. There were booths, tables and lockers. There was a vending machine and coffee in the restroom. There was no dress code, we could wear whatever we wanted. So, the girls who worked the night shift had pajamas and yoga pants in their lockers.
When I was on the phone or waiting for a call, almost 100 percent of the time I was working on something else. I had my own computer, I wrote something, knitted and read. It was a perk of the job. My colleagues were of different ages, races and backgrounds. I don”t know how long they”ve been doing this, but most of them had other jobs. There were actresses, designers and students. One girl brought her iPod and listened to foreign language lessons. Many people did something immediately after their main job. Some of the women I worked with were embarrassed to admit to friends and family that they were working in phone sex. Management said that it is necessary to say that we are call center employees when someone in the building or nearby asks what we do. However, it was impossible to articulate exactly what we agreed to.
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I didn”t get much. When I was hired, I had the choice of a fixed hourly rate or a lower hourly rate and a recurring retainer. I chose the second one. But even the fixed hourly pay was less than what I usually made as a model ($12-16/hour). I definitely didn”t do it for the money, and once I started working more as a repairman, I quit. If I had paid more I could have stayed.
Client background
The clients were different. Some, it turned out, were recruited only to hear women”s voices before orgasm. I think 40% of my calls were 30 second things from people who were having an orgasmic crisis. Some people are called upon to listen to specific story scenarios — mostly older girls, no girls with big breasts. Many people wanted to talk about vanilla (soft) sex. Many people have probably added 10 centimeters to their penis length.
Erotic magazines are all around us. We could turn to them for inspiration to more easily navigate the world of erotic fantasies. Women”s wrestling shoes, tights. But I think it was easier to let you call yourself and ask him basic questions. There were only two female clients at any given time. The first one was clearly uncomfortable and hung up after a minute or so. The second was clearly an older university student. It turned out that she was surrounded by other laughing girls. They asked me about my work: “Do you really get an orgasm from every phone call? Do you usually get them? How old are you really?” There were also four regular customers, all of whom were very interested in my work: “I”m a girl, I”m a girl, I”m a girl.” They talked to me about everything except sex, and then they did something, usually for about an hour. I don”t know if these people are that lonely, but they enjoyed talking to me and I helped them fill in the gaps in their lives. Almost every call ended with the caller having an orgasm and calling me. It’s unlikely that any of them would bother to say “thank you” to me. But I”m not offended, it”s funny.
Memories and side effects
Most memorable call? YES. There was a call that I had to stop because Cal Who started discussing something illegal. One person wanted me to play the role of a minor. One man wanted to talk about incest — I talked to the manager about it. I don”t know what they do in such cases, but I hope that they notified higher authorities. I almost quit and was very angry.
Oddly enough, this work did not affect my attitude towards men. I didn”t feel like a sex worker, I was just answering calls. Oh, and focus on the fact that the sex workers themselves are always serving their clients. I think because I was anonymous, I knew that clients would never hurt me or recognize me on the street. I was no different from an adult toy or an interactive website. I did what was acceptable, got paid and worked in comfort and security — I didn”t ask for more. Yes, and I managed to keep everything a secret from my friends, as others did. I would say that I work in a call center — I”m not a call center person, I work in a call center. Likewise, most of the time I didn”t talk about sex—the caller took over, I could fill in the blanks and be the nice, faceless presence on the other end of the line. Of course, if I were physically close to this person, things would be different. I”m definitely glad I had this experience. All the people in the office were friendly and helpful. Would you take it again? I don”t know if I would take it again. The salary was very small, so I could find another part of the job that would be more profitable. But if I had to, I would do it again.”
