When can you confess your love and save the relationship?
Love for all ages. But not at every moment. Under what circumstances is it inappropriate to talk about upcoming weddings and ideas about love?
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Test of time
Confess your love to your loved one with a warm “Me too!” – Is this a dream? Even the most cruel representatives of the male sex are distressed when they are close to their beloved women. And romantic girls simply squeal at the thought that their friends want a romantic meeting. But is haste appropriate in this matter?
Most people are not ready to open their souls to a stranger because they are already on their honeymoon in a month, without making extreme calculations a week after the acquaintances started living together.
From “I like you” to “I want you” and “I can’t live without you!” to “Let’s get married! My mom has already sent out invitations to our wedding!” Even the toughest tin soldier can be quite intimidating.
Marriage proposals, your boyfriend’s hints to see the wedding ring on his ring finger, a declaration of love – these phrases automatically take the relationship to a new level. However, if partners have not yet established a strong connection, intimacy based on a foundation + trust + desire to connect with this person, the relationship is at risk of conflict and subsequent breakups (and for some, broken hearts. (Add).
Usually, when “I love you” is appropriate, the girl and intuition feel it. Other couples even believe that the words in question are unnecessary and it is better to express their feelings with actions.
Marriage (on both sides) should be discussed when both partners begin to unobtrusively ask each other about their “future together.” You can unobtrusively ask your loved ones about a mutual friend’s decision to tie the knot. If your opponent is nervous and distrustful, it means he is not ready to listen to Mendelssohn’s waltz in his honor.
Witnesses to a crime
SO. We went through water, fire and copper pipes (cat repair/joint vacation/joint castration). You are absolutely strong in your desire to confess your love, propose, or ask him to free you from the battery. You are convinced that your relationship has stood the test of time. You are determined to say these words here and now.
Seriously, what do you have here? Of course, propose marriage in a subway car, jump out like the Eiffel Tower, have dinner in a restaurant, etc. But does a girl appreciate such extravagant gestures?
Well, we turned around. A self-respecting man is unlikely to propose to his beloved in a dirty cart under the (slightly clouded) gaze of local gopniks nearby.
No, more familiar places are still in the lead – parties, friends’ weddings, social events, etc.
It seems wonderful – the applause, the girlhood of the girls, the support of friends. However, there is one caveat.
Pressure of public opinion. Of course the girl loves you. But she wants a little more time to make such an important decision. Of course, if you’ve been together for ten years and you walk into a jewelry store at gunpoint with your wife, she doesn’t mind hearing important words at all. In all other cases, the girl’s answer can be influenced by the fiery eyes of those present, your mother’s tears of happiness and her reluctance to put you in an awkward position.
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Therefore, extravagant steps should be taken as carefully as possible. Only if we are talking about marriage or cohabitation. Be positive in your communication. And if your partner loves eccentric antics as much as you do.
Dangerous maneuver
Admitting feelings you don’t have is the worst thing you can do for the future of your relationship. It doesn’t matter whether “caring” friends and relatives are putting pressure on you or whether a flash mob of declarations of love and proposals has suddenly begun where you are “lucky” on earth. A very serious mistake – mediocre pity.
You should never confess your love to someone for whom you currently have no sympathy or only the slightest interest. There is no need to ask the woman with whom you sometimes intended to share your bed to become your wife.
And you don’t have to admit your feelings out of pity. Do you think it would be more cruel to dot the i’s without first giving false hope, or to first reassure the person and then tell him that you “led the devil astray”?
Your feelings are yours and only yours. Do not delegate the right to manage them to anyone.
How to maintain love and the feeling of flight?
Raising the temperature
How many stupid things have drunks said or done? When you’re barely standing (or leaning on a trusted friend), realize that it’s very difficult for you to control your words and actions. Roughly speaking, when you’re intoxicated by the sound of pigs squealing, your body switches to energy-saving mode to spare you unnecessary problems.
In other words, you’re switched off. You won’t do any more stupid things until you wake up and start thinking more clearly. Unless you ruin the carpet in the Savior’s apartment.
Otherwise, gather your wits together. If you really want to propose, do it sober. If a sudden inspiration hits you now, immediately slap yourself and walk away from your would-be wife.
Declarations of love are even more insidious. You don’t need a ring, a kneeling position, or a special setting like a Parisian panorama to passionately declare your passion.
Often, all it takes is an empty stomach and a few cocktails (or a dozen shots—it depends on your tolerance for ethyl alcohol). What’s the danger?
You’re pacing back and forth, and suddenly it turns out you’ve been dreaming about your secret love interest for the second night in the last two years. Everyone’s happy. Tequila has created a new couple.
Is that great? Hello!!! What are the likely consequences of such an event? Not really.
Don’t think of us as hopeless cynics or pessimists. But in most cases, confessions involving alcohol are forgotten (either by both parties, or only remembered by someone less intoxicated) or ruin friendships and create tension among colleagues and company. Friends. They’re often heartbreaking and leave you regretting the things you said while drunk. Not a great prospect, would you agree?
Now is the time
So when is the perfect time to acknowledge the importance of your loved one?
- When you’re close, strong, and trusting exclusively in the relationship. When you’re absolutely sure you want to sleep and wake up with this person. And they’re absolutely sure your desire is mutual.
- When you’re ready to be with this person, not just when they’re happy and well. But when they’re going through difficult times, they radiate negativity and desperately demand support and attention. When you’re comfortable talking and being silent with this person. (If this applies to your marriage)
- When you are calm, on your feet and firm in your decisions. When you are ready to accept both recognition and a decisive refusal to return, without creating illusions. (If we are talking about the perception of love).
If you still adhere to the principle that it is better to regret something you did than to regret something you did, we can only admire your courage and wish you one thing: say all the important words with a calm head. And if your ex confessed his love, but you don’t know how or how to respond, you should read the continuation in the next article here.
